Girlfriend going to a "sex toy party"..

[paintedblue]

I dont know how to feel..or fully what it is..i didnt wanna hear it at first..but what I gather is ..girls gather..try out sex toys? I mean I dont know if its literally try them or just turn them on..like a friggin tupperware party for sex toys? Bleh..it bothers me and im insulted by it..anyone help me out here?

[Ms Darcy]

Someone is probably showing them toys and offering to sell them to the group. Why are you insulted and bothered?

[paintedblue]

I feel insulted that she would need them I guess. Its just weird to me and gives me such an uncomrtable feeling

[LanceVanceDance]

Someone shows them toys, they go to the bathroom to try them (yes), and then come back to try another, and so on. Afterwards they decide whether they want to buy one.

 

I like my girls to have some class and sexual privacy, so I would not tolerate my girlfriend going to such a party (or rather I would tolerate it, but then she can consider herself single). That's me. Other couples would not be bothered by it and that's okay with me. Just not my thing at all, so I know what you mean.

[KG]

She will be shopping for both of you. Look forward to the surprise. We use them together, it's quite nice.

[LightbulbSun]

Err, your girlfriend is going to a 'sex toy party' to spice things up in the bedroom, and you're offended?

 

Feel yourself lucky, dude. She's going to be giving you a surprise.

[Papillion]

i think these parties are absolutely revolting.

 

i wouldnt want to be with someone who went to one of these parties.

[Ms Darcy]

Someone shows them toys, they go to the bathroom to try them (yes), and then come back to try another, and so on. Afterwards they decide whether they want to buy one.

 

I like my girls to have some class and sexual privacy, so I would not tolerate my girlfriend going to such a party (or rather I would tolerate it, but then she can consider herself single). That's me. Other couples would not be bothered by it and that's okay with me. Just not my thing at all, so I know what you mean.

 

I have been to two and I have never seen anyone go to the bathroom and 'try them.' Just like in an adult store, people buy without using them. To each his own, but going to a party does not indicate a lack of class in the least. It shows that she is interested in pleasuring herself. Many couples use those toys together as well.

[Ms Darcy]

I feel insulted that she would need them I guess. Its just weird to me and gives me such an uncomrtable feeling

 

You are uncomfortable with the idea that she would use toys? Do you ever masturbate when she is not around?

[LanceVanceDance]

I have had some female friends (just friends... I don't care what they do, so what I said only applied to girlfriends) who went to such parties and I assure you that some of them involve trying the toys.

[rachinohio]

Someone shows them toys, they go to the bathroom to try them (yes), and then come back to try another, and so on. Afterwards they decide whether they want to buy one.

 

I like my girls to have some class and sexual privacy, so I would not tolerate my girlfriend going to such a party (or rather I would tolerate it, but then she can consider herself single). That's me. Other couples would not be bothered by it and that's okay with me. Just not my thing at all, so I know what you mean.

 

I used to host sex toy parties and I can assure you that no one goes to the restroom to try them out at any of the one's that I have hosted or been to.

 

You should be proud that your girlfriend is comfortable enough in her sexuality to want to spice up your bedroom activities. There are lot's of different products to use, such as tasty lubes, edible undies, sexy outfits and yes even toys that can be used for both of you. Do you not ever masturbate when your alone? Maybe she just can't use her fingers and be okay? Sex is a wonderful thing together and alone. Don't judge her until you see what benefits that you both may get from the party..

[RedDress]

I have had some female friends (just friends... I don't care what they do, so what I said only applied to girlfriends) who went to such parties and I assure you that some of them involve trying the toys.

 

This would be INCREDIBLY unhygenic.

 

I have also been to these parties and they in NO way involved trying them out. Yes - it's very much like a Tupperware party. You turn them on, you look at them, you joke, you drink tea... that's it.

 

Lance - I think your girlfriends were pulling your leg. There's NO way I'd go to an STD party like that (you could TOTALLY catch an STD doing that!

[tinkerbellkj]

I have never heard of anyone being able to "try them" either. The closest thing you will get to "trying them" is flipping the switch on/off if there is one. I have been to one as well, I don't see it any different from a lingerie party. I don't think it's that big a deal. But again, to each their own.

