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This post is similar to one i posted a couple of weeks back but the problem just hasn't gone. My girlfriend and i borke up in early oct. Like some other posts i read, it was really out of the blue. After the break up, we were talking every so often for 2 months. Basically it's been 3 months since there has been any contact. She just stopped emailing me and i haven't emailed back. We kind of broke up on descent terms. I guess there was no other reason except the classic female line of ("i need to deal with issues i have" etc.). My question is when do you stop thinking about her? I still think about her daily and i'm currently seeing someone else. I'm really tired of thinking about her and just want it to go away. At the same time if she wanted to get back together, i'd probably consider it. Sounds pretty pathetic dosen't it? Because of this, the new girl i'm seeing is probably going to break up with me in the next little while. I haven't really allowed myself to get close to her even though she's one of the cutest, nicest girl i've ever met. I took some steps today like erasing all of my ex's emails and erasing her phone number from my cell. I hope it helps. Did she ever do a number on me. Anyways, does anyone have any thoughts or comments? Thanks

I've been broken up with my ex since early Oct. It was quite a shock to me. One day everything was great, the next she needed space to concertrate on where she's going. We talked on the phone a couple of times after that and emailed each other (just saying how everything was going) every few weeks until early Dec. I emailed her and that was the last i've heard of her.When be broke up she said that she needed time over the winter to think about things (the classic generic comment), be with her family etc. The problem is that i still think about her a lot. I'm seeing another girl right now. I thought that because i'm seeing some one else, i would forget about her. It's not the case though. Maybe i'm giving myself false hope that we'll get back together because we didn't really leave on bad terms. Its not like i can't function throught the day cause i'm thinking about her lot's, but i do still think about her. I don't know what to do or how long this is supposed to take. Anyone have any comment or suggestions?

well she told me she loved me like the day before. Everything was cool. We do live like 5 hours a part. Part of me thinks that she was thinking of the future wants to do a lot before she settles down. I think she did see a future with me but dosen't want to dive in right now and the circumstances and difficult right now aswell. I don't know if i'm being nieve. anyways i don't know if anyone has any advice.

"I can't fully give my heart to you right now". What is that. It's just like the "I need to find out where i'm going". Can any female decode these lines for me. It the translation "i want to see other people, but want you around just in case" or is it "I don't care about you anymore but want to let you down easy". I thought it was just my girl that said this but i talk to guys and girls say it all the time. Translation please.

Well i'm gonna keep this short. My ex and i broke up about a month and a half ago saying we still had feelings for each other. We've made a little contact here and there. Last weekend was her birthday and she wanted to see each other on her birthday and go out but it fell through. Since then she has sent me a couple of email's that were really friendly. A lot like old times. I'm really not trying to read into them at all, but my question is contact. I really care for her and want to get back with her. At the same time i've moved on in a sense and talking to her brings back strong feelings for her. It makes me think way to much about her. In saying that, i don't know if i should not make contact. I don't want to come accross as a jerk not responding to her since she's been really friendly. Don't know what to do. Any comments?

alright ladies i have another one i get from girls all of the time. Why do they say that "your the 2nd guy i've ever been with". Me and my friends laugh all the time because we hear it often. Why ladies why? Sometimes i know it's not true but i just go along with it. The one thing (girls, your going to agree with me here) i know is that girls LOVE scandal. I think thats maybe why there more inclined to cheat and lie. Comments?

I don't know if you've been following my posts but i have some real question marks about women. First off, why do they lie? My girlfriend wanted to take a break which lead to a break up saying how she misses me and loves me, but can't be with me right now. Why can't they just come out and say i don't want to see you anymore because "i want to sleep with other people, i don't care about you, you're ugly" whatever. It's taken me a while to get over the thought of maybe she'll come back. My point is they can't tell it like it is. 2nd, why do all women cheat. For years men have had the distiction of being the cheaters, but in a recent study, more women cheat then men. I don't know if my girlfriend cheated on me, but part of me thinks most women cheat and lie. One of my personal fav'sis when girls are at the bar and they say "i so never do this". Yeah, me neither baby. The sad part is that there are some of my guy friends have cheated on their girlfriends, but i know way more women who have cheated. I really just don't understand why girls lie so much. I really don't mean for this to sound like sour grapes because of my ex or that i'm intentionally trying to bash women. I'm really just trying to understand why. Anyone have any thoughts??

