kapitanklos Posted March 20, 2018 Share Posted March 20, 2018 Hello, I am 30 she is 26 Thank you in advance for responding/commenting. My ex and I got together a while back, she was so into me, literally great relationship at first and within months she was moving 100km, to a new job in order for us to live together in my city. Needleless to say this girl was really into me, constantly pursuing me and running after me. Then when we moved in together, a few bad things happened in my life which caused me to be dishonest with her and generally in a bad mood. at the same time, she quit her new job that she didn't like and really went close to depression. Eventually we grew a little apart, and fights bickering started I became needy , clingy, cried , asked her to stay..., to the point where she broke it off 2 months ago. Over these 2 months, I have been working on myself. Initially I tried the being needy and clingy approach which failed and really turned her off, but once I stopped and eventually gave up and just started living my own life, the texts from her started..."thinking of u" "miss you" "what are you up 2" and so on and so forth. After about a week of that, I decided to ask her out for supper to which she agreed. So last Thursday, we went out for supper, WOW what a surprise. I was being really cool and really demonstrating the better version of myself I became. Eventually into the date, she tried asking me if I was seeing anyone, to which I was honest but mysterious ( went on 1-2 dates). About 1hour into the date, as I am talking, she literally just grabbed me, hugged me, told me she really missed me and started crying ( at this point in my head I'm thinking jackpot) but I remain cool, I helped her wipe her tears... also have to mention that during the dates at 2-3 occasions she slipped and called me "babe" like back in the day. As we were about to leave, she asked me drive her back home and come in. Which I did, I saw our 2 cats, who were crazy happy to see you, and she said to them : look guys dads home!... after a few minutes, she told me, this is crazy u know I started seeing someone else, and I know you saw someone to ( as I told her 1-2 dates) yet here we are and its like if you never left.... I tried to get a bit of into about the guy she was seeing, to which she replied,... well its nothing serious... a few minutes later, I grabbed her hand and we started making out. When she mentioned the other dude, I said, well I guess your going to have to text him tomorrow and tell him your not so sure about him anymore ( to which she started laughing). We did not have sex but she said look if this is to happen it will happen with time.... so after such a great date, I left. she texted me: I wish I was sleeping next to you. Next day; Friday she started texting me first, sending me pics, asking about my weekend plans.... then from 7 pm to noon next day stopped replying ( I became needy and intense, I called her twice left a message told her I was worried about her and just wanted to know she was alright) where in reality, I was worried she was with the other dude. When she woke up sat morning, she just told me sorry she was sleeping , hungover cuz she had a work party the previous nite, and she sent me pics of her and our cats in our bed... we kept on texting that day about our plans, told her to text me after her supper (she was going to supper with her gf) maybe well see each other. at 11 pm she texted me, hey I'm back home, going to bed , don't feel to well hope your having agood night. Sunday morning, she texts me again 8:30 am sending me a pic from bed, saying hey I hope u had a nice evening. then at 12, she texted me a pic of us, and she said, you removed it from Instagram ( which I had cuz I didn't like the pic) I told her yes I removed it cuz I looked goofy but this has nothing to do what I think of u or us ( I know stupid mistake). I asked her to go to the st patties parade, and she said her mom was in town so they were going to shop together... around 5 pm, I figured she was done shopping and I called her twice. no answer , so I wrote : text me when ur moms gone :) ( I wanted to go out with her sunday night ) .... that's when I Received the bomb, she texted me : "you know, we saw each other once and it was a beautiful evening, but now all of a sudden its getting super intense ( I assume she means me being clingy and needy pursuing her constantly when I didn't get answers from her Saturday and sunday) and I don't want that. I took a decision to end our relationship and one evening hasent changed that, you understand? " I made up some excuse about wanting to come over to grab my soccer stuff and that why I was calling her. since then, sunday night , we are Tuesday afternoon , I have gotten no texts from her. I realize the mistake that I made, I rebecame clingy/needy. but I have a few questions, 1-what do you guys think about my date with her? she cried, she hugged me , she told me she missed me, she doesn't want me to see other girls, she called me babe, we made out, she told me she had been texting with my mom, does this mean she definitely still has strong feelings/emotions/love/interest for me? I cant imagine a girl acting that way and then not texting me for 2 days 2-did me being clingy / needy over the phone this weekend undo all the progress I made on what I would call a great first date? 3-the last text she sent me, is it essentially stop talking to me this is done for good? or is it lets just slow down a lil bit? 4- I know I cant chase her and scare her off, haven't messaged her since sunday night ( ideally I know it has to be her idea to initiate...) when do I keep not texting her until, until I fire out a casual text and ideally arrange a second meet up ? thanks so much guys,,, Darn I missed her. Link to comment
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