mjctraider

Maybe you should look at the situation like it is a game of chess. You moved your piece, now its her turn to move her piece.

I had a similar situation with a girl in one of my classes. It's been over ten weeks and we never said a word to each other, we're both shy and finally today I had an opporunity to talk to her and i said, "Hey I know we don't know each other, but would you want to exchange phone numbers or email addresses and get to know each other." To make a long story short, we ended up talking for about 15 minutes or so and we both exchanged email addresses and now I think it will be much easier to talk to her in person next time I see her, hope this helps.

Ok I previously posted about this girl that caught my attention, half way throught the semester. I finally got the opportunity to talk to her. I'm so proud of myself never went up to a total stranger before let alone a girl that i didn't know. Anyway I asked her if she wanted to exchange phone numbers or email addresses and get to know each other and see what happens. She wanted to know if it was just for the class and my reply was "No just get to know each other and see what happens." I have to say that I completely caught her off guard, lol She said ok and she wrote down her email address and hesitated writing her phone number down. She said something like, "I'm not sure if I should write my cell phone number down because it is always off and I'm almost never home." I'm thinking maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn't want any problems, but I over anaylize everything to death. Anyway I told her, "You don't have to give me your number, I don't want you to feel pressured." So I then gave her my email address and we probably talked for about 15 mintues or so. She asked me what my major was, and I asked her what hers was and we just had small talka nothing big. She did ask if I was married and I replied, "No I am single." I didn't ask her if she was seeing anyone only because I believe that is not the right thing to do when you first talk to someone for the very first time ever. Anyway I forget when she mentioned it I think it was after I said I was single, but like minutes after not liek right away or maybe it was before, I forget now lol. Anyway she mentioned that "Dean and I came up to the college together in the fall and he went bankrupt and had to leave, but I kicked him in the butt to come back in the fall" I'm no expert, but I think that could be a sign she has a boyfriend, but again it could just be a friend she came to the school with, again I'm over anayling again. So my question now is this: I will she her again on Monday and I'm curious to know when is the best time to email her? I don't want to seem desperate, but I don't want her to think I'm not interested in getting to know her.

I have to agree with kskm about some of the points she made. I talked to a girl recently online and I'm extremely shy in person, but we would talk for 4 or 6 hours every night and I was very outgoing. We finally decided to meet and I was back to my shy old self again. However there are times were I talk online and I'm quite shy, but only because the person is focusing on my shyness and not in getting to know me. Anyway I've given up on the online thing for now and figured I'd try meeting someone the old fashioned way, lol.

Add me to the list. I'm not really proud of it nor am I ashamed of it. Just haven't met the right person and I really don't think I would ever want to have a one night stand or anything like that. It would have to be with a woman I care out and be special, besides to me it's not really important for me, I care more about just being with a girl no matter what we are doing and ust being together, then to just have a girlfriend so I can sleep with her. I'm not the kind of guy were I want the "one thing" from a girl. For me a girlfriend would be a friend, compainion, a goddess, someone to care for and be there for her no matter what and make her happy and feel special. Make her feel on top of the world and that she is the best thing to ever happen to me, but that has yet to happen. I'm even a virgin when it comes to kissing. Still waiting for that special moment too. Maybe one day when I'm old and gray, lol.

I'm in the same boat as Kyoshiro Ogari. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, never kissed a girl and I've had dates, but they never lead to a second date. And 99% of the girls I like they either have boyfriend, married or are not interested in me. So I know hjow he feels bout wanting just 1 girlfriend. That's my only wish before I die, is that I meet a girl that likes me and I like her and we both are single. For me it seems to happen every 6 years and it's that time of the year again. There is a girl I like and I'm determined to ask for her phone number. I think she might like me, but I'm not 100% sure of the signs she gives, but she could be the one girl that comes around every 6 years that likes me and I like her, but I havbe a 1% chance of that happening, lol. Kyoshiro Ogari I'm not gonna say you will find her just be patient, but if I could give you some advice I'd say if you have an opportunity to ask a girl out you think might be interested in you take that opportunity, because you could be missing out on something great I like to think and I try to keep this in mind "IF it's meant to be then it will be", but like Kyoshiro Ogari my patience is wearing thin to. I'm tired of getting "let's just be friends" or "you'll meet a girl just be patient" And the "whole you are trying too hard" I don't get that when I'm hardly trying at all in trying to find someone I am compatible with and might have a great relationship with. But like I said if you have an opportunity, go for it, don't let her get away or you'll regret it. I know I have plenty of times. I've had so many missed opportunities, until now I think. After seeing so many couples at work holding hands and shopping together, etc. I said to myself, "I want that." And now with this one girl I like who might like me depending on the signs she gives me, which I always mess up, I'm determined with only 8 classes left before the college semester is over to walk up to her talk to her and ask her for her phone number. I will do this and I will not let anyone get in my way, unless of course she has a boyfriend, lol. Anyway I know how you feel Kyoshiro Ogari I've been single for at least 12 years or so and I wish you the best of luck and if you see a girl that you think likes you and you like her. Find the courage like I have now and talk to her. Goodluck.

