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Sn0man

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  1. If you see yourself as landmines to her desert - best to pull your mines until she's negotiated the labrynth.
  2. Don't do it again. The only one you're really hurting is yourself.
  3. I don't wanna join. I like drinking 2-3 times a week. What the problem is?
  4. I am sorry to hear that things have not worked out for you. Know that it is going to be hard to get used to being single again. We all go through it though, and you're at the right place to find the support you're going to need to help you get through this difficult time. Nothing will make you forget about this move, and nothing will truly make it any easier. You just have to swallow the pill like we all have to; there is no 'quick fix'. Just try to keep your mind busy with important things, like getting your life back together. Good luck, and best wishes.
  5. I've gotta say i'd be just as confused as you sound. Seems like she's in a 'neither here nor there' headset when it comes to the relationship, and being on the recieving end of such behavior is not a nice place to be. Personally, I would try backing off just a bit. I don't mean breaking up or taking a break or anything like that; just give her a little room to collect her thoughts. I know that put's you in a situation of 'well, if she's collecting her thoughts, what am I supposed to be doing?'. Perhaps the same. Try to analyze what's brought this on in the first place. I know college/school can be quite strenuous on a relationship, it won't cause this kind of distancing as you have described; there's something else amiss. Though I truly hate to disagree with DN as his advice is sound, I think 'laying it out' as DN says may be a little premature, and I would leave that for later on should things get 'harrier'. For the time being, I would just take it in stride and don't let it bother you too much. Do a little fishing and see if there's something she's not telling you; if there is, she'll most likely want to but hasn't found a way to do it yet. On the other hand, she could just be very stressed out right now with school and whatever is happening with her father (though you didn't say what that was), and needs some time to process whatever is going on, in which case a little breathing room may be just what she needs. Hope this helps, and hope all works out well for you.
  6. Maybe try this: The next time she drops a hint that she's feeling a litle 'frisky', crack open a bottle of red and have a couple of glasses before bed. It just sounds to me like she's a little bit, err, frigid, and a glass of wine might relax her a bit. Worth a try if nothing else.
  7. So if you don't like her opinions why would you consider moving out with her. What exactly is the problem? If you don't have any particular relationship with this person how can you really be emotionally involved? In three days? Get a grip.
  8. Have a big glass of warm milk. Then lay back in your bed, tell yourelf it was only a dream and nothing can actually harm you. Put your head to your pillow and go back to sleep. You'll be just fine in the morning. The boogie man isn't going to get you. If the warm milk doesn't help, do a google on 'Einsteins general theory of relativity'. read the first four chapters. If you aren't sleeping by then you aren't human and need to contact E.T. for psycotherapy.
  9. Well, if you haven't gotten sexually involved with this individual, then those feelings will eventually subside, especially when you're around them alot (as long as you're not 'doing it'). I can't stress that one enough. Shouldn't be a problem. Just be friends with the person for a while and like the rest of us you'll find lots of annoying habits and eventually you will begin to wonder why you were ever attracted to this person in the first place hahahaha!!
  10. I have to admit, the first paragraph of your post made me laugh. I'm kinda the same way though. Just because you don't have 'best friends' doesn't mean anything. I don't have best friends either. Lots of aquaintances, but thats it. That's all I need. That's all most people need or ever have. The 'best friend' thing kinda ends in highschool, and anyone who brings up needing 'best friends' is probably that age. You're not weird. you're about as normal as the rest of us. relax and have a great weekend!
  11. I only have a 2 year business diploma and I make 6 figures. It's all about finding your niche. Mine so happened to be in trades. Just because you took business doesn't mean you have to work in an office. Get an idea and run with it. Take risks. People don't just wake up one day and find that they're making 100 or 200 grand a year. They take big risks. Parents often know more that we so I suggest you listen to them. I'm not saying they're right, and i'm definitely not saying you need to follow in anyone elses' footsteps; find your own path, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
  12. I'm not going to tell you not to ride it out for a while, and I'm not going to tell you to give up on him. Somewhere inbetween i'd think. Sit back, let things fall where they may. One MAJOR piece of advice though, if you want any chance of keeping it alive...DO NOT START CHASING HIM, HARASSING HIM, CALLING HIM 5 OR 10 OR 20 DIMES A DAY, CRYING, GROVELLING, RATIONALIZING, OR IN ANY WAY TRYING TO CONVINCE HIM THAT HE IS DOING SOMETHING BAD OR WRONG. That will only seal the deal. I Guarantee it. Ride it out for a couple of weeks, be casual, see what happens. That's about the best advice I can give you. Good luck and best wishes.
