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  1. Serious, question, with you knowing this, why did you tell her? What would have been a suitable reaction to her hearing this, had she been cold, would that have been more comfortable to you? Again Im not asking these questions in a judgemental way, I get the flip flopping, you want her to care but when she does it scares you, what would the ideal solution to all this be in your mind.
  2. I noticed that as well, interesting for sure, I wonder the psychological reasons, but am honestly too emotionally tired to devote any energy to it
  3. Im so sorry youre feelings this way. I realize the burden of everything is overwhelming for you. you have two choices, you can reach out for help from your family and get the porper medication for your BPD among other things so you can surround yourself with people who wont make you feel this way or you can continue to feel alone.
  4. In regards to your medication if we’re talking the time span of months, you typically need to be on them for a bit longer to know your body’s real reaction, if they were too strong and numbed you, you should have been asked about that by your Dr. in your follow up appt. and at that point your Dr. would have made a decision and I most certainly do not believe their decision would be to stop cold turkey. There’s a lot to unpack with your story in its entirety, I know you feel hopeless and are looking for some reprieve unfortunately it’s a marathon not a sprint. Have you considered starting therapy? You have been through quite a bit recently. I also hope as you’ve been advised multiple times you try to rebuild your relationship with your daughter. At the end of the day when the dust settles and the pain subsides you do t want your relationship ship with her to be collateral damage.
  5. You leave. You are not powerless and unless he is a super villain no court is going to snatch children away from their mother for no reason, nor will they take a fathers rights away for no reason. They will punish right fighting though. Sometimes you have to know when to throw in the towel and work towards a solution. Coparenting sounds like the only option going forward so start the divorce proceedings, get with a mediator ( custody cases aren’t like on TV if the parents are in disagreement they will try their best to do anything they can to avoid an actual court battle) get a custody plan and start to recover and be happy. Unless you’re just venting. Which vent away, but at the end of the day you are not forced to stay you are choosing to.
  6. First off so sorry. Second yes it’s taking a huge risk, we are all vulnerable with this pandemic going on, emotions are high
  7. Dont put this all on her. Theres enough written at this point to see how very much of a player in all this you are. Look at your other response: The highs the lows, the back and forth of who has the power, this is your jam, for the last 5 years, this has been your choice all along. You werent shocked when she came back and you wont be shocked when she comes back again, feeling as if you would is all part of it, again the highs and lows, all very predictable and if you were healthy you wouldnt have stayed on the merry go round for 5 years so its time to start recognizing your role and maybe its time to see someone.
  8. Let this sink in, he cheated on his wife, his life partner, and apparently still had time to have a female best friend he spoke to every single day, again let that sink in, and then when sh*t hits the fan he takes the moral high ground... let let that simmer...
  9. FaceTime phone calls texts to say you’re thinking of eachother. We live in the perfect time for something like this to happen because we have so very many ways to stay in touch when we can’t be in person. I think everything will be fine, don’t stress.
  10. Exactly. To feed your nearly suicidal thoughts over a guy that you did break up with is very dangerous. You broke up with him. You spoke of another guy you were going to meet the same day you found out about your exes death so you either had an incredibly open relationship or you were broken up. You stated you suffer from bipolar disorder and you also stated you have never had a good relationship, I think all that combined with what’s going on globally is really doing a number on your mental psyche right now. Please see someone. I’m not saying this with malice or judgement, I have my demons too, what I am saying is you were not with this man. Period. That is why you found out how you did. Please see someone to help you unpack everything you’re going through. I wish you luck.
  11. Ok breathe. I am so sorry, please try to keep things in perspective to keep yourself sane and even keeled and please please please if you are feeling suicidal see someone ASAP. What I mean by perspective is you mentioned this was the guy who was the workaholic. As much as you liked him you two broke up because you were deeply incompatible, you can care deeply for someone but recognize they aren’t for you, and it appears that’s what happened here, to now refer to him as your boyfriend and love of your life, may be this event is triggering something deeper in you. To avoid a dangerous spiral I think it would be wise to speak to someone. Grief is a complex thing and doesn’t always make sense and it can manifest itself in many ways, you are grieving something but is it what was? I’m so sorry again and I wish you luck through your journey, maybe consider journaling here, it has helped many people.
  12. This type of thing is typically ironed out in your divorce decree or if you weren’t married your child support order, in a way you are I correct by saying you ‘can’t believe’ she did that as being the primary caregiver (in assuming) she is the one expected to file them as her dependents, in fact even if you regularly pay child support if there is a deal where you say switch off on who gets to claim who each year she’d still have to sign off on a a legal tax form each time you did, there’s a reason why the question specifically asks who the child resided with for the year and who was financially responsible. It really doesn’t sound like you two ironed out all these details, it may be time. If you are contributing 50% to their upbringing you’re entitled to the deduction.
  13. What? If she’s handling the mail she’s already exposing herself, she can drop the parcel down in your hands without even touching you. Sorry that stinks
  14. I just paid 23 bucks for a 24 pack of Kleenex cotonelle toilet paper. I use common folk tissue not the frou frou crap but it was all I could find. Its still on sale online at office depot of all places, 20% off purchase too if you qualify. (holy sh*t, I went to go grab the link and its ALREADY sold out, it couldn't have been more than 15 minutes...people are quick...)
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