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  1. greeneyes
    I guess my real question is this: How can I show him that I have developed feelings for him instead of just coming right out and saying something?
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    Let me clarify that we weren't great friends when all this started. I know he likes me and is attracted to me. As I said, I have never done anything like this before. In response to your questions, yes we hang out in public places and we have a great time together. He is a very affectionate person even when we aren't having sex. We have not however discussed being an item nor has be bought me any type of gift. I know he is shy and I'm really not sure how many relationships he has been in. I don't think it's just about the sex for either of us. We cuddle afterwards, talk and even giggle. We don't just have sex when we are together. I guess I'm just afraid to bring it up because I don't want to scare him away.
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    A couple of months ago, I started seeing a friend casually and we pretty quickly started having sex. He knew I hadn't been in a relationship in a long time and was in need of some male attention. This has been going on for a couple of months now. I definitely have developed feelings for him but I'm not sure how he feels about me. He's kind of a shy guy. Even his friends have told me that. I'm not sure how to bring this up with him. I've never done anything like this before. I guess I thought I could keep my emotions and sex separate, but I can't. I guess my questions are if it was just casual sex, how long would it go on and is there any way I can tell by the way he acts during and after sex if he has feelings for me?
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    Dave 1977, Here's the thing. We do go to lunch a few times a month at work and we take turns buying each others. I told him a few months ago I was interested. And we do flirt. BIG TIME! To the point it could be considered foreplay! He told a mutual friend that he was attracted to me but he was concerned about the work thing. This was a few months ago as well. When all this started I really didn't know him at all. So over time we have definitely become friends. It's like the initial attraction is still there but it's not just that anymore. Does that make sense? In the beginning there was a strong sexual attraction that from the flirting I would say was mutual. But now it's like it's just not all about the sexual attraction anymore. It's something more there. At least for me. I guess I just don't know what to do next. Do I keep on flirting? Keep going to lunch and see where it all goes? It's just so frustrating.
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    There's a guy I work with who has been flirting with me for a while now. When things weren't really getting anywhere I distanced myself from him for a while. He's come back around and is still flirting. He's driving me crazy. He's always interested in what I do on the weekends, he'll look me up and down and smile, etc. I know he is hung up on the work issue. We don't work in the same department, just the same company. I find him attractive and enjoy the flirting but at the same time it is very frustrating not ever moving beyond it. I don't really know what to make of the whole situation. I've been out of the dating scene for a few years and am just now entering it after getting divorced. The funny thing is, I have gone out with other people during all this and my mind always wanders back to him. He knows I go out and he'll ask how far things went. Why does he care? What should I do?
  6. greeneyes
    I think it's possible that maybe he isn't so sure himself. He could be very confused about his feelings and might be testing the waters with you. Have you ever talked with him about his gay? Like maybe how old he was when he realized it? Maybe he isn't really sure. It sounds like you've stirred up something in him. How long has the "kissing" been going on? Is he interested in or dating any guys?
  7. greeneyes
    Okay guys. I think I have had enough of this. I just don't think it is ever going to go anywhere. Judging by the way HE acts its clear to me that he is attracted to me. Why would he keep this up for months if he has not intention of acting on it? I'm not talking about mild flirting. The other day I said I was hot and he said why don't you take your clothes off. I laughed. Then a few minutes later he called me on the phone and wanted to know what I was wearing underneath my clothes. He has got to make himself just as frustrated as I feel. I am very, very attracted to him but it seems the only real way to solve this is to just stay away from him. He's got to figure it out one way or the other then, right? Some days it feels almost obsessive. I have just never been so attracted to someone.
  8. greeneyes
    Any other ideas?
  9. greeneyes
    I can so relate to your dilemma, except for the gay part. I have a guy at work who flirts with me constantly. Sometimes he even acts like he's 15. I feel like we've been having foreplay for several months. He even does the same thing about bending over and is so obvious about the fact he is looking or trying to get me into wrestling matches. He even told me I have a nice butt. We both have expressed an interest in wanting something to happen but he is hesitant because we work together. We work in separate departments. It definitely clouds the issue that this guy is your boss. I'd think about a couple of things: Perhaps this guy isn't saying anything to you because he knows you are married. I know you said that was just a technicality, but maybe he respects marriage. Don't want to be too nosy but why don't you get out of your marriage if you have been unsatisfied for some time now? That would be my first step. ( I just got out of one) Maybe he isn't talking about girls around you because he is interested in you. If he is feeling something he is probably confused too about what to do because of the fact that you are married. If you think this guy could ever be a real possibility, can you transfer to another department? You don't want to put either of your jobs in jeopardy. Why would he want to check out your butt if he didn't like women? It sounds like he enjoys it.
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    I am recently divorced. My husband did the same thing to me. The first time he cheated I wanted to believe that he would never do it again and was sorry. Unfortunately, that didn't happen. I too realized it was happening again by looking at the cell phone bill. What whould have been a $50 bill had gone as high as $400 a month!!! He tried telling me it was nothing, it wasn't anything to worry about, these women were just friends. I had dialed all the numbers on there I didn't recognize. In the end, I realized I was better off without him. I don't know which state you live in, but where I live it is next to impossible to prove an affair. You have to have pictures and show definite opportunity, like your wifes car parked at this guys house overnight. I have a daughter too, and we did try marriage counseling but it didn't do us any good. If you still love your wife and want to try and work things out I would definitely suggest giving it a try. I wanted more than anything for my marriage to work, especially for my daughters sake. I wanted her to grow up with a mother and father living together. There was just to much damage done and I didn't know how I was going to trust him again. I would try to establish visitation with your daughter right away. Just say very little to your wife when you pick up your daughter. I read 2 books while going through this, Divorce Busting and The Divorce Remedy, both by Michelle Weiner-Davis. They have some good tips for saving your marriage and also deal with infidelity. There are really great tips for that.
  11. greeneyes
    I like sideburns, but nothing coming way down the side and onto your cheeks like in the 70's.
  12. greeneyes
    My divorce from my husband of 6 years was just final a few weeks ago. I have found that going out with friends really helps me a lot. It is easy to think about him and feel sorry for yourself when you are at home alone. Even if you don't feel like going out, make yourself do it. You'll be glad you did.
  13. greeneyes
    The next time you see her on campus why don't you ask her where she's headed? Maybe you could be headed that way to. Ask her what classes she is taking. Maybe you are taking the same one and could get together to study.
  14. greeneyes
    You are absolutely right. I think he believes that I will always be there and be interested. I have just gotten divorced after 6 years of marriage. We were separated for the last 2. Anyways, this whole dating thing is pretty new to me. It's hard to get back out there and know how to act. I'll definitely have to give some thought to your "what type of seducer are you" question. I can work through the friend that know about this. She can let him know I have a life outside of work. For some reason he and I just clicked and I can't get him out of my head. Sorry to hear that you and your gf are having trouble. I know how bad that can be.
  15. greeneyes
    I think it's going to be kind of hard to be vague since we've pretty much established that we'd like to "do the deed." I guess I can try being vague. My friend and I (the one who accompanied us to lunch) went out Friday night. She made sure to let him know that I got hit on and how much fun we had. So now he keeps asking about that. So is being vague also like ignoring him? If I didn't talk to him for a few days, I'm sure he'd wonder where I was.
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