Married name

[liquer]

The tradition is for the woman takes her husbands name.

 

Do you think the woman should take her husbands name?

 

Or should he take his wife’s or should they have double-barrelled name?

[Sn0man]

I'm a traditionalist, so I think the woman should take the man's name.

 

It's not like we don't pay them for it.... lol

[Tethryn]

Interesting Fact: If you analyze a "traditional" marriage (Some might call it "nit-picking") you find that it's surprisingly sexist...

 

In the end, I say do what ever you want/feel comfortable with!

[liquer]

I'm a great believer in tradition to, especially traditional positions.

 

But, I suppose the name thing doesn't matter so much now does it?

[liquer]

Interesting Fact: If you analyze a "traditional" marriage (Some might call it "nit-picking") you find that it's surprisingly sexist...

 

In the end, I say do what ever you want/feel comfortable with!

 

Well said!

[ButterflyWrists]

I would have my husband to be have my last name if I did not like his last name. But other than that, I would take on their name. Especially if they were the only male in the family with that last name still able to have kids. And we had kids after marriage.

[Tezza]

It is not really that important, there a quite a few cultures that do not practice this. Depending on the surname of my husband, I may choose to change it when I get married.

[DaBladeRoden]

My last name is too awesome for a woman not to take it when marrying me. It's a deal breaker.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I would keep my own name. In this day and age with the divorce rates, you have women adopting their husband's name and then reverting back to their name after the divorce and then adopting their next husband's name and then going back to their name when that marriage ends in divorce. That creates all kinds of paperwork complications not to mention nobody knows what to call you anymore! I have lived all my life with my own name and I would not change it for someone else's last name.

[Portage]

Well, i say it is all about the marriage NOT the last name, however, If you are having kids i prefer the family to all share in the same last name.

 

It sounds closer knit and more of a bond. I think it is healthier for the child.

[CallingAllAngels]

I took my husband's last name. Now I am divorced. It's a hassel to go back to my maiden name so I still have his name.

 

But, if I was to marry again, I would take my new husband's last name. Something about that just makes you "one".

[allypally]

My SIL has a double-barrel name - I think thats the N.American way. So her family name comes first followed by my brothers name (our family name).

[D_Lish]

I'd like a double barrel name, then I'd feel posh and be like the aristocracy

[_Asti_]

My sister and I are the end of the line for our last name, but I really don't know what I will do.

Personally, I don't like the double last name. I'll most likely just take his name.

[liquer]

I'd like a double barrel name, then I'd feel posh and be like the aristocracy

 

 

Well I wouldn't recommend getting married just for that reason.

[allypally]

I think double barrell names are pretentious.

 

So many people have them now, its like a status thing.

[FortunateOne]

When I do marry it will be for love and not a name; thereforee, my future wife will have the option. Oh! As for the children I don't mind a double barrel name.

[Scorpion Fury]

I am traditional. I will take my husband's name when I get married, and our children will have his name too. I personally think hyphenated names are ridiculous

[Scorpion Fury]

I think double barrell names are pretentious.

 

So many people have them now, its like a status thing.

 

Yeah, especially if they're both long

[jenny_mcs]

I did not change my name. We'll re-visit the subject when we have kids.

[Hope75]

The tradition is for the woman takes her husbands name.

 

Do you think the woman should take her husbands name?

 

Or should he take his wife’s or should they have double-barrelled name?

 

I don't think there are any 'shoulds', it's whatever the couple feels comfortable with. I am traditional so I took my husband's name, but I know couples where the woman kepts her maiden name, or the husband took her name too and I think it's fine.

[Emernate]

I have always wondered what will happen when two people with hyphenated last names want to combine last names.

 

"Hi, i'm Bob Brown-Smith-Jones-Johnson."

[livinginsbi]

My last name is too awesome for a woman not to take it when marrying me. It's a deal breaker.

 

In fact... his last name is SO awesome.. I just may change my name to that, just because! lol j/k I couldn't resist!

[NowandZen]

I'm not sure it matter to kids nowadays. My wife and I were talking about our 14 y/o's friends, and I think we came up with just ONE who lives with both biological parents. So many blended families, different last names, nobody gives it a second thought.

 

Funny story, my former neighbor, somebody I knew in high school mind you, had a convo with my wife in which it became apparent that she thought I was my wife's SECOND husband, and that the 14 y/o was mine, and the 19 y/o was not.

 

My last name is not weird, but it's not one you would forget. I would not insist on my wife taking it. As for children, I suppose everybody has to cross that bridge. I've crossed it and burned it.

[definitely_maybe]

I have always wondered what will happen when two people with hyphenated last names want to combine last names.

 

"Hi, i'm Bob Brown-Smith-Jones-Johnson."

 

Exactly what I was thinking. Hyphenated names can spiral out of control.

 

I say take the man's name.

 

If one is so worried about hassles after they get divorced, maybe they should not be getting married in the first place.