has anyone ever had your girlfriend break up with you and her say that she still loves you but can't be with you right now do to trying to figure out her life direction? Is that just a line to let you down easy or what? anyone had a similar experience? If so, what happened.

i actually just read that men take a break up a lot harder than women. When a girl breaks up with a guy, his confidence is low and he's less likely to approach girls for fear of rejection. On the other hand, women can go to the bar and get laid when they feel like it. Kind of strange.

This is a question for the girls. When girls break up with someone (when they use the line "I don't know where im at in life", etc.) do they think about the other person at all or do they forget easily and just start seeing other people? Do they take some time to think or do they get right back on the horse? Any one have any comments?

To give you a breif background, my girlfirend and i broke up a little over a month ago. We were together for about 9 months. She lives about 5 hours from me. She wanted a to take a break to find out where shes going in life, etc. She was getting drunk a lot and was a really bad drunk so she didn't want to do that anymore. We broke up saying that we still had feelings for each other. I talked to her about 2 weeks ago casually cause she sent some of my stuff and she bought me a little gift just really wanted to say thanks. I hadn't talked to her since and then she called me a few days a go cause she was going to spend her birthday (which is on sat) in a city close to me and wanted to hang out. We had a pretty good convo. I told her maybe and to give me a call when she had all of her details. Well, she emailed me a longish, really friendly message a little while ago to say that she's not coming because she can't afford it, and shes going to work this week end instead and then go out with a girlfriend and get drunk. She also said that it was "good to hear your voice", "i really wanted to hang out","i was nervous to see you","mail me back, i would love to hear from you". I don't know if i'm reading too much into this or not. I sent her a message back saying thats too bad, it would of been fun, have a blast on your birthday, drop me a line when you get a chance. I'm over her in the sense i'm doing my own thing in all respects and she's not on my mind constantly. At the same time i do think about her and i do miss her. Wondering if anyone had any advice. Thanks

To give you a breif background, my girlfirend and i broke up a little over a month ago. We were together for about 9 months. She lives about 5 hours from me. She wanted a break to find out where shes going in life, etc. She was getting drunk a lot and was a really bad drunk so she didn't want to do that anymore. We broke up saying that we still had feelings for each other. Well i talked to her about 2 weeks ago casually cause she sent some of my stuff and she bought me a little gift just really wanted to say thanks. I hadn't talked to her since and then she called me a few days a go cause she was going to spend her birthday (which is on sat) in a city close to me and wanted to hang out. We had a pretty good convo. I told her maybe and to give me a call when she had all of her details. Well, she emailed me a little while ago saying that she can't afford it, and shes going to work this week end instead and then go out with a girlfriend and get drunk. The getting drunk part kind of annoys me cause she was saying how she dosen't really go out anymore and shes over that but its her birthday i guess. When i talked to her though, it kind of sounded like she was going out a little bit. She also said that it was "good to hear your voice", "i really wanted to hang out","i was nervous to see you","mail me back", i would love to hear from you". I don't know if i'm reading to much into this or not. I sent her a message back saying thats too bad, it would of been fun, have a blast on your birthday. I'm over her in the sense i'm doing my own thing in all respects and she's not on my mind constantly. At the same time i do think about her and i do miss her. Wondering if anyone had any advice. Thanks

This advice helped me when i was going through a situation like yours. Women are like monkeys. They don't let go of one branch till they grab on to another. I know it hurts bro, but let her go. You're the same guy you were before you met her. You'll find someone way better. Just give it some time.

