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I knew my boyfriend before we got together, he was 'with people' while i knew (and liked) him, and it sucked. now we are together it hurts so much to know that. When he tells me i am the most beautiful girl in the world i cant help but think, 'well why didnt u get with me as soon as u saw me then????!' instead of screwing the ugly sluts that he favoured over me. its a mystery and it hurts like hell but there is no magic way to get rid of it. i may have to leave my boyfriend even though i love him and he loves me, because i simply dont see me getting over it and i dont want us to argue about it for the rest of our lives . anyway just wanted u to know ur not alone (which is probably obvious by the name of the forum, )

Hi well the problem here is that ive been wth my boyfriend for a year and ahalf, he's 16, i'm 18 (but mentally a bit younger) anyways i have a really big problem with jealousy of my boyfriends past. he lost his virginity when he was 14, and probably first fingered when he was like 13. hes had sex with 4 girls, all when he was 14/15 and the thought of this makes me sick. why the hell did he think he was ready to do that at such a young age? anyways the people he screwed were all older than him, he came onto all of them bar one, and they were all my friends. Its hard to understand i you werent there, but i was always quiet and shy so never had confidence which made him think i wasnt cool enough for him, any way he was the first person i ever really loved and when we got together it was all perfect but it got bad after a few weeks. Since then i get terribly jealous whenever i think of him wth the other girls. it has had sucha bad effect on me, i am stroppy and horrible, i hit and scratch him hard, i constantly bring it up but its like i cant stop. the images of him and the other girls always appear in my head, and cos he bragged about it before we got together i know all the details. I have just split up with him, and i feel like killing myself. He loves me, i know he does, and i love him, so much, but do you think i made the right choice? how else am i going to get rid of the pain and sickness i feel when these pictures in my head appear??

i think it is seen as a form of 'cheating' on them. i know if my boyfirend looked at porn i would certainly feel inadequate compared to those large-breasted (usualy), perfect-figured girls and i would think to myself that i was not as desirable as these girls if my boyfriend had to look at them to get off. using a sex toy is different, and it would be seen a lot differently if, say, the toy came with Virtual Reality goggles which the woman wore and while she used the sex toy she could see a 3-d sexy man naked, doing sexual things so she could be turned on the way her boyfriend could not turn her on. something like that anyway! Tiki tiki!

figs, Im not sure where you live or how old you are, but there has been a situation in my experience where i had a one night stand with a friend i liked, and he kind of liked me but not enough to commit. we have a fabulous thing at our school called 'tingsing' which is when two people do not go out, but just fool around etc with no strings. it sucks. i was in this trap with this guy, but because i liked him so much i let myself be used. finally i just said, look are we going anywhere, and he said no, so i ignored him for ages, flirted with other guys, tried to forget about him. when i did this, he was the one who started to get more serious about ME! he asked me out soon after. So off this tangent my advice is to either ask him direct, or flirt with other guys and see what his reacion is... tiki tiki!

hi, so, i am jealous of my boyfriend's past, as some may know, and he has had sex with 3 other girls, with me the third person he had sex with and one after. he says he lost his virginity to me, even though i was not the first girl he , well, penetrated... but i am the first girl he ever came with, and the only girl he liked ( the others he just used for sex, and didn't care about) I know basic losing virginity is penetration, and any boasting boy would disagree with me, so mature people only pls, but for boys, surely, as it is less imposing than for girls (if u know what i mean?) is it really cumming that defines losing virginity? any feedback would be great... Tiki Tiki!

hi, im sure no one will read this now, but i knew this boy for over two years, and never went out with him, so i always felt like you describe when i was around him. it isnt love yet, if you have never been together, but it turned out when this guy and me got together, that we went together so well it WAS true love. its like a 'meant to be' sort of premonitiony thing. make a move if you havent already, i say. tiki tiki!

