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  1. Tat2DGurly
    I think you should do whatever you feel is right in your heart. Maybe you should sit down and write out all of the pro's and con's of what you want to do. I just hate to see people set themselves up for a fall and it seems like she doesn't want what you want. I'm just gathering this from what you wrote the first time. I know how it feels to want someone so bad but they don't want you. In another post I wrote about a guy I dated whom I totally fell in love with, he was in the military and was being shipped off to another country. I told him I wouldn't wait for him and I instantly regreted it. I often wrote him and talked with him on the phone begging him to give me another chance but he wouldn't. I thought I would never feel that way about anyone ever again, but when I least expected it I met my now husband and I'm head over heels for him. I guess the point to this is, if you feel you need to exhaust all of your options take that chance, but be prepared for any answer that she is going to give you even if it is rejection. Another word of advice if she does reject you, move on and when you least expect it your dream girl will walk into your life and sweep you off of your feet. Good luck
  2. Tat2DGurly
    If you want my honest opinion and I know this will probably offend you but it sounds like you are being very obsessive. She may be getting a good thrill out of you falling all over her too. I use to date this guy that was just like you and it really boosts your self esteem to know someone wants you so bad but you know you have no intention of getting with them. Think about yourself in this situation, you were fine without her before you new her why wouldn't you be fine now? Be real with yourself DON'T call her. It's like the VERY old saying goes "if you love someone let them go, if they come back to you then you know it was truly meant to be but if they don't then it just wasn't meant to be" however, only you can make your decisions, and you are the only one in control of you life and you need to remember that. Good luck ~Tat
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    I had to reply to your last statement. In my psychology class I learned that most couples last longer if they have not so much similar interests but the same goals in life. So even if you meet someone who does not have the same interests they may just have the same goals and ultimately that is more important. Look at it this way if you have different interests you are going to be trying new things together and growing to love different things together. But if her goal is to be a massage therapist on a cruise ship and your goal is to be in psychololgy and help kids your in two different worlds. So I suggest paying more attention to long term goals then what you immediatley have in common with someone. Good luck ~Tat
  4. Tat2DGurly
    It sounds to me that maybe you two just grew apart. Usually if someone wants a break its because they want to move on away from the relationship. Maybe going off to college and growing has made her think about her life and where she really wants to be and that may not be with you. Honestly you sound like a nice guy I would give her the space move on and have a good time in your life as well. Don't call her and see what comes of it she may just find out that she really missed you and wants you back but for hell's sake don't put your life on hold because some girl can't make up her mind about whether or not she wants to be with you. Have fun and live it up, if it's not her it will be with someone else. ~Tat
  5. Tat2DGurly
    To answer your question yes he is controlling. Are you fighting when the name calling breaks out? Do you argue back or sit there and take it? ~Tat
  6. Tat2DGurly
    I guess the first thing you could do is NOT to flirt with other women. Your wife has every reason to be upset and once you break that vital trust you two share she is going to become very suspicious of every thing that you do. Now it is up to you to make her feel better. Being that you still work with this person it may be very hard. I would just keep reassuring her and what ever you do DO NOT get mad at her when she questions you about this girl. Just reassure her and tell her you love her. ~Tat
  7. Tat2DGurly
    If you met her on the internet most likely you are not the only one hooking up with girl. Out of curiosity have you met her in person yet?
  8. Tat2DGurly
    This is my story of lost love. I met a guy about three years ago through a friend of mine. Immediatley we hit it off and in less then a week he was telling me he was in love with me. I knew at that moment that I truly loved him to and I felt as though I had my soul mate at the tip of my fingers. To make a long story short he was in the military and was being shipped of to another country. I told him I couldn't wait for him and I let him go. Three years later I'm still kicking myself in the A$$ for letting him go and I am now married to someone else. I begged this guy to take me back but I knew he wouldn't. I guess my advice to you is if you really feel this intense about her and you know you love her exhaust all of your options until you have nothing left. DON'T GIVE UP. You will no when you have had enough and you will move on or someone totally unexpected will walk into you life and it just won't matter anymore. This is what happened to me. I still wonder what would have happened if I would have waited but I know I love my husband and even if that person showed up at my door right now professing their love to me I would stay with my husband. Good luck with you!!! Keep smiling
  9. Tat2DGurly
    I was sexually abused several times throughout my life and I am now finding myself wanting to seek professional help. I recently got married and find that at every twist and turn I am questioning my husband. I know that I am driving him away from me because of my accusations. It has gotten to the point where I am afraid to go out in public with him because I don't want to be there when he is eyeing another girl. Not to long ago we went to this club and he was checking out this other girl and I flipped out on him. The thing is, is that he just glanced at her but in my mind it was worse. I didn't think anyone knew how I felt and I came to this forum and read what others have written here and I finally feel like I am not alone with my insecurities and not being able to trust people. Especially men. I have anxiety attacks all the time and I am currently starting on Paxil but it doesn't seem to help much. Is there anyone else out there that has these experiences in their relationships and have you been sexually abused? My first counseling session is Monday. I'm nervous but have the hope that it will help me and my husbands relationship.
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