pippy longstocking Posted August 1, 2015 Share Posted August 1, 2015 "Another study (link is external) involving students who sought to go without media for 24 hours recorded their reactions to this, and included such feelings as: fretful, confused, anxious, irritable, insecure, nervous, restless, crazy, addicted, panicked, jealous, angry, lonely, dependent, depressed, jittery and paranoid. But near-constant engagement with social media can also have a negative impact. Facebook and Twitter can be time sinks at work and at home. They can make us less productive, but more importantly time spent on our social networks can actually undermine our flesh and blood social lives. " From: link removed shocking , just shocking . Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted August 1, 2015 Share Posted August 1, 2015 Don't know, but I do know that being kind, patient, intelligent, clever, "cool", "chill", loving, interesting, educated, funny, playful etc.....aren't generally enough to capture or maintain a woman's interest. It's almost funny that something as simple as social media seems like it's a bigger negative than even the combination of the above is a positive. Dude, you are going after the wrong women if that's what you think. Or maybe you live in the wrong place. And I say that because when I lived in L.A. I felt that way and was pretty invisible once I passed my "oh, you look like a young X, Y, X, what films/tv shows have you done?" expiration date. Of coure the reply," None, I'm not an actress" would usually kill interest anyways. Moved to New Mexico and suddenly I was the belle of the ball, because my looks stand out there more and I was the new girl in a fairly small community with a lot of single manly men. Plus I'm going to be blunt it takes some serious time and leg work usually to find a good one through all of the close, close enough, not even in the running categories of people you will encounter in life. Keep looking, keep being yourself. At the end of the day it's all you can do. And as everyone gets older and the whole "Now we're supposed to's" fade away I found that people valued individuality more. Or maybe it's just that I stopped caring. Not sure which. But should you try to be like everything modern media says you should be? Please don't. And Sportster2005, don't even get me started on hipsters. Link to comment
boyblue Posted August 2, 2015 Share Posted August 2, 2015 Ladies, Would you date a guy who didn't use Facebook at all? Is that now another tick box for women? Link to comment
SoulTaker Posted August 2, 2015 Share Posted August 2, 2015 I would think that most women would be thrilled to have their bf not on Facebook. One less avenue for his "ex-gfs" to contact him, especially ones who he hasn't seen in years, and no longer have his number. Link to comment
TMifune Posted August 3, 2015 Author Share Posted August 3, 2015 Well, I say that mostly through the lens of my ex who claims I'm all those things, but "something was missing". I know that's her issue, but it sure does leave you looking around asking yourself what the heck you were missing and how to get some of it. Link to comment
TMifune Posted August 3, 2015 Author Share Posted August 3, 2015 Is that now another tick box for women? I don't think it's a tick box really. I only asked because the lack of it seems like something a woman might notice. That and I think someone people need the validation they get from plastering how "happy" they are all over Facebook to their "friends". Link to comment
Batya33 Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 I don't think it's a tick box really. I only asked because the lack of it seems like something a woman might notice. That and I think someone people need the validation they get from plastering how "happy" they are all over Facebook to their "friends". But that's only one of many uses of Facebook. I use it to network and as another way of keeping in touch with people. I've made my own posts three times in over 7 years and posted a photo (from a newspaper I was in with my son) only once. I can't relate to using Facebook for the type of validation you mention. Link to comment
meozorchild Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 Well, I say that mostly through the lens of my ex who claims I'm all those things, but "something was missing". I know that's her issue, but it sure does leave you looking around asking yourself what the heck you were missing and how to get some of it. You think what was missing was your Facebook page? Nah, man. When a woman (or man) says things like "something is missing," It's usually a roundabout way of saying "I don't dig you anymore." There are various reasons why that may be, and some of those could be their own personality issues, but man, you are over-analyzing if you think it has anything to do with not having a Facebook. Link to comment
TMifune Posted August 4, 2015 Author Share Posted August 4, 2015 But that's only one of many uses of Facebook. I use it to network and as another way of keeping in touch with people. I've made my own posts three times in over 7 years and posted a photo (from a newspaper I was in with my son) only once. I can't relate to using Facebook for the type of validation you mention. Which probably means you're a much healthier individual than the people to whom I refer! Link to comment
PH Suite Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 Ladies, Would you date a guy who didn't use Facebook at all? When I tell people I'm not on FB their instant reaction is "never join!...don't do it!!" They're like junkies telling me not to stick the needle in my arm. Then their next sentence is an excuse why they use it, and their third is expressing they wish they could use it less or quit. Some women suspect it's a red flag I'm not on it.. Quality women get turned-on by the fact. Link to comment
notalady Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 It's neither a positive or negative, it shouldn't be relevant in one's consideration of dating someone. Some people like to use it, some don't. Some people like bacon, some don't (although I don't know who these people are), it doesn't mean anything in the dating context. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 It's neither a positive or negative, it shouldn't be relevant in one's consideration of dating someone. Some people like to use it, some don't. Some people like bacon, some don't (although I don't know who these people are), it doesn't mean anything in the dating context. not liking bacon is complete insanity Link to comment
notalady Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 not liking bacon is complete insanity Yes and a total deal breaker. Damn it what was my point again? Link to comment
Patrick974 Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 not liking bacon is complete insanity Tell that to my friend Khalid. Link to comment
John John Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 When I tell people I'm not on FB their instant reaction is "never join!...don't do it!!" They're like junkies telling me not to stick the needle in my arm. Then their next sentence is an excuse why they use it, and their third is expressing they wish they could use it less or quit. Some women suspect it's a red flag I'm not on it.. Quality women get turned-on by the fact. It's just a sign of the times that this is even a topic. I'm not currently active on FB (could reactive it if I want, have no desire to). If a woman finds this a deal breaker, it would just be hilarious to me lol Link to comment
PH Suite Posted August 5, 2015 Share Posted August 5, 2015 It's just a sign of the times that this is even a topic. I'm not currently active on FB (could reactive it if I want, have no desire to). If a woman finds this a deal breaker, it would just be hilarious to me lol I think so too. They can't conceive of someone not on "social" media, so they presume I'm lying or have something to hide. The irony is that if they "Googled" me they'd find far more than you would on most people. It doesn't get that far though because I've no interest in someone with their worldview, even though I can understand where they're coming from. They dated some guy who said the same thing to hide the fact he was married. Typical type that tries to view you through the sins of their exes, and tries to make you pay for those sins. No thanks. Instant kibosh. Link to comment
Camber 2019 Posted April 20, 2019 Share Posted April 20, 2019 Hey Portage... you still around? Link to comment
Kadbanoo Posted April 20, 2019 Share Posted April 20, 2019 Gosh, I saw M Howe as the first responder in this post and thought she was back! (then caught it was 2015). I suppose that's a post for another section, but I always wondered what happened to her. Link to comment
RainyCoast Posted April 20, 2019 Share Posted April 20, 2019 Gosh, I saw M Howe as the first responder in this post and thought she was back! (then caught it was 2015). I suppose that's a post for another section, but I always wondered what happened to her. I saw your reply to this thread and though TMifune was back lol!!! I miss them both so much! Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 20, 2019 Share Posted April 20, 2019 Yeah, people keep reviving these old threads. Link to comment
RainyCoast Posted April 20, 2019 Share Posted April 20, 2019 I'm hoping that mhowe and tmifune and the rest of the old crowd still sometimes sneak a peek at ena and see we're still thinking about them. Even if they don't feel like coming back, but just to know they're in our thoughts. Link to comment
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