I really appreciate your post. Seeing you have been in a similar situation i would like to ask you a question. Maybe you can help. When i last talked to my girlfriend (ex), we expressed that we had really strong feelings for each other still but the timing wasn't good right in her mind. She wants to travel, figure out where she going in life, etc. She said she missed me and wanted to see me but because of the situation, etc. Anyways, we kind of left the call on a really positive note. We said that we weren't going to play games and we'll call each other when we want to. Her mom is coming to drop the stuff i asked for off and apperantly has a gift for me from my ex. I told her i'd call her to thank her but i don't know if i should. Maybe just an email? I feel as though i maybe said to much in our last convo. I told her this isn't the situation i wanted and it really sucks but i'll have to deal with it. I also told her i wish she hated me cause it would make me feel a lot better than breaking up when both parties still care a lot about the other person. I told her when i see her i'll want to kiss her and i don't know if i could be just a friend. I really feel uneasy about what i said. I don't want to seem needy. I hope i didn't make myself sound weak. Maybe it was out of the moment i don't know. After all that though we were very positive to each other and it sounded like we could be friends. I know i should give her space but i don't want to play the games. I still think about her, but i'm also getting on with my life and thinking about other girls too. What do you think?

I know what you're going through bro. If you look at my last threads, me and my girlfriend broke up saying we love each other and i think thats what hurt the most. I know i doesn't seem like it right now, but it gets better. The first couple of days after my break up, i was picturing her with other guys, thinking that that was the best girl i'll ever get and will never find someone else. It really hurts and it really sucks. Go out with you're friends or familly or who ever. Don't be alone. Force your self to go out and do things. She's going to be on your mind for a while but don't let it interfere with your life. Don't contact her and just concentrate on you. Be good to yourself, move on. I know it doesn't seem like it but it gets so much better. Trust me, you'll find someone a lot better. I hope this helped you out. PM if you need to talk.

Well, it was two weeks since me girlfriend and i broke up. If you look at all my previous posts you'll get whats happen(it's an interesting story). I was in a rough state. I didn't know whether to call or not so i did after 2 weeks. The reason was that i didn't understand the break up. The last time we spoke she told me she loved me. We weren't fighting but she needed a break and i didn't understand why. Well i called the other day and we talked for a while. It was a great convo. She told me she missed me and wanted to see me but it was for the best that we didn't. She said she needed space which i thought was weird because we are in a ldr( about 5 hours away). After talking to her a really started to understand what she meant. She went to see a couseller, hasn't been going out, she's been going to the movies and dinner's by herself and spending a lot of time with familly. She's thinking about going travelling with a friend for a 6 months to a year. She said she wasn't ready for this yet, even though she loves me. I told her i want to be with her and that i'm not happy about this but im going to deal with it. Some of you might say that she's playing games but i don't think she is. I wasn't a believer of someone needing space but i think i do now. I really think she want's to do everything she can feel right in a relationship(we're both 24). I'm not going to wait for her and i told her that. I really felt like crap for 2 weeks and ever since i talked to her i feel good. I'm moving on, but i really feel as though this isn't the end of us. Most girls i've been with over the years, after a break up you know that you're not going to talk to them again. This time is different though. We said that were going to stay in touch and maybe see eachother when were ready. I told her it might be difficult but i'm going to try. Anyways, does anyone have any sucess stories where people get back together?? Please let me know. I really want to thank everyone on this site. Whether you replied to my post or just put a story up, it really got me out of a dark time. I felt really low and i feel a lot better now. Thanks a lot!!

My girlfriend told me 2 weeks ago that she needed space, time to find herself, etc. She broke it off on the phone and at the same time said that she might want to get back together. I told her i really cared for her and want to be with her but i can't handle a break. It sounded over and the last thing i said to her was that i love her. She said i love you too. I hung up the phone and that was it. She emailed me once and it didn't really say anything in the email. I emailed her a couple of days ago saying hi and to "drop me a line" when you're not busy. I think she wants to talk but dosen't know what to say or do. Should i make the contact? I don't know if i should. I don't want to pressure her. Everything was great in our 9 months together up until this. Not sure what to do. We live 5 hours away from each other if that matters. Help please.

Was wondering if someone could help. Its been about 1 week and a half since me and my gf broke up. She emailed me once which didn't really say anything. The problem is that we broke up saying we wanted a break, and theres a posibility we might get back together. I really want to talk to her but i don't know if i should. I haven't called or emailed. Should i just not bother? Should i just get her out of my system or should i go after her? Advice please. *See my last post for details on whats happened.

