Is it wrong to lose your virginity to a prostitute?

[Fudgie]

It doesn't have to be a big deal unless you make it one. so stop making it a big deal.

 

You think it's a big deal isn't helping anything and you're just obsessing over it and getting sad. It's not helping your cause here.

 

You need to concentrate on other things in your life. A relationship, while not the most important thing in the world, is what you need to concentrate on getting, not the physical stuff. Unless you hire a hooker, no girl is just going to waltz up and do all those things with you without being in the context of dating/relationship/or even fb.

[shygal2008]

Aren't there agencies you can go to, like escort services..call girls who actually look decent and hopefully not abused or forced into it..i have seen that on tv..it looks expensive to get on eof those girls though.

 

 

I SAY THIS BCUZ I CAN SEE A MAN IN HIS 30'S POSSIBLY 40'S JUST NEEDING TO GET A PHYSICAL RELEASE AND NOT OBSESS ON ''LOSING IT'' FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES..ONE LESS THING TO BE SAD OVER IT MAY ACTUALLY HELP THEIR SITUATION..EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY AND GIVE THEM SOME CONFIDENCE NOT TO MENTION EXPERIENCE. JUST BE SAFE DOING IT.

 

I WOULDN'T GET SOMEONE OFF THE STREET THOUGH.

[MD Geist]

Aren't there agencies you can go to, like escort services..call girls who actually look decent and hopefully not abused or forced into it..i have seen that on tv..it looks expensive to get on eof those girls though.

 

 

I SAY THIS BCUZ I CAN SEE A MAN IN HIS 30'S POSSIBLY 40'S JUST NEEDING TO GET A PHYSICAL RELEASE AND NOT OBSESS ON ''LOSING IT'' FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES..ONE LESS THING TO BE SAD OVER IT MAY ACTUALLY HELP THEIR SITUATION..EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY AND GIVE THEM SOME CONFIDENCE NOT TO MENTION EXPERIENCE. JUST BE SAFE DOING IT.

 

I WOULDN'T GET SOMEONE OFF THE STREET THOUGH.

 

Its very expensive I know for the bunny ranch its about as much as a new car.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Its very expensive I know for the bunny ranch its about as much as a new car.

 

And when all is said and done, you won't be a virgin, but you will be that "guy who has had sex once and had to pay for it". Do you really think you'll be any happier/less selfconcious about your status?

 

Once you've had sex, won't it be harder to not have it?

 

When I had sex for the first time, my drive went through the roof. We had more sex in that month than we've had in any month long period of time since.

[Sparkly Eyes]

And when all is said and done, you won't be a virgin, but you will be that "guy who has had sex once and had to pay for it". Do you really think you'll be any happier/less selfconcious about your status?

 

Very true.

 

Once you've had sex, won't it be harder to not have it?

 

When I had sex for the first time, my drive went through the roof. We had more sex in that month than we've had in any month long period of time since.

 

Agree with this too. It's much easier to be a virgin and not get sex than to have experienced it and not get any. Although I imagine experience with a hooker won't be a full on intimacy experience...So maybe it will even disappoint him.

[jonny15]

It doesn't have to be a big deal unless you make it one. so stop making it a big deal.

 

You think it's a big deal isn't helping anything and you're just obsessing over it and getting sad. It's not helping your cause here.

 

I can't help it. It is a big deal to me.

 

It's a part of the human experience.

 

Masturbation is fun, and I do it obsesssivly, but I would rather have another person join me in it.

 

You need to concentrate on other things in your life. A relationship, while not the most important thing in the world, is what you need to concentrate on getting, not the physical stuff. Unless you hire a hooker, no girl is just going to waltz up and do all those things with you without being in the context of dating/relationship/or even fb.

 

I never said they had to.

 

I want to have a relashionship to. But the sex thing is something different, since I can't imitate that. But I can masturbate, which is similar to sex since it ends the same way.

[jonny15]

Aren't there agencies you can go to, like escort services..call girls who actually look decent and hopefully not abused or forced into it..i have seen that on tv..it looks expensive to get on eof those girls though.

 

 

I SAY THIS BCUZ I CAN SEE A MAN IN HIS 30'S POSSIBLY 40'S JUST NEEDING TO GET A PHYSICAL RELEASE AND NOT OBSESS ON ''LOSING IT'' FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES..ONE LESS THING TO BE SAD OVER IT MAY ACTUALLY HELP THEIR SITUATION..EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY AND GIVE THEM SOME CONFIDENCE NOT TO MENTION EXPERIENCE. JUST BE SAFE DOING IT.

 

I WOULDN'T GET SOMEONE OFF THE STREET THOUGH.

 

That costs alot of money.

 

Escorts aren't for broke people. LOL

[jonny15]

It's much easier to be a virgin and not get sex than to have experienced it and not get any.

 

 

Please....I don't believe that for a second.

 

It's much better to have had, then to have never had.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Please....I don't believe that for a second.