Well I had a chance to talk to her and I was going to ask her for her phone number after class was over. We were going the same way and I was going to wait until we were outside were tehre would be less people and she went a different way and before I knew she did, it was too late. She was gone. I tried looking all over campus to see if I could find her because I was determined to ask her for her phone number and talk to her and I could not find her at all. I feel so bummed out right not and I don't think I have what it takes mentally to wait another 5 days before I see her again. I feel like crap like someone just broke up with me or like a family member died. It sucks and I really don't know why I feel so down and depressed. I think it would be better though if I was rejected rather to having to not know what will happen I'm just so tired of it and I don't think I will make it til Monday to see her again. I feel like the more that I wait to ask her for her phone number and the less opportunities I have to talk to her the more likely I'll miss out on a great girl and someone else will ask her out. I just feel so horrible right now

I do that all the time. I always anaylize things to death. I'm just trying to figure out if this girl likes me or not. I know what you are all saying. "Just go up to her and talk to her" That's all I ever hear, but when your rejected 99% of the time you tend to be careful, at least that's how I am. It's very rare and I mean rare when a girl likes me and I like her and we are both single. So I'm just trying to figure out if she is giving me any signals that she is interested in me. I always get the signals wrong. If she's just looking at me and it means nothing then I have no clue about girls and their signals they give to show a guy they are interested in him. I'm no good at this, lol.

Well I saw her today and had two opporunities to ask her for her phone number and I chickened out, why must I be so shy, lol. It's not like I'm going to die if she says no. Oh well I will see her Wednesday so hopefully I will get the courage to just come out and asker her for her phone number. I do have a question though and I know I've seen it posted before I jsut don't remember where I've seen it. We were waiting in the hall waiting for the other students in the class to leave and twice I looked to see if she was looking at me and she was both times. I made sure that I made eye contact with her and as soon as we both made eye contact she immediately looked away. What does this mean again?

Not sure if this will help but you could try this

I feel the same way about being shy and if a girl shows interest in me, I'm too shy to do anything about it. I hate it and wish I could stop being so shy and not take the oppurtunity to talk to a girl that is interested in me. However I think that may have changed. There is this girl in one of my class in college that I think might be interested in me. I've seen her looking in my direction and not sure if she is looking at me or not, but I think she is. I don't know her name and don't know anything about her, but for some reason out of all the attractive girls in that class, she is the only one that has caught my attention. And I don't know how or where it came from, but I have this confidence and self-esteem and motivation that I'm determined to ask her out next time I see her or at least exchange phone numbers. Where this confidence came from I don't know becuase usually I'm like, "I'm too ugly that girl won't go out with me there is no reason to ask her out" I feel so motivated that I feel like I could almost walk up to any girl and ask them out. So I know how you feel, but hopefully you'll get the confidence and motivation like I have right now and go up to a girl that is looking at you or shows some interest and ask her out. Good Luck.

Yeah, it's the best I could come up with so far, but I have 6 more days before I see her again. I'm not sure if it is a good idea to ask her if she wants to hangout the very next time I see her or wait a week or so after we get back from spring break.

For me I think I'm split 50/50. There have been some girls that had children that I would have gone out with and dated and then there have been some girls who had children that I would not date. So I guess it all depends on their personality for me and what kind of girl they are, but I've gone back and forth on the issue many, many times. However overall if I met a girl I really liked and she had a really good personality, it would not matter if she had kids or not.

Well thanks for the advice, I plan on asking her out anyways, I was just curious if a girl doesn't wear rings on her fingers if it means that she isn't involved in a relationship.