he he forum junkie, i like your style. as for omar, wow, i wish there were more guys like you. i am beginning to lose faith in the whole of mankind and guys like you giveme hope. every tmei read of more men date raping girls for kicks, or see some guy cheating on the person he 'loves', i lose a bit more faith. Come to England, breed lots, spread the love, we'll kill all the 'rude boy players', women will rule the world and everyone will live in peace and harmony... ah, what a world im off for a drink

hi, thanks for the reply. I know he does love me though, this is what makes it even harder for me. the guy i always wanted now loves me, and all of a sudden im jeapordising this? i know he hits me back but i do provoke him a lot i understand why he does it. the thing i cant get over is that he says he always liked me, so why did he do all that stuff? he didnt know i even existed when he had sex with the first girl. The thing is, he admits he only did it to be popular, to say he did it and not have everyone think he was a loser. but i still hate thinking about it. i know cutting myself doesnt solve the situation but its just when i m so depressed it just seems to be the answer, even though i know its not. im so confused and i just want the pictures of him and other girls OUT. it doesn't help that all the girls are always around, at school, aaaarghh any more help anyone can giveme? (thanks lil unique me)

hi i just found this site and a couple of the other posts sound kind of like my situation but none are quite the same... hear this. i was 16 when i met my boyfriend at boarding school, but we didnt go out then. he was friends with the older years, and was only 14 at the time. he got stoned like every day LITERALLY and drunk loads too. he seemed really confident and stuff, and i really liked him more than anyone else i ever liked. I dont even know why. anyways one day a girl who was friends with him, and me, told me he was going out with a girl who was 18, one of the 'cool' older girls. i found out they had had sex too, but dumped her a day after. naturally i was upset as anyone would be when their crush goes and has sex with someone else. a few weeks later i was talking to a girl i was soon to become best friends with, and mentioned i liked this guy. "oh, ive had him" she remarked casually. this shocked me, even though, unsurprisingly they were both drunk and stoned. then a girlfriend of mine texted the guy from my phone saying i liked him. he seemed interested and we kind of kissed but never got together cos he just stopped speaking to me. i asked him why by text and he said he couldnt have sexwith me cos i was a virgin (his exact words). naturally i was crushed and it got worse as my friends were friends with him too and he flirted with ALL of them. I got so depressed i started cutting myself, i really really liked him that much. then summer holdays came and i found a holiday boyfriend i liked, lost my virginity and nearly forgot about the stupid stoner guy. when we got back to school he had had his head shaved (he used to have nice curly hair) and i hoped i would get over him. but then i got best friends with a group of girls who were great friends with his friends and we all started hanging together. somehow i got into a fling type thing with this guy, he never asked me out he preferred to have 'no strings' stuff and me stupidly still in love with him, obliged. we had sex and he got jealous of other guys texting me and stuff but he flirted constantly with other girls and i was never really happy with it. then i told him i wanted somethng more serious or nothing at all, and again he just stopped talking to me. we still hung around with the group but didnt talk. one time we were all just sitting around and he asked the girl he had sex with before, my friend, if she would give him head and she said ok and off they went. that happened twice. it hurt so much seeing him walk off with another girl. Also another of my really 'good' friends after new year told me there were rumours of her having sex with him, but she swore she didnt. of course she was lying and the way gullible stupid me found out was from him bragging about it. he was, again, drunk and stoned. well anyways months later he randomly texted me, and asked to meet up. he seemed different and was decent to me, which was unheard of for him. he kept texting me that he loved me (agan unheard of, as he always proclaimed he didnt believe in love) and i could actually talk to him normally. it was weird. he asked me out and i chanced it. a year later we are still together, he has changed totally from how he used to be and we are in love. but i keep thinking of his past. he was drunk and/or stoned for all three but it makes me so angry thinking of him instigating it each time (except the new years one which he swears he didnt, and says he didnt enjoy it-bullsh*t i say- and would never have done it if sober). it makes me sick to think of him boasting, thinking he was too cool whenall he did was make himself cheap. there are other things he did, kissing countless girls etc, but there are too many and i dont wanna make this any longer. any way the long and (very) long of this is, how do i make it go away? he says i should just 'get over it' but i blame him totally for my screwed up mental state now and this makes me madder. i get so upset and mad i even hit him, scratch his face etc. he hits back but i dont blame him really. i just hurt so much, cos it was my friends, cos i know all the details of each one (i feel compelled to demand exactly what went on even though i know the truth will hurt) the thing is, with two of them he didn't even 'finish off', i was the first girl to make him orgasm, and the first girl he ever loved etc, but despirte all this i feel like i cant even go on seeing him. i feel like killing myself cos it hurts and i cant get the images of him and another girl out of my head. sorry its so long, but i really need some guidance here. thanks