 

It's much better to have had, then to have never had.

 

It's like opening Pandora's box.

 

Is it harder for a person to never eat chocolate, or only eat chocolate once (love it) and never have it again (or not have it again for years)? Now imagine that you're in a world fueled by chocolate. Chocolate walks by everyday and is on tv, on ads, in the newspaper. All your friends are eating chocolate. You want it but just can't get it.

[jonny15]

It's like opening Pandora's box.

 

Is it harder for a person to never eat chocolate, or only eat chocolate once (love it) and never have it again (or not have it again for years)? Now imagine that you're in a world fueled by chocolate. Chocolate walks by everyday and is on tv, on ads, in the newspaper. All your friends are eating chocolate. You want it but just can't get it.

 

I would rather have known what chocolate tastes like, then to always wonder without ever knowing how good it just might be.

[Mr. Franklin]

I read a few posts in this topic and I believe people are kinda off topic. The OP is not talking about any guy picking up a prostitute. He is talking about men who are dateless. Men who are seen as unattractive to large numbers of women. Why should a dateless man live without sex? Sex is a biological and psychological need. We dateless men cannot control the fact women are turned off by our bad looks. There is not a special machine that will make women find us attractive. What other options are there? Take a risk at 35 and keep waiting or go to a brothel in Nevada?

 

No one on this Earth wants to die a virgin. Everyone wants to have sex in their lifetimes.

 

How about people actually look at what the OP is asking and about the situation he is describing about Dateless People. Put yourself in our shoes and picture us at age 38 without ever having a girlfriend, date, kiss, and sex. Think about it now.

 

I also think the OP is referring to Nevada and not illegal prostitution. However, this is just an assumption.

[Mr. Franklin]

Rejection isn't a personal insult, it's merely stating that you and her aren't a match.

 

Rejection can be a personal insult in two ways.

 

The first way rejection is an insult is by how it was done. Telling someone something negative about them in a rejection such as weight issues, a negative physical feature, negative body language(when a girl looks disgusted that this guy asked her out). If a woman ignores a man then that is very degrading. That shows to man the woman thinks she is too good to at least give him a response.

 

The second way rejection is an insult is by how many times a guy is rejected by women. If a guy has been rejected over 20 times and more than that is pretty insulting. That tells guys they are not good enough in many aspects of dating and love.

[Shepard]

I think you need to implement radical change in your life; move away, start a new job, live in a different country, anything to get you away from this obsession. Honestly, you come accross here as if this were the only thing on your mind and I am sure it's not but that is how it seems. Do something radically different with your life.

 

Whilst I have never had your problems with women I was single for nigh 6 years (did have flings and/or dated sometimes though) and I was up until recently totally apathetic towards women. I have a great girlfriend now, the best BY FAR ever and she was the one who asked me out. I simply said sure, why not. I did not chase her or anything like that. Things will come to you if you let them; do something else in the meantime.

[Mr. Franklin]

I think you need to implement radical change in your life; move away, start a new job, live in a different country, anything to get you away from this obsession. Honestly, you come accross here as if this were the only thing on your mind and I am sure it's not but that is how it seems. Do something radically different with your life.

 

Whilst I have never had your problems with women I was single for nigh 6 years (did have flings and/or dated sometimes though) and I was up until recently totally apathetic towards women. I have a great girlfriend now, the best BY FAR ever and she was the one who asked me out. I simply said sure, why not. I did not chase her or anything like that. Things will come to you if you let them; do something else in the meantime.

 

Moving to another country and finding a new job are very unrealistic in this type of situation. I don't know anyone who moves away to find a relationship. If these are positive aspects of one's life then why change them? There are plenty of people who are happy with their jobs. They may live in a good city.

 

What happen to you isn't going to happen to everyone. No man on this Earth is guaranteed a woman will ask them out. Your situation is not like what the OP is talking about. You did some flirting and dating for a while before being single. These dateless men have not had anything and some of these men are in their 20s, 30s, 40s, etc. Women have shown your interest. When women never show interest to us dateless men then it worst as we get older. A totally different situation compared to yours.

 

I am sure some of the dateless people are living their lives and may enjoy every other aspect of their lives. Having a good life outside of sex does not mean women will notice a man. Being dateless does not mean a man is without hobbies and other interests. My friend is a dateless guy who loves to do many things, got a promotion at a job he enjoys, and is very out going, but not one woman wants him.

 

How is this an obsession for anyone who is dateless? Everyone wants to be loved.

[greywolf]

Please....I don't believe that for a second.

 

It's much better to have had, then to have never had.

 

No, it's really true. Before I experienced sex, I was satisfied with masturbation. I still like masturbation, but sometimes I really miss being with another person, and now I think about having sex with guys I've just met.

[jonny15]

No, it's really true. Before I experienced sex, I was satisfied with masturbation. I still like masturbation, but sometimes I really miss being with another person, and now I think about having sex with guys I've just met.

