Dontwannagiveup
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Like I’ll say I’ll do something like fill the holes in the walls and get distracted and not do anything until she’s upset that they are still there even though I said I would do them before. Or the big issue which is all my own fault not managing my money right. I’ll spend and spend trying to appease everyone and be upside for part of the month throwing finances. Like I dont want to be this way and I have to step back and assess the way I’m behaving cause one I’m just gonna be like this with the next person I would be with if we broke up and two I don’t want to run away cause that’s always my first instinct. Like people are better off without me but that’s selfish cause I’m running not trying to change. And I do legitimately want to change!
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I would say looking back and taking the time it comes from how I was raised. As I’ve gotten old issues in that relationship have cause problems with my girlfriend. I love my girlfriend. I love our child. I hate being selfish because in the end I don’t get much out of it. I don’t feel grounded so I feel like I distract myself from things that are important or even hard to deal with.
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I also have the worst time remembering things. I feel like I live in clouds so often and just am not present.
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One, I’ve come to the realization that I can be fairly selfish and have a place my mask on first before helping others mentality. And I’ll make promises I cant keep or lie for no reason. It just me being manipulative. we have a daughter and it’s hard to plan things. The issues she tells me between us is that I’ll say how much I care and lover her but won’t show it.
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I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. Due to my selfishness and issues that haven’t been properly dealt with our relationship is on the brink. She tells me that I don’t show that I care. I don’t know what to do. I never know what to do. I don’t want to lose her but she’s absolutely fed up with me. She tells me that I also need to show her that I care. But I do and I don’t know how I can properly show her.