[ketaro]

You need to tell her how you feel about this tarded "sex toy party". If she truly wanted to spicy things up in the relationship she wouldn't be wanting to take part in it. Instead, she would ask you what you would want her to do or suggest what you two as a couple could do to spicy things up.

[LanceVanceDance]

I didn't say different girls tried the same toy.

[LanceVanceDance]

You need to tell her how you feel about this tarded "sex toy party". If she truly wanted to spicy things up in the relationship she wouldn't be wanting to take part in it. Instead, she would ask you what you would want her to do or suggest what you two as a couple could do to spicy things up.

 

I agree. If she wants a sex toy to spice things up, she'd go to a shop with YOU.

[Papillion]

You need to tell her how you feel about this tarded "sex toy party". If she truly wanted to spicy things up in the relationship she wouldn't be wanting to take part in it. Instead, she would ask you what you would want her to do or suggest what you two as a couple could do to spicy things up.

 

Yep. What he said ^^^

 

I agree with this 100%.

[OptomisticGirl]

I'm sorry but if you feel immasculated by a toy that vibrates, maybe you don't need to be a in a relationship. I'm more than sure you still masturbate when she's not around, correct? Nothing wrong with her wanting to get a toy for her personal pleasure or to bring into the bedroom with you.

[diamond78]

Wow, it's amazing how the men here have no idea what goes on that these parties.

 

These parties are a celebration of singlehood and relationships. Most of the people that go to these parties are females in realtionships looking to add more spice with their partner.

 

You do not use the items while at the party unless it's lotions, massage oils, or perfumes. I have never been to any 'fun' party where people tried out the toys. That is disgusting and extremely unsanitary!!

 

The hostess describes each product and passes it around the room for everyone to view and get a feel of. They provide anything from sex toys, lotions, massage oils, clothing, etc.

 

They also have games and food.

 

At the end of the night, each female goes to a room privately with the hostess and orders whatever products she is interested. And you don't have to buy a thing.

 

It is really no big deal...nor is it unclassy.

[LanceVanceDance]

It is really no big deal...nor is it unclassy.

 

Class is a subjective thing.

[OptomisticGirl]

Class is a subjective thing.

 

So is it classy for a man to continue to still use his hand while in a relationship?

[ketaro]

I'm sorry but if you feel immasculated by a toy that vibrates, maybe you don't need to be a in a relationship. I'm more than sure you still masturbate when she's not around, correct? Nothing wrong with her wanting to get a toy for her personal pleasure or to bring into the bedroom with you.

I think you don't see the point the guy is making. He is insulted not because she wants a toy, but because she wants to take part in a sex toy party something that he sees as an insult. If she wanted a toy she could buy it on her own or invite him to go look for one.

 

facepalm.

[orchidrose]

Wow, really shocked at all of the hostility here.

 

First of all, we have no background on how this girl ended up being invited to this party. In my experience, they are almost always girls-only, and hosted by a girl either to benefit a cause or just as a fun girl's event. So it's likely that she was invited by a girl friend and it's supposed to be a girls-only night in. This could have absolutely nothing to do with her wanting to spice up their sex life or not.

 

Secondly, she has the right and ability to make her own decisions for her sex life. If she wants to buy a new toy to masturbate with, that's her prerogative, just like her boyfriend would be entitled to buy a new kind of lube or toy for masturbation. I'm really kind of taken aback by the people who are implying that this girl thinks less of her relationship or of her boyfriend's sexual pleasure because she might want to buy a new sex toy. What exactly is so threatening about her maybe wanting to purchase a new toy for her - or their - sexual pleasure? And yes, she could go and buy something for their use as a couple. I've gone to sex toy shops more than once with friends and come back with something for a partner and I to try.

[diamond78]

I didn't say different girls tried the same toy.

 

They only ever provide one model for viewing of each toy they are illustrating to the attendees....

[Cheeks18]

Wow I am totally shocked by some of the guys responses to this.....There is no reason to be offended at all. Guys that responded negatively, your saying you dont masterbate?? And you dont use lotions, lube to enhance it?? or watch porn to enhance it??? In my opinion thats just selfish, I'd way rather have my GF play with a dildo or vibrator when Im not around instead of having some guy come over and cheat.

 

Tell your Girlfriend to have a good time and pick something out for the both of you, Im sure she would appreciate it!!