AlexSays Posted December 15, 2017 Share Posted December 15, 2017 Hi, I am a 23yr old female and I’ve noticed I am a little different than most of my girl friends in the sense that while all of them are after some guy, wanting a real relationship with them with commitment and trust, I’m usually the one that wants to keep things with no strings attached while they want a relationship. With all my relationships I usually don’t even like them in the beginning and just force it because A) they’re a nice guy B) there’s another girl in the mix and I want to compete and the moment I win, I lose interest but still force a connection. Surprisingly enough this is how I had my first love (my ex) but even then I wanted to keep the relationship private and not boast about it, while he was the opposite and wanted to post it everywhere and “show me off”. Me and my ex got serious enough to the point of talking about moving in together and he got mad at me because I wanted separate rooms and each of us have our own. It’s been now 3 months since me and my ex broke up after a year of dating and I feel ready to start talking to other guys again. there is a new guy I am talking to. He is extremely nice and shows a LOT of effort and does things most don’t do anymore like get me flowers and write me poems and surprise dates and he’s very sweet. Unlike my friends, I’m the one that doesn’t seem to want the relationship or commitment because I love my freedom and doing my own thing and I am happy being single but this guy is so nice that yet again I feel myself forcing a connection. Part of me thinks since me and my ex started with me forcing a connection, I am hoping I’ll also fall in love with The new guy too since he’s a lot more compatible with me so why not give it a chance. It’s like they have to earn that spot of being my boyfriend. My ex courted me for 4 months (known each other for about 1yr before courting) before I said yes to being exclusive and public. And I feel like I NEED that whole being friends before dating experience with someone for them to even have a chance. Idk what’s wrong with me... I feel myself forcing a connection with this guy and I’m starting to get cold feet because he has started posting about me on his social media. Link to comment
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