notoriouschris23

I'm posting this in the hopes of helping someone still hung up on a lost love. About 3 months ago my wife left me for someone else while I was in Iraq. I went through various feeling from anger to sadness. I even thought about killing myself. I'm a shy person so this was really my first relationship and I thought that I would never find anyone else. Since I'm not good in a social environment I could really go to clubs or bars so I decided to try an online dating site. So I posted my profile and a few days later I got a e-mail. Eventually me a this girl met and we hit it off. This girl has helped me realize that if a girl hurts me she isn't worth my time and that there are others out there that'll appreciate the things you do. What I'm trying to say is don't give up and things do get easier when you decide to move on. Think of it as a new beginning in life. There's a whole world of people to meet don't give up.

In my opinion two of the most important things in a relationship is trust and communication. You two have been dating for two years I believe he owes you some kind of explanation. As far what type a liar he is, a liar is a liar. If he lies once who's says he isn't going to again.

I had something similar happen to me. My wife left me for another guy while I was in Iraq. She let her new group of friend persuade her she eas too young to be married. I treated her with nothing but respect, I was honest, I never cheated, and I did everything for her. I still trying to get over it myself. It's been about two month since I found out. You just got to remain strong. There are plenty of women out there that would appreciate a man that'll treat them right. It's difficult, I know, but you got to remember what she did to you even if you got her back what says she won't do it again. It's time to move on find someone who'll appreciates you. Good Luck and stay strong

here's the situation. 10 days prior to returning from Iraq my wife told me she had feelings for someone else. i came back went on leave to be try to work things out. didn't work. she left me for this guy and i've tried to maintain minimal contact sor the last month. well, my wifes grandma is coming here from germany and I promised that i would come down there. obviously while i'm down there i'm going to run into here. what am i supposed to do. should i try to hold my feelings for her in and try not to talk to her. I don't know I still love her. any advice would be appreciated thank you

I appreciate the advice. It helps a lot. I have tried to talk to as many people as possible but all of my friends are still over in Iraq and that make things even harder. Thank you so much.

Here's the situation. I went to Iraq for 6 months 10 days before I come back my wife tells me that she has feelings for another guy. I did everything for her. There isn't anymore that you could do for a women that I didn't do for her. Her excuse is I spoiled her and she wasn't ready for marriage. So now here I am alone and I have no idea what to do. For the most part I'm a shy person until I get to know somebody so that presents one obstacle in meeting people. I don't have any idea were to start. I have the upmost respect for women but after what my wife did I have had thoughts of doing the same thing to avoid getting attached and having my heart crushed again. This may sound corny or stupid but I got a lot of love to give and I need someone to give it too. Where do I start to look. Are there women out there that appreciate a man that'll treat them right. I really don't know what to do and it gets to the point were I think about hurting myself. Losing my wife hurt more than when my mom passed away. Any advise would be welcomed. Thank you.

I'm only 23 so I don't know how much advise I can give. I know I saw my mom go through many bad relationships. Abuse is abuse whether mental, verbal, or physical. What this guy is doing to you is wrong. No woman should be subject to the pain he puts you through. If he isn't willing to get some help then you need to get rid of him. Your too good for this guy. It may be difficult because you love him but obviously he doesn't love you because if he did he wouldn't be treating like this. Get rid of him and find a man that'll make you happy not cry.

10 days before I got back from a 6 month deployment to Iraq I got an e-mail from my wife saying a friend she has been hanging out with told her he has feelings for her and she was confused. I asked her if it was anything I did and she said "no, you spoiled me. It's not your fault is something I need to do." Now she wants a divorce and wants to be friends. I recently went down there and stayed with her mom and dad (who are totally against what shes doing) She says she still loves me and has on several occasions talk about it as just a break with the possibility of getting back together. When ever I get mad at her she's quick to try to smoothe things over. I'm thinking that she isn't too sure about this guy because of the fact she left the possibility of getting back together. and I thinks she quick to smoothe things over because she wants me as a back up in case this doesn't work out. To use the description my mother in law gave me of this guy is that he's a pot smoking, high school drop out who is currently on probation for who knows what. And his friend who he hangs out with are the same as him. The relationship she had before me was with a very similar type guy who was nice in the beginning and then started showing his true colors. I'm afraid she is going to deal with the same thing with this guy and I don't know what to do. I love her with all my heart. Right now I've decided to cut off all ties with her and let her figure it out on her own. I don't know what to do. This situation has gotten to the brink of hurting myself and it's like she has done a complete 180 in a matter of a couple weeks.