katrina1980 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 So I was outside taking a break and a guy who works down the hall and I started chatting. We have chatted before on breaks; I would consider him an “acquaintance.” When he sat down next to me, I was on my I-Pad reading ENA and his first words were, “anything interesting”? So I ended up telling him about what I was reading and boldly asked what he thought about male/female “friendships.” He told me he doesn’t believe in them. He knows they happen, but he said that for a man to want to be “friends” with a woman, there has to be an underlying element of something sexual happening, at least eventually -- that the “friendship” for the man isn’t completely genuine. He said any woman who believes her male “friends” don’t think about her sexually, she’s kidding herself. I don’t know how true this is for ALL men, but I have found this to be true for me as well. That whenever I’ve been “friends” with a man, he has always eventually wanted more, either to date me or at the very least have sex with me. And for me, after he expresses his interest, I am no longer comfortable being friends. Also, after I stop dating a man, I have in the past suggested that we be friends. They’re not interested, one man told me “I want to date you, I have enough friends.” The way he said it, his tone, it sounded like he was insulted by the suggestion! When I came back to my office, I asked my co-worker what SHE thought, and if she has friendships with men. She says she does and she knows for a fact they want to date her, or at the very least have sex with her, but it doesn’t bother her. A couple of them she has hooked up with in the past. She admitted she enjoys the attention she gets from these men, and that its (and I quote) “FUN!” I just read two different threads created by men who said they were “friends” with a particular girl, that they always liked her but something always prevented the friendship from becoming more, but then when the timing was better, it eventually did. So I wanted to start this thread to see what y’all think. I am particularly interested in how the men feel. Assuming a woman is attractive, are you able to be “just friends” with her without having any feelings (sexual or otherwise) for her other than friendship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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