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Thanks for replying. Also, I just found out yesterday evening that now she IS going out with someone new. The thing that does give me hope about me not just being his connection to his ex is that when I'm hanging out with him, he doesn't start talking about her and he doesn't ask me questions about her. You're right, I DO want him to want to be with me because he truly likes me, but I'm really one of those people who is very insecure and always wonders if people truly like me...that affects my relationships with people a lot.

I'm with Nikola. Just talk to him about it. Alot of weird mouth quirks can make making out more interesting and ENJOYABLE though! (I'm NOT talking about bad breath and plaque...lol) I know a guy who has a tooth growing out completely behind his other teeth, and most girls are totally shocked, but LIKE It when they are making out with him and first discover it...

Oy...I like my best friends ex-boyfriend. She's cool with it, in fact, she supports my feelings because she wants him to get over her. The thing is, he's still pretty hung up on her! It hurts so bad when he comes up and hugs her and looks so sad that she just doesn't FEEL that way about him anymore. I can't stand it because I like him so much, but he still likes her. I'd love to be his shoulder to cry on, and so many people ask me if we're dating because we spend time together and he hugs me (And not just loose little hugs, he hugs pretty close) He's told several people that he thinks I'm cool, yet still, around her he's acts like her puppy and she can't stand it and has told him that there is NO chance of them getting back together. So basically, when I'm with him alone he acts like he likes me, but if you mix her in he gets lovesick for her. I don't know how to read his signals, and I don't know what to do about my feelings. They've been broken up for months, it's time for him to get over her, and I like him so much! Even if he doesn't want to go out with me, I just want him to get over HER so that he'll be HAPPY! (though him going out with me would make me one of the happiest and LUCKIEST girls on the planet) I don't know what to do about the situation. If anyone would like to offer advice, I'd be happy to hear what you have to say.[/i]

Yep, alot of females masturbate, myself included

definitely the guy I'm in love with. You're not going to be satisfied in a marriage with a man that you don't truly love. It wouldn't work out, and you'd always wonder what you were missing. If you're with the one you truly love, you're not going to miss anything, and if you do, it's not going to be things that are really important. As for the bonus question, you have to let the guy know what you like, and then it won't matter anymore

Explain to her what happened. Tell her your parents wouldn't let you. A girlfriend should be someone who is understanding, and if she really cares for you she'll understand. Just talk to her about it!

Oooo...this one is easy to answer! Smile at her alot...try to make her laugh. Eye contact is important. Look at her until she looks at you. Keep her eyes for a few seconds then look away and blush...it'll for sure tell her that you are interested. Another great way to get yourself noticed is to ask her if you can carry her books for her (cliche, I know, but cute none-the-less), ask her for her digits, or a more casual way to go is to exchange email addresses. A good line to do so would be, "Hey, do you have ____ messenger? I'd love to chat with you sometime." Girls LOVE it when a guy comes up to her and asks for her digits or messager screenname. It'll get you noticed for sure! Good luck with your girl!

I'm with pimpcess and sabena! He probably wants to hug you but is feeling the same way you are!!! Just some day when you're saying goodbye after a date hug him while you say bye. He'll most likely be pleasantly surprised. We have to understand that underneath it all, guys are just shy and insecure like us! Just go for it and see what happens. He's not going to be upset with you for hugging him. Good luck!

Well, I can't be sure whether you're completely over him or not, but hon, I gotta tell ya, you're pretty far along on the road to recovery. You just have to ask yourself though. Is it really him you miss, or do you miss having that someone there for you? It really sounds to me like you miss having someone there for you. You know that it's wrong of you to love him, and you no longer hold respect for him. Respect is important in love. I don't believe that people can truly love those that they don't respect. I think that taking back your money was a crucial step in getting over this guy. You broke off attachments and showed him that you're not going to let him walk over you. That shows that you're strong and that you don't need him in your life!!! Hope that helps ya!!!

Thanks guys, and don't get me wrong, I would absolutely love to be with him, I'm just so afraid of rejection and don't have very much self-esteem. I can't see him wanting to be with me. Also, about my cousin and brothers, they probably wouldn't take me seriously and would probably laugh at me if he did reject me. (They're like that. I love them and viceversa, but we aren't that close and they've always teased me and mde fun of me) I'm just so scared, and I guess that's why I come off as negative about it. It's more I'm negative about myself, not him. It's just scaring me because I've never felt like this before but I've liked plenty of guys before this, just not this intense. Once again, thanks to all of you because it helps alot just to not be told that I'm a weirdo freak...lol. I'll try to use you're advice to the best way I can. Thanks!

Yes, if I could tell that they were the one or that I would have a great time wit them, I would

Hi...anyways, here's my story. A few months ago I fell for a guy. I don't know him that well, and I don't know WHY I'm so in love with him. Sometimes it feels like lust, but not near always. I also don't think it's physical lust because I don't even think he's that cute physically. It's like mental lust...which feels like love. It just feels so RIGHT when I'm around him. It's so frustrating because I feel like I belong with him, but I can't bring myself to tell him. I just freeze up when I start to say something. What's worse is that it's my older cousin's best friend. He's also friends with my older brothers. I just always feel so lost all the time and I'm so confused. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if I should just go for it, use subtle ways to show him I like him, or just drop it altogether (though I've tried) It's like an obsession almost! I would do ANYTHING to not like him anymore and just be able to forget about him, but i CAN'T and I've tried and it just hurts so much either way. I don't know what to do about it anymore. It's starting to control my moods and I just feel so frustrated and despairing. Any advice would be helpful (well, please don't just tell me I'm a nutcase lunatic that need's to grow up...this I already know )

As the other two said, time will heal them^^ You should always have a day between tough workouts to let your muscles heal and grow. If the pain is unbearable, take an advil or something similar. It should take away the pain.

I agree with those two. If you fall out of love, maybe you were never really in love in the first place. Many people confuse love with lust or infatuation. So many people are confused by love, because let's face it, love is confusing! I think true love will last forever, because that's what I think love is. A bond that can never be broken.

All I can really say, is to be honest and tell the truth before you get caught in the lie. Think to yourself, is he going to trust you more if you admit to lying about your photo now, or if you only admit it to him once he's got you cornered. You need to be honest. He fell in love with YOU, not some silly picture! Have faith in that, and hopefully it will all turn out for the best. Also, becareful. I know you think you can trust this guy, but you always need to be wary when meeting people when all you know about them is what they've told you. All the best![/b]