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  1. mjctraider
    I'm sure this has been played out to death, but i just don't feel like scrolling through all the threads. Sorry. I've tried the online dating thing for years and years and I seem to get no where. So my question is how do you date the old-fashioned way when you are in your late twenties and shy? I live in a small area where most women are already taken and there doesn't seem to be a whole lot of single women. I have a few friends, but all the women they know are taken. There really aren't any groups or clubs you can join around where I live. There are plenty of women where I currently work, but there is that old rule about not dating someone you work with and if you do, it could get real ugly. Also I don't drink so clubs and bars are not my thing and I really don't have any interest in meeting a woman from a bar or club, it's just me nothing against women that like the bar or club scene. So what can a guy like me who is shy and 28 do to get a date before the Internet came along? I'm tired of trying through the online dating sites and I think I'm ready to try my luck by just meeting someone in a public place or something, jsut don't know how to go about doing it.
  2. mjctraider
    I agree that the Internet isn't the best way to find someone, but for me it's pretty much the only way. I have limited ways of meeting people around me and the ones i'm interested are already spoken for and the ones that aren't well, I can't seem to find them. I've been looking for years and years and just can't seem to find anyone the old fashioned way. I figured online dating was my only option. As far as the second date thing, i'm talking more just in general whether I meet them from work, school, Internet or where ever, they see my shyness and don't want to take the time to get to know me. What very few women know is that I can be outgoing. I've been told my a few girls that I'm not shy, but they know me already. Most girls that don't know me see my shyness and run for the hills.
  3. mjctraider
    I wanna keep believing that I will find someone when I least expect it, but I've been single all my life. I've never had a girlfriend and I never get to the second date. So everyday I lose a little bit of hope of every finding that girl that I will connect with on so many levels.
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    I would work out if I could, I do have a weight machine at home, but I haven't used it in a long while and basically the only reason why is because I have a hernia and really don't want to makje it worse than it already is. I need to find out if I can at least use parts of it to at least tone my muscles. I don't care to be the muscle bound jock you see walking the street that only cares about working out 24/7. Plus I just don't have much time since I work 40 hours a week and go to school. It would be nice to get a little muscle mass on my body, just not sure if its a good idea mainly because of the hernia.
  5. mjctraider
    I have been told by several girls that I am funny and all that, but everytime they seem me as a friend and nothing more. I'm short, slender and going bald and most women at least from what I have seen, see it as a turn off. They want the atheltic or average sized guy that is taller than myself and it always gets me down. I'm usually shy at first, very shy and I do get a date now and then, but it's very rare and I never get a second date. They see me as too shy, but they don't realize that there is an outgoing guy in me, they just have to take the time to get to know me and so far not one girl has been willing to do that or at least one that was not married or already taken. I'm not a religious person so I think church is the wrong way to look, I have my believes and they might class with someone who is religious. I'm more spirtual. And I'm not into country music so the line dances are out. Yes they are just suggestions, but I live in an area that isn't very populated and any females that are around are taken. Also my shyness gets in the way and I tend to be a homebody. I have friends, but it's rare that we hang out much. Basically right now online dating is my only option. I know it's not the best way to meet people, but I did meet one girl whom I would later be friends with and we've been friends for over a year. She meet another guy online and they couldn't be more happier. They been dating for almost a year and a half. So while it might not work for everyone there are a few where online dating works. Right now it's my only option. At work everyone is taken and it can always lead to problems if things go sour. I've seen a few to make me think twice about getting involved with a woman from work. I guess all I can do is keep looking and hope that at some point in time someone is willing to put my shyness aside and get to know the funny and outgoing guy I can be.
  6. mjctraider
    Well for me at least I don't like myself being photographed and it's like pulling teeth with me to get me to smile. As you can see with my new photo, I absolutely hate it, but i am smiling, but it was a struggle, lol.
  7. mjctraider
    Well ok here goes. First no i have not edited my profile. Second I figured it would be good to at least ask her first name. I don't ask for last names. I just want to know her first name. Third I only give her my myspace page to contact me, which is free that way it is still confidential and she don't have to worry about me know her real email address and I also give her my email address that I use everyday. Fourth and I have to stress this again. The sites I mainly use allow a person to view their email they get without having to pay for it. However maybe they are deleting the contact info from the emaik, but that would be lame if they did. Fifth, if I send a wink and they wink back I email them back and if I don't hear from after a week or so, I mvoe on and don't email back. Or if I email right off the bat and don't haer back from them, I don't bother to email them back because I assume they are not interested and I don't want to annoy them by sending them anaotehr email. Sixth. It's kinda hard to get a good pic out of me. I've tried many, many times believe me. I try and update it though every now and then, but the pic is always just me, no one else. Seventh and I think this is it. I appreciate the complement from doyathink about me having a great personality. Gave me a bit of a confidence boost. I thank you for that. And maybe I should talk about my clear rocks, lol.
  8. mjctraider
    It is free to view the emails and I give them several ways of contacting me and I only say that a few things about me amybe one or two and just ask what there name is and a few questions about their interests if they didn't post it in their profile and yes I do let them know that I'm interested in getting to know them.
  9. mjctraider
    I know men do it too. I'm just frustrated and irritated. Just tired of being single and being screwed over everytime.