This is a long one so be prepared. I met this girl about 9 months ago. She lives about a 5 hour drive from me. Basically, we were casual about everything for the first while because she had just broken up with her fiance about a month before. We were casual until mid july when she told me that she had kissed someone the night before. I didn't like it and went to see her 2 weeks later. I told her i loved her. She didn't say it back causee she didn't know how she felt. Another 2 weeks go by and then she says she wants to break it off cause shes confused and dosen't know what she wants, but i talk her out of it and everyhthing is cool. Everything was great at this point. We went on vacation and she told me she loved me. Everything was great. After we got back i would see her every couple of weeks. It was awesome. Then about 2 weeks ago i went and she tells me that she wants some space to think about what she wants to do in life, etc. (the usual stuff). She is also planning on moving closer to me but it somewhere shes wanted to go for a while so she needs to think about that aswell. I didn't really like it but accepted it. The next day was great. We hung out like nothing had happened. Then that night she gets very very drunk, i go to leave and shes talking to this guy so i take off leaving. This guy happens to be her boss who has been hitting on for 4 months. Sends her flowers, tells her how he feels, etc. He's also the guy she kissed in the spring. Calls me a jerk all the time and apperently threw a glass at me at the bar. Anyways, i go home and leave her at the bar. she gets home about 20 min later crying her eyes out. Telling me no to leave. Throws a lamp. Tells me she loves me. The next day we talk and realize that we need some space. She tells me that i'm everything to her and she loves me. I leave and she calls me about 4 days later. We talk and i tell her that i love her and i want to be with her but if she can't totally be with me then i don't think we should see each other anymore. She says that the time off has been good for her and shes been able to think but gets lonely. We told said we loved each other and i said good bye. Four days later I got an email from her that said nothing really. I know she wants to talk to me but dosen't know if she should or what to say etc. I've been keeping my distance and not making contact. I really don't know what to do cause i really care about her. Some advice please.

I'll try and keep this short. I've been seeing this girl for about 9 months. After about 6 we became kind of serious. She lives about 5 hours away. We loved each other and everything was great. We were seeing eachother every 2 weeks when one week i went and she tells we that she wants a break to think about where she wants to go in life etc., etc. She kind of said that she might want to get back together. I don't know if she was trying to let me down easy or if she was scared or what. I was completely shocked but decided to give her space and time. This has all hapened about a week ago now. I'm just really shoked cause we never fought, and really truly told eachother we cared up until about 24 hours before i got there. She sent me an email a couple of days ago that was pretty simple that really didn't say anything. The thing is that i know she wants to talk to me but doesn't know what to do or say. Should i call? Should i not call? Should i just let it go and forget? etc. (i'm really confused). I could use some advice thanks.

I'm really hoping someone has got some advice on this. I met my girlfriend in early feburary. We live in about 5 hours away so we would see each other once a month for 3-7 days. We got serious in july and started going out officaly. We would see each other every 2 weeks. We loved each other and everything was great. She has some days where she is very depressed. She has a bit of a depression problem. After a day or two shes a ray ofclight again. Everything was great when last time i went down she said she needed a break. This was totally out of left field. She didn't want to break up but she needed space to figure out wants in life. I told her that i couldn't do that. We talked it over and the next day everything was alright. We decided to take a break for a bit. That night we went out and she got so drunk. It was terrible. She didn't know up from down. At home she lost control when i was going to leave. She threw a lamp and was crying uncontrolably. We decided the day after that a break was in order. I talked to her about 4 days later and i asked her how things were going. I told her that i wanted to be with her, but i can't handle any breaks. She said that shes been able to think and things are o.k. She kind of said that she might want to get back together. She really just wanted a break but i didn't want to cause there were no gaurantees. Anyways, that happened a few days ago and i really don't know what to do. She still loves me and says i'm everything to her. I don't know what to do. There were no ill feelings when we talked and everything is cool. I told her that i don't know if we'd talk or see each other again which now i think was pretty dramatic. I think i'm going to give this time and space and call her in a few weeks to say hey, but i think she'll call before that. I really want her back. I really love her. I don't know what to do. Any advice?