 

I don't buy that.

 

I've been masturbating since I was 10, and as good as it can feel, I want more than that.

 

My hand isn't gonna provide me with a soft body.

[Sparkly Eyes]

Franklin, you are 20. Are you really worried about not getting girls until your late thirties?!! You guys are such drama queens. I will happen one day, sooner or later...For many girls it also can take years.

 

For now focus on your self improvement. Get educated, hit the gym...All of these can make you more attractive to women. Just sitting and whining won't do any good.

[The Wire]

Please....I don't believe that for a second.

 

It's much better to have had, then to have never had.

 

You're not really missing out on anything if you've never experienced it.

[Mr. Franklin]

Franklin, you are 20. Are you really worried about not getting girls until your late thirties?!! You guys are such drama queens. I will happen one day, sooner or later...For many girls it also can take years.

 

For now focus on your self improvement. Get educated, hit the gym...All of these can make you more attractive to women. Just sitting and whining won't do any good.

 

I'm not worried about my situation, but at the same time I am aware about it. Will I be a virgin when I am thirty? Maybe, maybe not. However there are members on this forum who are in their 30s who never had a date, kiss, and girlfriend. They never had anything loving from a woman.

 

How are we drama queens? How are we complaining? We are stating facts. Women are not attracted to us. That is a fact. That is not a complaint. No one in this thread that I have read said they demand women to like them. These men have simply express their desires to be in a relationship and experience sex. None of us said it was unfair. Do not mix up stating facts and complaining.

 

Telling dateless people to get educated to become attractive to women is an insult. That's telling us we must make money for a woman to love us. We must get this degree to make the money. It's pretty much saying we have to pay for a relationship instead of finding unconditional love.

 

How do know we are sitting down and whining. How about you read my journal before you act like I am not doing anything. Get your facts straight.

[The Wire]

Sometimes life just isn't fair for some people, no point tip toeing around it, life sometimes just picks one individual out of millions and says 'sorry pal, it won' be easy for you'. Now you can either wallow in self pity and let the obsession consume you in every way, shape and form effecting other areas of your life, or you can accept that these things happen and try and focus on other aspects of life whilst never giving up on perusing that relationship desire. I'll choose the later. From someone who like many in this thread has never had a relationship or date, a little message - harden up.

[The_Seeker]

Funny you mention about being in a relationship, and experience sex.

 

You just want to know what's it like to have relationship status and be in a relationship instead of being with that person and getting to know who she is.

[Mr. Franklin]

Sometimes life just isn't fair for some people, no point tip toeing around it, life sometimes just picks one individual out of millions and says 'sorry pal, it won' be easy for you'. Now you can either wallow in self pity and let the obsession consume you in every way, shape and form effecting other areas of your life, or you can accept that these things happen and try and focus on other aspects of life whilst never giving up on perusing that relationship desire. I'll choose the later. From someone who like many in this thread has never had a relationship or date, a little message - harden up.

 

Dateless people can have good lives in other aspect other than dating. I am sure there are dateless people like myself who enjoy all of the other aspects of our lives. Don't act like you know my life and the other dateless people's lives. How about asking people how their lives are out side of relationships and sex instead of making false assumptions about people?

 

Funny you mention about being in a relationship, and experience sex.

 

You just want to know what's it like to have relationship status and be in a relationship instead of being with that person and getting to know who she is.

 

When did I say that? Being in a relationship is all about getting to know the person and developing a loving a relationship. It has nothing to do with "status". Now you're throwing out personal insults.

[The_Seeker]

Dateless people can have good lives in other aspect other than dating. I am sure there are dateless people like myself who enjoy all of the other aspects of our lives. Don't act like you know my life and the other dateless people's lives. How about asking people how their lives are out side of relationships and sex instead of making false assumptions about people?

 

 

 

When did I say that? Being in a relationship is all about getting to know the person and developing a loving a relationship. It has nothing to do with "status". Now you're throwing out personal insults.

 

;] Aw, I'm sorry I broke your heart.

 

Let's be realistic. What happens if you do get into a relationship, then the girl doesn't want to have sex with you for her own personal reason? Do you leave her?

 

So much for for knowing her and getting to experience sex.

[Mr. Franklin]

;] Aw, I'm sorry I broke your heart.

 

Let's be realistic. What happens if you do get into a relationship, then the girl doesn't want to have sex with you for her own personal reason? Do you leave her?

 

So much for for knowing her and getting to experience sex.

 

It depends on her reasons for not wanting to have sex. I have no problems with a woman wanting to wait until marriage or when the time is right for her. However, if she does not find me physically attractive then it is best to part ways, but can maintain a good friendship.

[Uma]

I don't think it is wrong if you can live with the choice you make. For me, it was a bonding experience. I always remember the guy who I lost my virginity to (although he was a total jerk).

 

i can see merit in having sex with a random stranger just to experience what sex is like, but I also see merit in holding off until you meet someone special - regardless of your age.