  10. mjctraider
    Well I'm sure there are a few that are not truthful and some that might just be on there as some sorta joke, but it just annoys me that if your not interested don't say you are. I would never do that to a female if they winked at me or emailed me and I wasn't interested in them. I would just delete it and not mess with them like that, that's not me. I know there are people like that out there that would do that, but it's jsut annoying as **** . You know what I mean there. I'm just tired of going through this over and over and over again. It's like every single female is sick and twisted and just wants to mess with me by pretending to be interested in me when they really are not. And I have to keep asking myself why does this keep happening to me. I mean if you look at all the females I have emailed, winked or flirted with through online dating. I'd that 95% say they are interested when it turns out they are not and I find it hard to believe that that many females would be that cold hearted.
  11. mjctraider
    No it's free to send a wink, but you have to pay to send an email, but it is free to view the email. I just don't get why a woman would send a wink or flirt to someone they are not interested in.
  12. mjctraider
    Ok I have been trying the whole online dating thing with very little sucesss. As some would know from another thread I posted I here. I have a question for the ladies and i'm baffled by the whole thing. If a guy sends a wink or a flirt at you and you send a wink or a flirt back does this mean you are interested and want us to respond back with and email? I have had this happen a few times now and after they send a wink back to me I send them an email and I never hear back from them. So I would like to know why if you send a wink back to say hey i'm interested and I send an email back that I never hear anything bac? It's like if your not interested don't wink back at me or send a flirt back. And no it can't be my emails. I send a short email telling them a little bit about myself that they don't know and then I ask a few questions that I don't know about them and give them several options of contacting me. It's not like I'm been a pervert when i send an email. i'm been a gentlmen. And I know some will say that they get lots of responses from guys and blah, blah, blah they find one they like and never contact you back, that's why you never hear from them back. I know all that. I just want to know why do you send a wink back to a guy that you are not interested in.
  13. mjctraider
    Yeah I know, no harm done. I just needed a good laugh here. I needed to amuse myself to get rid of the stress of college, lol.
  14. mjctraider
    Lol what I'm not psycho. Not one bit. I couldn't be any saner. I'm completely normal. OMG the voices. I just wish I could stop all the vocies in my head, lol. Sorry I'm just stressed and needed to amuse myself here. I'm almost done with school for good and just stressed with that and depressed and lonely because I can't find any single women near me and just need to cheer myself up here. I'm not insane at all. Just don't call me crazy, lol I'm perfectly sane. Scouts honor.
  15. mjctraider
    I have a friend that tried them and was fine at first, missed one day of taking them and he had some serious problems. He threw the res out after that.
  16. mjctraider
    Well the nurse tried giving me my meds, but I kept on ranting about numbers and how I can't find my clear colored rocks and eventually I snapped and bit the nurse's hand off. Needless to say they locked me in this padded room and I still can't find my rocks, lol.
  17. mjctraider
    OMG how did you know? I so want some rocks right now, maybe they should invent some clear colored rocks, lol. Where are my meds. I think it's time that I go in the corner and mumble to myself
  18. mjctraider
    69% Psycho, someone better call the guys with the straight-jackets. Boy I can't wait for my daily pills and my new friend that only I can see and the rob and slips I get to wear. My God I'm in heaven, lol.
  19. mjctraider
    Well for me I want the personality more than the looks, looks for me are a little important, but personality is way more important for me. Although it is funny that you talk about weight, becuase I think that is one of the big things for me. Most women see my pic and see how slender and short I am and get turned off. Oh well can't please them all. BTW As it turned out with this one girl, she was a fake. I tried emailing her twice and I get an email back saying failure to deliver. I checked the email address I gave her and checked it with the email I send her and it is bogus. I tried emailing her through the personal site telling her the problem and no big surprise, but I get the exact same email she first sent me. So at that time I decided that either she is a bot or that she isn't from this country and is just looking for a green card. Oh well I guess I'll cast away again. I'm just annoyed at these people who say they are from the US, but aren't. I despise liars.
  20. mjctraider
    This is true, I think I'll probably send an email in the morning before I head to work and see where it goes. If she responds back I'll send another email again in the morning the day after that.
  21. mjctraider
    Yeah this is true, I just don't want to come off as too desparate or needy if I reply back too soon.
  22. mjctraider
    Well here we go again. I cast my line out and already I got another bite. Didn't think it would happen this quickly, but it did. I have a quick question. I just got the email from her today and she provided and email address, how long should I wait before emailing her? Again I don't want to sound desparate or needy, u know?
  23. mjctraider
    Yeah I agree it is her loss, she don't know what a great guy I can be. I shall just cast my line out again and hope for a catch.
  24. mjctraider
    I have a feeling this one got away. I'm on the dating website and so is she right now and I know she had to have read my email by now, but I think that if she saw that I was online and was interested just a little that she would have sent a wink or an email back. Maybe I'm wrong. Oh well guess I just have to cast my line out there and try again. I would send her an email right now, but I don't want to sound desparate and needy. Besides I've sent two that had a way of getting in touch with me through email.
  25. mjctraider
    link removed has winks too. That's where i'm currently residing, lol. Yeah I was thinking of emailing her tomorrow.
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