Girlfriend going to a "sex toy party"..

[tinkerbellkj]

I'm sorry but if you feel immasculated by a toy that vibrates, maybe you don't need to be a in a relationship. I'm more than sure you still masturbate when she's not around, correct? Nothing wrong with her wanting to get a toy for her personal pleasure or to bring into the bedroom with you.

 

I agree with this 100%! I highly doubt that the OP does not masturbate when she is not around. I don't think there's anything wrong with her wanting to go and buy or maybe she just wants to spend time with her friends and have some laughs. My husband would encourage me to go to a party like this, even if it was just to hang out with my girl friends.

[OptomisticGirl]

I think you don't see the point the guy is making. He is insulted not because she wants a toy, but because she wants to take part in a sex toy party something that he sees as an insult. If she wanted a toy she could buy it on her own or invite him to go look for one.

 

facepalm.

 

She could also not have every bought one and want INPUT on one. I see no difference in going and buying one on her own and being around a bunch of friends who are getting informed information on toys. None at all. The party is not something where every girl trys the bloody equipment out, it's literally like a tubaware party. They look, they know what they do, and they either buy them or not. *shocked face* Same concept as you do in a store, only it's more fun!

[diamond78]

Class is a subjective thing.

 

If you have never been to one then you have no idea what you are upset about or deemed to label as unclassy.

[LanceVanceDance]

So is it classy for a man to continue to still use his hand while in a relationship?

 

ketaro (below your post) said it all.

 

It's not about masturbating, it's about the party itself.

[ketaro]

She could also not have every bought one and want INPUT on one. I see no difference in going and buying one on her own and being around a bunch of friends who are getting informed information on toys. None at all. The party is not something where every girl trys the bloody equipment out, it's literally like a tubaware party. They look, they know what they do, and they either buy them or not. *shocked face* Same concept as you do in a store, only it's more fun!

lmao, then they should call it shopping sex toy spree instead.

[diamond78]

I think you don't see the point the guy is making. He is insulted not because she wants a toy, but because she wants to take part in a sex toy party something that he sees as an insult. If she wanted a toy she could buy it on her own or invite him to go look for one.

 

facepalm.

 

 

A sex toy party is the same as her going to visit an adult store to purchase a toy...the only difference here is that the store is literally brought to her and shown amongst a group of people/friends.

 

What do you think is really going on at these parties???

[OptomisticGirl]

ketaro (below your post) said it all.

 

It's not about masturbating, it's about the party itself.

 

I still don't understand what is wrong with the party concept? It's a bunch of friends having fun, same as guys going to a strip club.

[jenny_mcs]

Seriously. There is some majot insecurity going on in some of these replies. Are some of you really so intimidated by your girlfriend buying a new vibrator? I don't get it.

 

And to the poster who claims that people will go into the bathroom and "try" different toys---um...no. I think your friends that told you that were kidding with you. That's' not what happens.

[LanceVanceDance]

A sex toy party is the same as her going to visit an adult store to purchase a toy...the only difference here is that (...)

 

The only difference is that it is a private thing and her man is not with her to do something so private. But like I said - to each his own.

[diamond78]

OH! They also have many items for men and couples...not just female items.

[OptomisticGirl]

lmao, then they should call it shopping sex toy spree instead.

 

And tubaware parties should be called a plastic shopping spree. The name has nothing to do with it. If someone is uncomfortable with a sex toy party,in which nothing bad happens at ALL compared to some bachelor parties and strip clubs, well... I think it says a lot.

[LanceVanceDance]

I still don't understand what is wrong with the party concept? It's a bunch of friends having fun, same as guys going to a strip club.

 

And I don't go to strip clubs.

 

Are you now going to say that going to strip clubs is classy?

[tinkerbellkj]

I still don't understand what is wrong with the party concept? It's a bunch of friends having fun, same as guys going to a strip club.

 

I think it's probably even more tame than that, OG! I have seen wayyyy more scandalous things happen at a regular bar than at a sex toy party!

[Cheeks18]

ketaro (below your post) said it all.

 

It's not about masturbating, it's about the party itself.

 

I'd be more concerned with a regular party out with drinking and other men then a sex toy party with a bunch of girlfrlends and dildo's.....Seems to be like a good time for women??NO?

[OptomisticGirl]

The only difference is that it is a private thing and her man is not with her to do something so private. But like I said - to each his own.

 

I would not feel comfortable with my fiance with me while shpping for a toy and he uses mine on me! In the end it's still her toy. If he's uncomfrtable with the party how is he going to fill standing in a shop with 8 inch vibrators??

[Sparkly Eyes]

Yeah, it would be the end of my relationship with a guy if he objected to me going to such a party.

[diamond78]

The only difference is that it is a private thing and her man is not with her to do something so private. But like I said - to each his own.

 

The only point of a woman in a relationship going is usually to bring something back for her and her partner. I think if you actually went to one your reaction would be "That's what all the fuss was about??"

 

Would you be this upset if she ventured into a store on her own and picked something up for herself or you both? If so, this is way deeper than a party.

[OptomisticGirl]

And I don't go to strip clubs.

 

Are you now going to say that going to strip clubs is classy?

 

More horrible things happen at strip clubs than at a sex toy party. Every one I have been too nothing has happened.

[paintedblue]

You are uncomfortable with the idea that she would use toys? Do you ever masturbate when she is not around?

 

no i dont actually..maybe im riduclous i cant change how i feel..im trying

[ketaro]

And tubaware parties should be called a plastic shopping spree. The name has nothing to do with it. If someone is uncomfortable with a sex toy party,in which nothing bad happens at ALL compared to some bachelor parties and strip clubs, well... I think it says a lot.

Honestly though, i think they both need to talk and see what boundaries this sex toy party violates and perhaps come up with a compromise.

[diamond78]

I think it's probably even more tame than that, OG! I have seen wayyyy more scandalous things happen at a regular bar than at a sex toy party!

 

I agree it is nothing like a strip club or a bachelor party.

[OptomisticGirl]

Honestly though, i think they both need to talk and see what boundaries this sex toy party violates and perhaps come up with a compromise.

 

It SHOULDN'T violate any boundaries because all it is a shopping thing. If it crosses a boundary for him then yes, it goes deeper than the party.

[-Sanguine-]

Sex toy parties are meant to be fun. I don't see the big deal. If you feel less of a man because of a toy, then you have other insecurity issues to work on, I'm afraid. My ex encouraged me to buy and use one and we used it together and it was fun. It is essentially a good thing for a relationship if you are comfortable enough to do that with your partner. These are my thoughts anyway.

 

Perhaps talk to her and tell her you feel uncomfortable and maybe you two can work something out.

[DN]

How does she feel about you using porn? (if you do)

[tinkerbellkj]

I agree. I'm not sure what boundaries it violates? If he's concerned about his girlfriend discussing their sex life, I'd bet my pay check that it happens anyway, and that she does NOT need a sex toy party to bring that up.