jl_gal

all my life i carved ACCEPTANCE until it become an obssession that drives me into despression........ i can't take the worries and failures anymore When i was born my parents wanted a male. However all they got is a female. Thus i was a neglected child that seeks for attention. Due to that i always irritate and disturb people to get that attention i want. Yes! I did get the attention i seek but i am hateable by my relatives and friends.This went on until i am 12 when i finally realised i got to change. In high school i turned into a really nice girl but boring. thereforeeeeee i was always leave out from my friends and my close friends will dump me when they find a cool friend The failures i make really drove me crazy............ Now when i am in college i was once agian left out and rejected by guys i like......... Now i got a feeling i am losing my gang in college as they started to leave me out in anything they do......... i am so fed up..........i can't live likethis anymore....... i can't take the pressure of worrying about tomorrow......feeling the fear of being leave out and dump by my friends HELP ME !!!!!PLZ

thanks so much for making me feel better ya nice advice i really treasure it however i want a gang to eat lunch together go to classes together tell personal stuff and all but joining other clubs gives me more friends not close friends. well actually i felt i did not wrong to my friend it is just we r not the same and to find a new gang now is so tough] thank a lot u guys i really value ya advice

now i am in college as many would say college is an entire new world u see i have never been the outgoing popular kind most of the time i am in a group of friends as i find it hard to mix around thereforeeeeee in my college i have 3 close friends which i follow aroud through college hours the problem is i think one of the girl(A)dislike me so now i am always left out and it is obvious the other girl (B) is closer to (A) then to me. worst still (A) always hang out with the guy i like and make me pathetic in front of the guy i like i am so sad i find it hate to be cheerful anymore. She make me sulk however don't ask me to mix with other ppl cause most of them got their own gang and i just don't know how to mix with other ppl Do u think i should confront (A) and ask her to forgive me or should i just ignore (A) and carry a relationship with (B) only plus forget about the guy i like?

Well if she is the no commitment kinda girl then i understand why is she trying to distance from u. i think she is still trying to digest what have just happen for the past few days and i have to say that is a lot for a week. The best thing u could do now is do not pressure her and give her sometime to think. I know this is hard and ur passion and confusion is killing u as u want to understand wat is goiing on but give her space. Then only u ask her nicely want do she want.

First of all u need to know if she the outgoing type or the quiet type?????Yes!! i think it is quite normal for certain girls to be like that especially the girl which seldom date and the good girl kind I think she is nervous talking to you that is why she always answer with a yes or no as she is scare that she might sounded like a fool if she talks a lot. She also cut her conversation i think because she scare that it ended up to be an awkward conversation and that conversation might ended up being a bitter memories

thanks keep up ya good advice and you could make a difference

Here goes ......3 boys and a girl r making my life a mess............ready to read about it..............3 boys and a girl in a pizza place(yayayay) Well first there is A who i think likes me but i don't like him. at first i and him is just buddy until he always call me every night till i am afraid everytime the phone rings. He also ask me out but i am to afraid to reject because he goes like this... A about friday" me: busy A: saturday then me A: and on and on and on me: why don't u call agirlfriend(not personal ) to come along A: cannot contact me i call my girlfriend A want i don't know them.shy he wouldn't give up but i don't want our friendship to be ruin so now i accept his date So how do i turn him down without ruining our friendship?????? B and i are good friends until one day i accidentally email my love letter to a guy i like©. I didn't realise but i feel the weirdness in b character to me. He started avoiding me because i know he doesn't like me but my (friend )------gal so then i just don't bother to explain because i thought everything will be back to normal in three weeks or so However our friendship is ruined for like a month already now i really really want to be good friends because i miss talking to buddy like him.He is such a sweet girlfriend What should i do?Don't ask me to explain cause hten my rejection will be all over school C is the guy i like . He is the guy iam supposed to send that love letter to but it ended up in B inbox.HAHAHa what a mess i make in one click. This guy rejected me as he likes gal. (same gal as B like)My heart is broken aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh NOW I AM GREEN(NOT OF ANGER LIKE THE HULK) but of jealousy for two guys i like so deal like gal.

I hope this advice won't offend you but i think you are facing depression. Whoa!!!! I bet you must have felt went you read this words but depression don't mean you are sick. Just that you don't have a healthy mind. In fact my sister suffers from depression. Just out of concern i think you should check up on depression and then see if you have the symthoms. Later seek for help. Depression is either in herit or have a bad past>>> so good luck!!! sorry if this offended you. Don't hurt yourself okay!!! if you need a friend you can always turn to me!!!

I used to be the same and than this antisocial thing cause me to have hatred for those who doesn't accept me.However today i am on the process of curing. Enough about me but i have an advice take into mind that u should aviod this anger as it will only draw u deeper in ya problem What u should do is??? 1. write a list of con and pro on urself. Then try to change all the con into pro. 2. be confident as people only respect u if u respect urself(reminder don't be to the extreme as u might turn out arrogant) 3.about the fear of talking to someone this might because u fear of rejection. So tell urself what is the worse that could happen if u are rejected and ready urself for that rejection. 4. Join clubs or activity to meet more people 5. try not to try to hard to please others cause thiis might make u artificial or ppl might take advantage on ur weakness. 6. Practice all this as practice makes perfect GOOD LUCK If u wanna know more contact me at email removed

I think that gal likes you but she is a shy kind. She just want to be at her best when you are around .So when you make your move to talk to her she must be unprepared thereforeeeeee she just make excuses to leave. however if she approaches you she must have prepared herself to think of some witty things to say to make you think she is such a cool girl. My advice is tried to give her sometime to let her feel comfortable with you.

I have been in the same church with this guy. However we use to be enemy once small. Now we don't even talk and i know he dislikes me. One day i suddenly find myself hots for him. Since then i found myself admiring him as he is smart, witty, good and everything. I really am into him but so are many gals. I wanna talk to him and be his gf but then i think he still dislike me. Another thing is everytime i am near him i just like have a mind blackout and start acting dumb. I really really like this guy. Help me to make him like me? any advice

Help me! I am green with jealousy. I know this is hazardous. It could ruin my friendship and this makes me pretend to be like her and cause hatred to myself. I mean she is smart, pretty, sweet, soft, witty, athletic and everyone just love her. I am like behind her shadow so this makes me dislike her. Plus she doesn't really get along with me but we are in the same gang. Sometimes I feel like ruining her relationship with others so that people will start to like me not her. I know this is evil that why I am here waiting for advice. Can someone help me to stop this jealousy be4 I do something cruel? The guy I have a big time crush also like her. Why is it that everyone just like her not me. How to make ppl like me? I have tried everything from being myself to be like her but still I am her hidden shadow! HELP!!!!