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I see alot of you in me and when I was at school and in adult life it has followed me around. I really never really find anyone who I can really confide in, apart from one mate I've know for years. I think there are two issue that are creating your loneliness...Just some ideas... First: Most people are not deep thinkers, they might think about simple things but not deep issues. When you are very cerebral you become facinated in deep thinking and that becomes your world everything else seem too mundane. i.e. everyday talk. I suffer from thinking too much about spirtual things and this has had an alienating effect as it very serious and it not what most people talk about. Thinking is serious. Most people just dont think too much and they just want to have fun and have a laugh. However I have found spirtually involved people are cool to talk to their soul are very evolved and they are very loving and understanding. I spoke to a Reiki healer the other day and it was one of the most amazing conversation that I ever had. I never felt more understood all my life and she was totally amazed at how much I knew about the spirtual life. I guess what I saying is that you need some friend for having fun, some for confiding in i.e. the spirtual evolved people who are drawn to healing practices are a good bet. They usually work with crystal, light and universal energy. To work in these field those people are already very understanding. Still human but have the personality trait that you might be looking for in a good friend. Second: Not enjoying your own company. I dont like being alone etc That a tough one...I hate being alone. Either confront you fears of being alone and spend a week just looking inwards. kind of works...Or get invloved in something which invovlves other people. Can be useful. Personal I would avoid doing activities that are compound the problem. When I was in my teens I would spend all my time on my computer and that proabably did me no good but did keep me busy. Tackle you problem early and they wont be such a problem later. You might be so mature that you find it difficult to relate to other people. I know I did I was always really ahead of my age, far to serious and now the funny thing I'm regressing to a kid and I'm in my thirties!! Hope that helps, if not send a message and I can try to give some other pointers!

Well, I have the same problem...I know the pain, the anger the sadness and frustration. Why me...why was I single out to be short and 100lbs. Why dont the girls like me? And after reading all I could I still dont have the answers. I been where you been it ok to feel the pain. I still feeling it. Every day of my life. Some days I barely get out of bed and I have a stressful job to do and a property which needs a monthly pay cheque. I guess some people got the lucky breaks. I wasnt one of them when it came to the girls. I used to feel completely alone until I found out other people had the strength to talk about their problems here. I do have one bit of advice which is going to be very useful. called HOPE. Now I've been depressed and still am... I find it really hard to pick myself up. When you down it so hard to go up with that thing called HOPE. That thing called hope is a powerful thing. It the thing that keeps me from falling down. I had a rough time in life believe me. Every thing you said I can relate to 150%. But it important to remember that somewhere out there someone need YOU. Its true. I dont have a girlfriend and I dont have any luck in my hometown. But I am a member of a dating site and I get hits. Man they are pretty too, but they like in the US and It too far. The point is somewhere a girl out there needs me. Its a matter of remembering that and finding someone who appreciates YOU. I found this out the hard way. Letting go of all the **** in my life and saying WTF. This aint going to get to me. It easy to feel that it all hopeless when you stuck in the thick of it. In fact today after reading you post I remembered, we are all trying to get out of that lonely place we dont like and are in. I had a very high intellect and I get frustrated I can get out of my ****. But that the point I'm in it too. Keep your self in the I got hope category. So dont feel bad. I'm there too so are load of other people. In the mean time find something that you like to do and focus on that. Peace

Being single can be a curse if you dont want to be single I guess. Getting away from being single is complex and there are multiple reason. You seem to be ok from the physical department. There are few things which are really critical. First is how things really work...my experience show that women choose men. So this is important. dont waste time going after women that that show little interest in you. Focus on one that show you some interest. Sometime people see things differently when you focus your life in a different angle. For example. I have a few pretty girls go after me but I didnt want them because I was looking for something special. Yes I got money and they like that but how about me? The point is you might be single because you want x,y,z but when a,b,c comes you arent interested? Knowing what you want and what they want is a good start. It mean that you are both in the same direction. I sometimes wonder If I cause my own problems by wanted what I cant get and not taking what I'm offered? Look careful at your life are you doing this? Do people really get what they want? Finally, work at being happy with who you are. That helps. Do things you enjoy and go out. Remember the world is a big place if you have no luck alway be prepared to change your approach, your wants and your view. Dont be fixed in you life. If you have good friends ask them to introduce you that help too!

