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ParisPaulette last won the day on April 3 2014

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  1. If he was mean to you who cares what else he may or may not have felt towards anyone else. From your description of the guy the only one he seems to truly love is himself. He enjoys lots of female attention and Amy was only one more page in that book, but as far as anything else goes she just probably got more air time with him, because she played along. Right now block and delete him, therapy is an excellent road to take to find out why you'd stay with someone who was horrible to you, and heal. Learn to pay attention to red flags at the first sign and not the thousandth one. Not judging, b
  2. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzNRl6emK90&list=RDyZIummTz9mM&index=14
  3. I'm glad to leave 2017 behind. Ironic a favorite band would lose one of its own, a favorite singer of mine and his songs would be the ones I play when I think about my mother. RIP, may you both find peace and happiness wherever you are.
  4. The only advice I can give you is if you have to act like their mother trying to keep them from going to a party or hanging out with bad friends then you should dump them and find someone you don't have to do that with. This is so toxic. Yeah, he's probably cheating, and you are nagging and treating him like a jailer instead of being the woman who has so much going on her life that he and you understand there are plenty of other people out there to provide what he won't, if he wants to go that route. it's time to take the focus off of him completely, find something you always wanted to d
  5. Ghost ONLY if things seem weird or way off or they are sending up red flags of a serious nature. Otherwise, a simple text, "I don't see this going anywhere, thanks. Good luck in your endeavors" is fine. Then blocking and deleting and moving on is the way to go. I think it's a waste of time to draw it out and let the person "argue" their point or keep trying beyond the point where you know you aren't interested. No is a complete sentence and it should be said more often. That said sometimes abusive or people with serious red flags can turn violent if they are told no, so for safety's sake if an
  6. A single text, not a biggie. But this guy has serious red flags of the "my ex is crazy" "can I borrow your car" "I am going to pull our kids into this as quickly as possible to make you feel closer to me" "I need a favor" etc. etc. And the minute someone trots out "peace bond" and it's all just a giant ol' misunderstanding - or anything to do with court cases ongoing - it's time to bounce, OP. Also, this woman frankly didn't sound like someone who typically wants to chase off competition. They will usually be a whole lot more nasty and vitirolic and accuse the guy of cheating or insult you
  7. All the thing aside about "is he still in love with his ex-girlfriend" I see two major red flags with this guy. a) He is jealous and controlling of you and accuses you of things, which you haven't done - either from a guilty conscience or emotional/mental issues of being a controlling person with potentially worse behaviors on the way (Neither of these scenarios is a good thing BTW) AND b) he is obsessively trying to track down and monitor women that were in his life on a repeated, even obsessive degree. I mean, yeah I'm pretty sure most of the planet looks at their exes social media occasiona
  8. So you called your ex out for lining up another woman and paying so much attention to her while hiding it from you. Of course he left, he was already looking for an excuse and feeding her the narrative that you are the problem. And probably this is not the first time this guy has done this, either to you or relationships before you. I know it hurts right now, but you just dodged a massive cheating bullet. And you need to remember that when he comes crawling back after he finds out that pursuing someone who would cheat on her boyfriend with his friend isn't going to be someone who will be a
  9. Subliminal hell, he out and out asked. Meme or not, yeah he was fishing all right. He's definitely a candidate for the CreepyPMs forum on another popular forum that I've seen. Also, gross. Block and delete, he hit that backpedal cycle fast to try and cover up his faux pas, but more are on the way if you keep in contact. This guy is looking for "fun" which is fine, but asking someone to expose themselves with no regard for a person's privacy or how those photos could be misused by a near stranger is not something I think is okay to do. Regardless.
  10. Well, I think you have your answer. You cut out the sex, he's no longer interested although he says just enough to make you "hope" he wasn't just interested in sex and nothing else. If you want a booty call he's there, cool. If you want more I'd look elsewhere. He doesn't want to spend time with you unless sex is involved, so what's the point? You can't make someone want to be with you in any way they don't want to be and as long as you keep hoping he'll somehow magically change to what you want, you are that much further from finding someone who would really want to be with you.
  11. In the midst of all this back and forth over whether snooping is okay or not, OP, one thing stands out to me. You are with a man whose character and morals are such that he thought nothing of sexting a married coworker. Let that sink in. His ranting about you snooping being as bad as an "affair" is pure psychological projection on his part as he is or has been having an affair or at the very least (yeah, like there's any least in that) he's been leaning awfully, awfully strong towards an affair with her. DTMFA and accept that when you snoop and you find out your partner has no bounda
  12. You need to put the brakes on this fast. As in telling him, "Look, this is starting to walk to territory I'm not okay with. I am going back to being professional and a coworker only, you need to do the same. I will not change my mind and I expect you to respect my wishes about that." Then you block and delete him in all but office and work-related ways, treat him like a coworker, and if he persists go to HR and file a complaint. Also get the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker and read it, so you understand you need to be very clear in your "no" to this guy and expect him to respect
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