  13. You're right about it being tough. She's not pregnant. That was never an issue. She hurried to marry this guy behind everyones back, because we all knew he was big trouble and wouldn't have approved, but it was what she wanted so she did it anyways, in secret. She has some friends, but very few now that she has been shut away for so long as a result of a jealous and overbearing husband...you know how that goes. I know nothing of her family really, but I do know they're not here; In fact I know very little when it comes to giving her a helping hand (reason im asking). Though a DV shelter would be a good suggestion to pass on to her, I doubt she'd do it. It'd hurt her pride too much, and she just wouldn't be able to do it. I think she'd rather be hospitalized, to be honest.
  14. Here's a thought: Isn't it funny how we seem to remember all the GOOD things about someone AFTER we break up with them. We seem to forget the reason WHY we broke up with them. Try to keep the WHY in the forefront of your mind.
  15. If she's the one causing you all the grief, why would you want to put the power in her hands? Take it uon yourself to deal with your own problems; Letting other people make the hard decisions for you will only come back to bite you later on.
  16. Hey guys; Bit of a new one here. I've got a female friend who hurriedly married a very bad guy, who, after a very recent get together, I learned has been beating her up. I'm not the best of friends with this girl, but we've known eachother for quite some time (a few years) and have many of the same friends. She's going through a great deal of trouble with this husband of hers, and I had a long heart to heart with her the other day about why she needs to get away from this situation; before she ends up in a box. She's a nice girl, but has a slew of her own problems, such as a major anxiety disorder etc. etc. And that hasn't helped her relationship at all either. I want to help her get out of this bad situation - but I also want to be careful here...don't want her getting the wrong idea OR making myself the bad guy for breaking them up. I just want to help her in any way that I can. How do you help someone in a situation such as this without coming out as the bad guy? And how do you help them at all? What can I do??
  17. If it's that bad, just break up with the girl for good. It isn't that hard to do, especially since you obviously don't want to be with her (6 break up's is plenty enough evidence of that). If you have a void, fill it with something positive, like sports or friends or whatever tickles your fancy. Get rid of this broad; she's obviously doing you more harm than good.
  18. Well, I sent har a short email this morning asking breifly if something was up or there was something I should know about....STILL NO RESPONSE. This is driving me up the wall!!!! Gawd, I've gotta stay away from these flaky women......
  19. Hey, just need a quick opinion on this: Went out with my g/f and her room mate Thursday...had a great time...left her house late that night. Called her up on Friday, no answer. Called her again later that evening, no answer, but left a message. She had the whole weekend off work, so did I, and no return phone calls. I don't see her during the work week as she says she works 12 hour shifts and is 'too tired' to call?? Guess she just goes to bed after work...whatever...fine by me. So I send an email Sunday evening asking whats up....still nothing. No calls, no emails....nothing. As far as I know, I haven't done anything wrong, and the last time we saw eachother we had a great time. She did mention she had 'baggage' to deal with when I saw her on Thurs, but that 'baggage' is 4000 miles away on the other side of the Country. I'm finding this all a little weird, and we've only been going steady for like 2 weeks, dating for a little over a month. I'm pulling my hair out trying to figure THIS one out... Thoughts?
  20. Hey guys; Can anyone tell me what may cause a sharp, isolated shotting pain in the right side of my chest? It is sporadic, and I have had this since I was a child, but it seems to be getting more painful and sharper with age. I'm only 27, and I know it isnt a heart attack, but it hurts like hell! Has anyone experienced this before and have any clue as to what it is? I smoke, drink lots of beer, and don't get alot of excersise other than at work (I get alot at work). I'm not overweight (athletic looking in fact), and otherwise pretty healthy. Thoughts?
  21. Totally harmless. Stop reading rtoo much into how a guy acts. You start thinking he's referring to *you* when he does that kind of stuff and you're just causing yourself more greif. Sarcasm is fine. I'm a sarcastic son of a b1tch, and there's nothing that you need to be self-conscious about when it's done.
  22. When you are dead, people will think "you're dead". Nothing special. Suicide is a cheap way out, and by far not the way to go, my friend. Life is full of rich moments, happiness, friends and family, good times, bad times, and worse times. Take the good with the bad and throw a grain of salt over your shoulder. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems, no matter what. You're very young and expectred to have these kind of feelings; we all do. Just don't act on them, you won't live to regret it. Sn0man
  23. All the time. But if you don't jump in feet first you'll never know what you're missin. I've been single by choice for 3 years, until yesterday, when, by choice, I chose a long term girl. I'm freakin out a bit, but you never know if you never try right?
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