This guy where I work has been making 'eyes' at me for a while and so I've been flirting back. I was falling for him, naturally. Then, I was placed in his department about 3 months ago and he's now my 'boss' ... he's also 14 years younger than me! (the age difference is NOT an issue, or my problem - I just wanted you to know the facts- in fact we look the same age!) He's single, though dating, but from everything I can gather, he's not thrilled with his current g/f. I'm married, but it's more of a technicality than any sort of relationship - I haven't been intimate with my husband in years, no hugging, no kissing either, and that's been my choice. ANYWAY ... now that i work with this guy, I'll call him "M" I find that I'm really falling in love with him. I flirt outrageously, and we joke all day long, smile at each other, stare, talk, and work together perfectly. He'll trick me into reaching for things for him and smile at me when I've realized he's done it on purpose, to check out my butt! I catch him watching me sometimes too. When he stands next to me for whatever reason, it always seems too close, sometimes touching but I like it! He'll brush against me when he walks by, innocently of course- even if there is ample room to pass. He's always polite, kind, amusing, charming and just the thought of him makes me smile. His sense of humor is in sync with mine and that's a bonus! Sounds pretty good, right? Well . . . here's my question. Is he flirting with me and just hasn't worked up the courage to do more, or is there a real possiblity that he is gay? I know ... I know ... you're wondering what makes me think that?! OK, the thing is HE doesn't say anything flirty back, not with words ... he hasn't asked me out for a drink ... hasn't tried 'anything' - not even a kiss or touch (just those subtle things I mentioned). He never seems to check out girls ... never even talks about them the way my other guy friends do, he sometimes jokes using that "s" sound as a lisp when we talk about sterotypical 'gay stuff' ... and today was the kicker ... there was an article in the newspaper about the recent gay marriages in San Franciso thing, and I happened to mention it and he asked what I thought about 'all that'. Normally that wouldn't strike me as odd, but he rarely askes me a point blank question that requires my 'opinion'. I was honest, said that it didn't bother me at all - people have the right to live they way they choose- if they're happy, it's all that really matters. He said he felt the same way, and that it didn't bother him either. Most of the guys I know don't even care to discuss such topics - maybe they're homophobic - or just don't care to talk baout it. So ... I'm a little confused. I'm an attractive woman, smart, funny, sincere and kind - unusual and caring. I just don't get this guy ... whom I'm so attracted to ... I wish I knew for sure if he were gay. I'd still love him, he's amazing to me ... but at least I'd know why things havent' progressed. I can only hope this crap made sense to you - I tend to babble and get off topic ... so if you've gotten this far, thanks. Anything you can offer by way of advice would be appreciated! thanks, Zgirl