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Hi!!! =) I have a problem with socially inept people. How do I break through to them? They make me feel bad because I feel it as my own failure when I am incappable of making contact. Advice please?

Hello everyone, school is over for me and well, I don't have any friends. Christmas is coming up but I don't have any family. Then there is new year's eve. I'm pretty much alone and...it just completely sucks. Sigh, life isn't very exciting right now.

Actually Josh, i'll tell you the right way to kiss. 1. Stand in front of her and talk slowly. 2. Slowly move in as you talk. 3. Raise your right hand up to her face, slide it in so that her ears are right between your index and thumb. 4. Kiss her 5. Move that hand further back and rub her hair a bit your fingers. 6. Stop 7. Lean back to almost touch her lips and back out (teasing) 8. Kiss her again or call it a night. Either way she'll think of you.

Not too long ago I had a change of attitude and a new look in life. I could not have been happier when the change came and I was beginning to think that maybe life has really turned around for me. Sadly it has not. Being this way sometime now I realized that I am back to square one. Though it is a deviation from the first depresion, it is just as painfull. This new life I chose for myself is a vast improvement from my previous style but I find that I just want more. With my change I realized I had made the things I wanted most to happen. But that doesn't seem so true anymore. My desire for it grows more intensely as I near happiness but only to find that it is out of reach. It dangles before me as of to tease and only causes more pain. I can't help but fall back into depression. If changing my life could not bring me happiness, what more can I do? I've have learned to accept myself but it seems that a part of me die each day. I cry as I write this. I don't usually cry because I am a man. The last time I cry was when both my parents told me I was a mistake. The new lifestyle brought much joy but it is waning as it has proven to have minimal benefits. I still lack companionship. The pain of loneliness has spiraled out of control. Tears fall as I read my own writing. I truly believe that this is the best it will get, depression has sealed my fate. I can't take it anymore.

Oh I can't watch movies. They depress me even more. I think too much that's why. Everyone in the movie is so pretty and always have a happy ending. Then after the movie I get really depressed in the car. I just think about the characters beyond the movie. Like how they are really actors and actresses. Damn attractive people with great lives; getting paid to do what they love. So movies are not good for me.

I've been asking myself, "What is my purpose in life?" I'm very sad most of the time. I find myself staring out the window most days, even thought nothing eventful is happening. I just look out the window. I just feel so useless. No purpose. Why do I exist?

I can't seem to find happiness in my life.

Hi I'm a 5'5" turning 20 male. Weighin in just under 110lbs with no social life. I need a hobby to keep myself busy and family off my back. Any suggestions?

So, I had my first suicide thought today while watching TV. I thought I wouldn't really miss anything if I hang myself tonight.

Hello everyone. I would really like to gain weight. I want to add on, preferably, 15-35 lbs of fat or muscles; I don't really care. I'm already 19 years old and I still have preternaturally high thyroid activities. I can't gain any weight. I'm 5'5" and weigh in less than 105. I tried doing push ups and skateboarding but I'm not getting any heavier. My friends tell me to just eat and sleep but that's not working either...not for me anyway. The reason I write this tonight is because earlier I made this girl blush. She then proceeded to grab me by the neck and started assulting me. It was very friendly and actually turned me on but I can't help but feel inferior (it was also painful at the time). I'm also going to to a club tomorrow with some random people I haven't met. The gang is around 6'2" - 6'4" and ranges anywhere between 160-210lbs. Suggestions?

Hi Kara, ...I think you're taking this way too seriously. Your emotions have clouded your judgement in taking something as a common goodbye line into a something you desired for so much. But if you are desperate there are subtle ways to find out. Sit down and think about him as a person. Some men are very jealous. Try to openly flirt with good looking guys infront of him. See how your friend reacts. If you think that's too drastic or need a little time to think about it, you can try this neat little method. Ask your friend to take this test: link removed and his results will be emailed to you. This love calculator will either tell you that he loves you or raises your hope even more. Oops I lost my thoughts...I just got a package. You know, it's not wrong to admit that you like him, one two things might happen and I know you hope for the best but expect the worst. Anyway, he probably got the clue when you took so long to answer. Might as well go for it and find out. But don't hold him up to anything since you both verbally agreed to the "no strings" rule. Best Regards, Alex

Hi Del, ...I know it's a hard thing to lose someone you loved so dearly and for so long. But Del, you're only 16. It's hard to believe but one reason that she is attracted to this other "kid" is because he's new. Even though that is a bit shallow, she is free to experience as much of the world as possible; you should too. Two and a half years is a pretty long relationship for someone so young but I think it's time to move on. See the world, find someone else to share your teen years with. You can, if you choose, try to get her back but just know that it won't be the same. It will never be the same no matter how much you try. You two are growing physically and most importantly mentally. I advise you to find another love and other stimulations. Like you said, she changed. This is who she is now and you should respect that. On a side note, don't change YOUrself to try and attract her. Continue developing and hopefully soon you'll find someone much better. Best of Luck, Alex

Hi beautiful, You're 34, you shouldn't worry about school. Anyway, society doesn't look down on Bisexual females. I think we have a harder time accepting male homosexuality than female. Your family will learn to accept you, even if it takes time a life time. Get new friends! Preferably ones that are bisexuals or homosexuals. Frankly, I have no problem with the gays, I don't see why anyone should. But people are entitled to their opinion. One thing I do to releive depression is to excercise or take my anger out on something. I usually take a baseball bat out back and just start breaking things...but that's just me. An alternative way to violence is to write down your feelings. If you're afraid of people reading your thoughts but at the same time dying to express it, there is something call online diaries. One great place is link removed where others read and sympathize what you write and you can do the same. I hope that helps. Talk to you later. Best Regards, Alex

It's just so hard. I really don't know where to begin. There is no drama in my school. Surely you can assemble a process where I can have an easy beginning and take small steps to making that friend I always wanted. Being 47, you must surely know everything and done a lot.

I may not care for others but I do about me. My life is very boring and I can't seem to do much about it. It's been three years since the self-realization of the fact that I'm alone and unhappy. My childhood friends were made through gaming; they all grew out of it and moved on. Most of my childhood I've spent attached to video games and oblivious to reality. I can't seem to make friends no matter how hard I try. I may not be trying hard enough but I asure you it is the to the best of my ability. I can't open up to people. I just don't know how. It gets awkward and I swet and my voice tremble and I feel even worse. The longer I hang in there the more uncomfortable I become. Yes I joined sports and I'm in student government but I can't seem to make the jump from acquantiance to friendship...Do you see what I'm saying?