tattoobunnie

You have PTSD, and it can take several tries before you actually leave because abuse "fries" your brain where they rip you apart to the point you are completely not sure what to do. He won't change. He won't do better. The only thing you can do is get out. Contact a domestic violence abuse shelter. Let family and friends know what is going on, and do not be embarrassed. These completely manipulative people do numbers on victims.

Speaking from my hub's personal experience of not being to find work in his field during a pandemic, and not qualified for almost all available positions in his field because he didn't finish college, even though he's taken at least 4 years of college. He finally found a job that's in a completely related field, and starts in two weeks. It's one thing if the OP is just spending volumes of money. But, he's not. He has a great and free opportunity to learn, and he is looking for motivation. And on a personal note, I'm also speaking with my Bachelors and Masters...what I do now is 100% unrelated, but that education completely adds so much to what I do now, and only benefitted from it. I also find that once you get married, and have kids, getting back is school is not easy. The OP is 27...I am definitely advising him to stay in college to finish. The issue is here, he's just not sure what he wants to ultimately do.

I should clarify. There are a lot of positions that write you off if you don't have a degree. Most hiring sites and recruiters will use pre-screen automations, and depending on the position, will automatically discount you even if you have a ton of relevant experience. And when I call it a piece of paper, I mean, you can get a degree in one thing, but down the road, pursue a career in something completely different, and that's okay. Many successful people have failed many, many times in their life...it's what you do afterwards by picking yourself up is what makes all the difference. In lots of cases, classes aren't even to give you a taste of what the industry is like. But you can get hands-on experience through INTERNSHIPS and Coops...they are your friends.

A piece of paper will never define you, but no one can take it away once you have it. A degree always opens doors, so even if film and digital arts aren't for you, finish getting a degree anyway since it's free. Live with roommates to help cut expenses. Volunteer, join committees, go to networking events...you'll find your way. Remember, you need to earn a living, and you don't have to have it fulfill you. You can always have passions outside of your paying gig.

Yay!!!! Congrats!! This is wonderful! High five back!!!!

Just say your boyfriend won a trip to (insert some place far), and spend it with your man, whether loafing around the house or whatever.

Next time, towards the end of the 1st date, ask them for the 2nd one with someone fun planned (no home dates!!!!) for a week away. Then, text after three days to get their input on what food they like to eat, or any food allergies, or dress code for the date. Asking in person, you get a good idea of what next. Texting the next day, even though, cool, you need to slow your roll. Anticipation is good in the beginning.

Tell him to either marry his mother, or never ever speak to you like that again. It's either he's got your back 100% or he doesn't. And if he doesn't, this will never work. If your partner wants to invite guests over, they can clean the house and make the coffee. If anyone ever judges you for not having a clean house or coffee made, ask them what address you can use to send the bill to. You are the boss of the house, and I don't care who's bringing home the bacon. You never ever invite yourself to someone's home, and judge it.

Never prioritizes you, and isn't sexing you up on the regular. I guarantee he spent 99.99% more time strategizing for his gaming, then doing things that benefitted the relationship. You're just bummed and stressed because your roommate is gone, but this was not a partnership. NEXTTTTTT!!!

Tell him you can't make the Saturday wedding then because you'll be too tired from having a blast on Friday! T1t for Tat. Sometimes they need reminders, you can hold your own without them.

Badasses aren't sore losers, and they help lift people up, not perpetually compete with them to keep them down. Humility makes you a badass. She's so busy focusing on being better than others, not the best. You should not be her therapist, and it's not your job to deal with her superiority complex. No advice other than, time to drop this person...she seems to live no room to make you feel good. It's seems to only ever to be about her.

My office's company comes up on caller IDs as the old service provider, and this is after 15 years of moving on with our own plan. All those databases that mine data will use whatever data they have, and for Caller ID, will show what is is not system, not based on the who is paying for it. I think you maybe grasping at straws in this case. Just add him if you like him to your phone. If not, move on.

