Street-Bum

well what i would say is... i don't think it would be worth it for the long run, if you were to persue this kind of relationship then one of two things can happen. The first being that you conform to her ways and not physically touch her which would prob. drive you crazy in a way, and the other would be that you might do little things that would annoy her and then build up and get on each others nerves and cause a fight; i can see this happening since she has ocd (b/c u said so) its gonna be hard to prohibit some actions that you do and such and if she truly has ocd it would be a real headache for the both of you, unless you are willing to deal with that forever... but to each their own ~GL

otay, i feel as if i know u'r story all too well, i have a friend who put his girlfriend in a very similar situation. From his point of view he says hes just tired of her, but instead of just ending it, or explaining to her his feelings (or lack there of) he just stays or pretends to stay in the relationship and let it corrode with time, while he not caring for her. To me it seems as if u'r ex was too scared or too much of a ahole to even consider u'r feelings. I would of thought something was up when he said he would move to cali, but like they say love blinds the best of eyes, and thats exactly what happened to you. This guys seems to have u'r heart in the plam of his hand and can squeeze and break you when he wants, This situation is obviously not healthy and u need to move on, b/c a person that truly loves you, wouldn't want to hurt you. Right now is when u need u'r friends the most, Try not to spend too much time alone cuz alone time just gives to time to dwel on the past and make u sad, just keep your head up , and look around you and smile, There will always be a New day...

Otay, so its coming down to the line and you want to make your move. So since she still does sit next to you, take advantage of it , talk to her after class and walk her to her next class, in the hallway ask her for her number, (sounds easy right?) I know u'r gonna be shyting bricks, but for you to get to where u wanna be, it must be done, just remember life's too short, and dont let chances pass you by just because you are afriad of what she might say or of what people will think of you, be cool, be in control. Theres this quote i heard in a movie once (forgot which one) but if u need that extra push always remember.... "He who hesitates masturbates"

Chances are that hes not going to change the way he is unless u confront him about it and assure him that what he is doing is pointless. A relationship with little or no trust is not a relationship worth having. All it does is build up problems over time which will prob. explode into a huge argument in which u must comply to his unreasonable terms (and you probably will since u are 'in love') I say talk to him, let him know that there isn't anyting to worry about , if not hes going to be no more than plague on u'r social life. Well this is my 2 cents in the end its all really up to you, and how much u can really put up with.

The thing that i would do is give her time, she was your girlfriend for over 3 years so i'm sure shes gonna start to miss you, Its only up to you to stay strong and stick to being friends with her. Everytime that your are going to see her make sure u make her feel like a queen, give her a taste of what shes missing out on. I dont think sitting next to her in class is pushing it, you should , but PAY ATTENTION TO CLASS, and try to to put too much attention on her. Her attention should come after but dont go out of your way. I'd say use your best judgement, hopefully she'll eventually start to warm up to you, and it'll be like nothing has happened, and it would work out, best of luck to you.

Seems like your in a ruff situation, on one hand you have the girl that u'r crazy for and willing to do anything for her, then on the other you have her controlling bf making sure that you can't make any advances on her. So i have this suggestion, why don't you write her a letter letting her know everything you want her to know, i'm sure her bf isn't around her 24 hours, and always have late night, when everyone is sleeping. (heres anothe idea from the mind of meh) Why dont u surprise her outside her bedroom window one night with the letter and flowers, give them both to her. If she lives on the first floor u'r sitting pretty , if not, well you could put the letter in the flowers, and have it tied up with something like a thin rope or smothing that she can pull up, tie a rock on the other end and throw it to her, (she'll eventually catch it, just be persistent) then you could just leave it at that, and call her in the morning. Or you could just completely forget about her and move on, but it seems thats even more difficult. Just try u'r luck and see what happeneds .... Good luck

Hmmm why do guys play these games ? Cause thats exactly what every guy does... Everyone has their own 'game' and some work betters than others, we usually do stuff that helps us in the long run ( like becoming really good friends with a girl u'r attracted to, cuz it makes our job that much easier) The only guys out there not running something are the gay ones, but thats only cuz u'r a girl . This subject still holds a grip on guys because we can't stray from it, i think its natural, just gotta watch out for the weirdo's and u'll be koolio. As for asking him out and u not having his number, do it in person at work. Ask him what he's doing on that day, as soon as u ask that he knows whats coming, and you also get to see his reaction, Even thought it might be more awkward, feelings are much more stronger in person... good luck

well well, looks like youre in dire need of help with her, Personally this is the part where i think of the most romantic way of showing her u care. We are all limited by our imagination and as such the sky's the limit, For talking to her i would expect u should know a good deal about her, what does she like? no better yet, what does she love? what is somthing u can show her that no one else can? How can u make her feel special? What is her fav love song (here comes what in what i would do) You'd be surprised what music can do, stir up emotions locked up in her heart, it can set the perfect mood for you, and set u up lovely... invite her over, to your room but blindfold her, put candles all around and have a song ready to play (i'd pick 'r-kelly if i could turn back the hands of time' i think it should go well wit u'r situation ) play the song and slow dance with her for the whole song.... (make sure u take her blindfold off , its hard to dance blind) then tell her exactly how u feel, if this doesn't touch her, she was have a heart of ice, well .. best of luck to you, and i hope this works

wow u just explained exactly whats going on with me.. only that i'm the guy, personally i think if he is really such a good friend with you and its everything you say, hes prob. embarresed to make a move with you, but he doesn't want to seem like a loser in your eyes, so he talks about other girls so you can see that hes not obsessing over you, u follow?... Anyways although he goes out of his way for you during work, i think he doesn't want to come on strong out of work by forever calling you, Why dont u give him a call? i bet he'd like that , i'm sure u'r not the only one feeling these feelings, you shouldn't leave everything up to the guy, sometimes in life you have to take the step forward, well i really hope everything works out,