DannyCC Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 My relationship with the most wonderful woman in the world ended two months ago. We got together over 10 years ago. We were both married at the time but each of us in very unhappy relationships. Although it was a physical relationship we both loved each other very much but did not consider leaving because of our children. We did plan to be together at some point. Her husband died a few years ago after illness and after a couple of years she really wanted me to leave my wife to be with her. I stalled for a long time both due my children , now getting older and also due to financial constraints. Nothing to do with my wife with whom I have a business only type relationship. I longed to be with this woman and have never been with any other woman intimately since meeting her. I know that we both loved each other and I got to spend time with her and her children over recent years (I won't explain how just now) and we were all so happy around each other. However she needed a permanent man in her life and told me she wanted to find someone if I wasn't able to be with her. It gutted me but she went on a few dates and I was hoping she wouldn't find the guy to replace me until I was able to be with her when I had a plan to sort out myself financially. Anyway what finally happened has broken my heart and mostly because I'm confused about what went on. She gave me a deadline to do something a couple of months ago which was fine because I knew I had to jump at some point. But then she told me that if I didn't meet the deadline that there was someone who she had been in touch with for some time who lived abroad and who was going to be visiting the following week and she planned to meet him. That was so counter productive as I felt putting pressure on me like that just added to my stress about splitting up my family which I knew I had to do for my happiness. I also felt that I could never do that to her. I never wanted anyone else and couldn't contemplate being with any other woman while I loved her. Anyway I didn't do anything by the deadline and soon after she blocked contact with me as she had said she would do. That annoyed me rather than talk to me where I would have clarified how I felt about the other chap she had mentioned. Anyway two weeks later I visited her wanting to know what was happening and found out she had met this chap from abroad once and really liked him and was planning to meet again a few days later. She seemed a bit taken up by him and tbh didn't seem interested in what my plans were any more. The rest is history. In the last couple of months i know already they have been away for weekends together and are sleeping together. I met her a couple of weeks ago and she told me it was over with her and I. I accept a lot of the blame for what happened but I am broken hearted and gutted that she was sleeping with this chap when they can get together as he lives abroad and it's like I never existed. She broke up with me just over two months ago and I fear she is planning a future with this chap. I know she needs someone in her life not someone part time like I was. We were not just lovers however but soulmates as well for years going through many issues together. Two months ago she loved me as I did her but today with this chap around it's like I never existed. As I said the hardest part is how she can just wipe me from her mind without any grieving for me. Whereas for me it's worse than if she died as I also feel the loss of the love she had for me as well as her presence. I'm finding it hard to cope with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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