Correct. Make sure to have your lawyer file for temporary custody of the home. Include that her work trips are a way she abandons the children, and are not fully work trips. You need time to decompress and away from her, so you can think clearly. It is impossible to do this with her there wining you up. This way, she gets to keep her househusband and child caregiver, while she's off banging other dudes. COME ON DUDE, don't let your little guy call the shots. You're better and worth more than this!

What makes you think you can't do or find someone better than a homophobic, insecure racist? Honestly!? What makes you think you can't do better than a hateful moron? The only way you will ever do better is to actually want a real partner who is empathetic, compassionate, and loving to all, and he is not it! Either hurt now, or hurt the rest of your life with a narrow-minded avid supporter of discrimination.

My post has old info...not relevant.

Living with two people with ADHD, I definitely recommend getting checked for this. It is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about, or makes you less of an awesome person. It's like having a racecar for a brain. It's processing at a super high speed, or you may be impulsive or get lost in a thought, wanna conquer the world one day, and get stuck watching youtube all day the next. There are tools to work on things too! I find it helps for you and others to know your strengths and things to improve upon. My hubs and son are geniuses IQ wise, so there's that...your brain is just running on warp speed!

I have been in long term relationships with guys I met on match.com and eharmony.com. Go for paid sites. You can what you pay for with freebie sites. I also know over 20 married couples that met online. Don't knock it, till you've tried it.

He probably DMs strangers all the time, 24/7. And you were one of the ones in his rotation to get his socks off. I know plenty of good looking dudes who wouldn't mind the drive to get laid. I would get an STD check. Don't be weird about online dating - it'll help you get your feet wet, and you never know if they know someone who knows someone who is the one for you.

I have two boys, 3.5 years a part, and are thick as thieves. I was convinced that my 2nd would be like my 1st, a 2.0 version, but he's completely different with preferences, even straight out as a baby till now, to eating habits, food and clothing choices, reading levels at the their ages, talking, how they are personally, empathetic vs life of the party, and life has been amazing having them both. Oh, my eldest (9) is as thin as a rail. My youngest (5.5) weighs more than by 15 lbs...think about that. You really never know what you're gonna get. But they are both WILLFUL children - karma for me and hubs being like that as kids...hahahhaa Also, I gained 50 lbs with my first, and 18 with my second, and 10 lbs of it was the baby! And my symptoms varied too. We wanted a second kid for the sibling aspect, that you always have someone to help you move, and be there for you whether you hate eachother or get on like gang busters. My husband is an only child, and he's cool. I find if you are torn now, then put a pin in it...come back in a few months, and see how you feel. A bunch of my friends have kiddos 7 years apart, and doing great.

I once dated a guy like this. I married a MAN who doesn't even notice other women (and if and when he does, I would never know or have known). Get with a man who is too busying talking you up.

Men and Women regularly saying something about my hub's calves because they are surprisingly extremely muscular and defined, unlike the rest of him (haha), so they blurt out comments. And they aren't hitting on him. I mean, were you creeped out? I would be, but I get creeped out by all men not my hubs paying me compliments that are body part focused. Like if he looked surprised, I'd let it slide. But if he's like, "GARATTTEEE Legs"...bleh

"Behind every beautiful woman, there is a guy sick of sleeping with her." Meaning, there's more to a long-lasting and healthy relationship than compliments, fatty foods, and a good time. Life laughs when you try to set it to cruise control.

People who refused help never go far in life. They are also the ones who never offer help. And no, he's the lucky one! If I were you, I would reconsider being in a relationship with him.

Hugs!!

20 days in person vs 2 years in person. How they eat in public vs at giants events vs corporate events vs street fairs vs when it's just you two vs with the family vs picnics, on the beach, on a road trip at a dive at a Michelin Star restaurant. What a bad period day or good hair day is like. There is a lot of nuances you don't always get or discover by virtual meetings and phone calls. You married a woman and are already complaining about her, and sweating there's no other options left, and don't believe there is room for improvement for yourself? That this is the best you'll ever be? What it the post of posting if you are not be held accountable for your own actions? It's your life too, and it's not on cruise control. As basing it on a school schedule and time constraints is a shot gun wedding.