Could this mean that she is single or just that she does not like jewerly? I'm just curious to know. There is a girl that I like in one of my classes in college and I don't see any kind of rings on her fingers.

Yeah I've been thinking about what to say to her seeing how we haven't talked and there are only 5 weeks of classes left til the semester is over and the only thing I could think of that might work uis "Hey I know we don't know each other and don't even know each others names, but would you want to hangout sometime and get to know each other?" It might kinda sound lame, but it's all that I could think of without it being too awkward.

If I recall there was a time I was looking in her direction as I handed her a handout the teacher was giving out and smiled a bit and she smiled back and she said something, but I don't recall what it was, but I have been trying to think of what to say to her to break the ice or to just plan ans simply ask her if she wants to hang out sometime and get to know each other more, but I think timing is everything. Edit: On a side note if a girl has no rings or any kind of jewlery on her fingers is it a sign that she could be single? I'm just curious becuase I don't think I see her wearing any jewlery on her fingers

Well funny u should say that. Ever since the first day of class I have sat about 2 or 3 seats to the left of her, but today, maybe it's a sign maybe it was just coincidence there were other people who wear sitting where I usually sit from another class that was finishing up as we were coming into our class and I ended up having to sit right next to her. To all those negative people don't ruin my day by saying "Dude it was just coincidence that you ended up having to sit next to her", lol

I can be talkative and outgoing the girl just has to find my comfort zone and once she has found it, the sky is the limit and I can be very talkative and flirtasious just like any other guy. I guess it all depends on the girl. some girls find it quickly and others have no idea and just focus on my shyness and they never find my comfort zone. However with this girl I like I think she could be shy too, but not sure. On a side note if a girl wants a shy guy to talk, just talk to us, don't focus on our shyness, otherwise it will be a major turn off. At least for me it is if all a girl focuses on is my shyness.

I'll have to keep an eye out for that, but I do believe she plays with her hair everytime we have class together, but like I said I don't think she looks at me why she does it or she is looking straight ahead, but there could have been a few times she did play with her hair and was looking in my direction while she was doing it I just didn't know. The thing that sucks though is that I won't see her for 11 days on the account that we are on spring break from college now and the waiting is just killing me, plus the fact that there are only 10 more classes left before the semester is over and I only see her during our class and no other time and like I said we've been in class for 7 weeks and not said a word to each other. I know everyone thinks it really easy what I need to do, but being an extremely shy guy around girls, it's never easy to just approach someone, but I'm gonna keep looking for signs and hopefully she is interested, but time will tell.

Ok this might be a dumb question, but I'm going to ask it since I have no idea of the signs that a girls gives that she likes you, but I have a feeling I know the answer to this question, I just want to be sure. If she plays with her hair, but doesn't look at me while she is doing it, is she just playing with her hair or is she trying to get me to look her way when she does it? I only ask because I don't want to confuse anyone into thinking that she plays with her hair and looks at me at the same time.

I'm just curious to know what are some of the nonverbal signs a woman gives to a guy to show that she likes him, regradless of whether or not she is shy or outgoing? I'm bad at reading the signs and need an idea on what the right signs are to look for. Any help would be appreciated.

Yeah I kinda figured that, but since she never smiles, I just figured I'd ask. I think I have seen her playing with her hair before, but not sure if she is doing that to get mine or someone else's attention or if she is just playing with her hair. I've also noticed now and then it's rare, but she will look in my direction. Not sure if she is looking at me or just looking my way, more than likely she's probably just looking my way and not at me. I never get the singals with girls or I get the singals mixed up so it's always hard to tell if a girl likes me or not.

Ok I am half way through my spring semester at college and I've noticed this girl who sits two seats to the right of me. We've never talked to each other and I have a feeling she might be shy, but not sure. I rare ever hear her talk so I'm guessing she is shy. She also hardly ever smiles. The last couple of times that the teacher has handed out lecture terms or handouts for us to read I've noticed that she has smiled at me when I hand her the handouts and today she smiled and said thank you on two different occasions. Is she just being friendly or is there some small chance she might like me? She's never said thank you before in the past, until today. In some way she has gotten my attention and I'm intrested in getting to know her more, but not sure how to go about doing it seeing how I'm shy and I'm thinking she is shy. I'd liked to be able to just talk to her, but since 7 weeks of classes have gone by without us even saying two words to each other, I feel like it would be kind of awkward if I just started talking to her out of the blue. Any advice would help.