I never realise how other people have so similar thoughts... I've turned 30 and should be with a partner, I been looking for that special someone and when she came into my life because I has spent so long looking, I felt that I messed it up and moved to fast into the relationship. Any that gone now. I'm alone. Now always looking back to what could have been. Trying to look forward to what might be if I just got back on my feet. That how it is...I just dont think I have the luxury of waiting for something special to come along. I want to start living my life. But with someone. I stuck just like you in my own private nightmare, I have a well paid job and a house also. Yet I am lonely and depressed. I also pretty proactive about things evening courses, dancing lesson, but I just cant see to meet the right person. In the mean time I tired of being alone. Every day a struggle. I saw the dream also of meeting that special someone and living that wonderful life. Yet it escapes me like some kind of quicksilver. Perhaps that what it is just a dream and the only reality is that which we see. I see the cold harsh reality of my life and its awful. Stuck in my life and everyone else seem much better. And I sometimes draw comfort from seeing other people in the same situation. But no way to live. I just cant see why I cant make it work? It total crazy stuck in that trap of not being able to get out of a rut and also knowing so clearly that time is precious and wasting. But the harder I try the more lonely I get? Who want to talk to a person who seem to be trying to hard? It is a vicious cycle...each day goes by and you only have enough energy to make it through to the next. Just thought I share my thoughts with everyone.

well your not alone, happen to me and I just feel like saying ahhhh, ooooo, why me!!! etc and such word for the last week. This being human it can be so horrible...maybe something positive can happen out of it. I hope so, I wish you luck.

I been having similar problems too. I got dump by this girl which I felt was my soulmate. Anyway It was like b4 valentines day. The problem I get is I have dreams about her too. I get reminded of her also when i used certain word that she used to say. It the first time that it been this bad before I alway had no problem with forgetting about the girl. This time seem total different. Its been only a week but it feel like every days a struggle and I have to really work at it. Dream havent stop and I think it part of the process of letting go. I did feel better when I visualise myself meeting someone who is even more special or that the love I lost can be found again. I felt trapped in the past and I think that true for you. I just want to forget about her and move on with my life too. The pain is quite bad. I ask myself why me? where did my hapiness go? Some part of me doesnt want to let go. The other part need to move on. I have thought of her with someone else. This is not good for my mind either. I think that reminding yourself that you can find so one else too is great for feeling better. I didnt want anyone else after her, but now I can see that maybe I feel different in 3 months. Try resolve your feeling by letting go slowy and remind yourself that in the future the love of a good women will come along. Well that what I think anyway. Hope this helps.

Give yourself time to reflect and gain wisdom from the relationship. One chapter of your life has close and another has open up. I finding it difficult too, I met someone who was so special it was soulmate stuff. Anyway it gone into smoke. No trace. Still feeling pain. My one happen b4 valentines day. So start looking to the future but dont rush into things.

I think I got an idea why... The reverse happen to me I got dump the day before valentines day... It was harsh every bad thing that she could say she said. Really tore into me like I never existed. Forgot about the good things until I reminded her. Anyway I always been an open hearted person as I really believe in being in love with the person if the relationship is worth having. But this was the last straw for me... I just cant do that anymore...I waited for so long to find my soulmate and she dumped me...I become very concerned about letting a women into my heart because the pain if so bad I havent forgotten about it yet and I dont sleep too good now. So I definitely think that once someone realise that their feeling are in the hands of another then people are scare of letting themselves feel too much. I'm very scared now because it hurt so much. I really dont want to go through this every again. This was the first time I ever felt like this, I alway believed in giving love a chance but now I not so sure. I think thats what happen to him. He may have a trouble past. Valentines day should be banned! I know that I would be weary of falling for a girl in a big way now. Hope that helped. I never found any answers to these question. Sometime your lucky in love and other time not.