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It's total disregard. They are there. They see that you are serious. They are giving off the same vibes. Then they are like, "oh well....crap on you." It's a very evil thing to do. Freaking emotional murder. You give and give and what you thought you were getting in return turns out to be hollow shells that's just garbage. Do people get off on this? Everything was so sweet and wonderful. I'm I suppose to forget what was said and accept these stupid lies? Infuriating! I WAS so happy that I could cry....it was that good. Then this. Everything you believed was nothing and it can drive you crazy. What is reality? I'm so digusted I can't even think straight.

It's pretty mean stuff.... I can understand younger people being aloof to how they may hurt another but that's what makes us grow, reflecting on what you've done in life and whether or not you like it. Then you mature and change the things you didn't like. I know I'm guilty of breaking another's heart in my past and I hated the feeling of guilt. That is why I do not get heavily involved with someone until I know the person. I use to have sex on first and second dates....it sucked because that was all there was to it six months down the line....just sex. I grew older matured and I do not do that and didn't do that. It's almost unheard of and I'm not religious either but we waited 10 months before sex and it was great. We got to know each other, became great "friends" (now the real side shows). It's just devestating that I'm almost 33 and she's 33 and she would play me like we were in high school again, or at least how I remember some high school infatuations. Giving it all you got only to be dumped out of the blue without warning or any attempt to work things out. Commiting and getting absolutely no commitment in return, just sugar coated words only to further decieve your heart and later undermine your trust for any future relationship you may have. I could meet the best girl in the world who is 100% sincere and wants to be with me forever and I wouldn't believe her. Poor girl. See, so much scar tissue the heart may no longer grow. Love is so great and it hurts so much. I'm beginning to think this is the place to meet some one..lol We all know and relate to each others feelings...I'm getting more from you guys than this damn ex I'm still in love with, despite all red flags. Funny how a SO can squash our hearts so terribly and yet we still hang on begging and hoping they will stay or return while they continue walking on with pieces of our hearts dangling from the soles of their shoes as they dance with someone else. And every call, message, what have you, their response is..."what's this on my shoe? Is that doggie poop?" Love does stink most of the time. I've learned I can never love someone who does not know what it is like to have love and lost. Otherwise, I'll get doggie poop in my house.

I want to call her and get this off my chest so bad....I want her to feel one tenth of what I feel... I want to throw it in her face... I want to put her down so hard... She totally ripped me apart and doesn't think twice about it.

I heard all about her ex's and how it was her that let them all go. I did have an uneasy feeling when I realized how easy it was for her to just walk away from those relationships. I should have never expected to be treated differently. I don't think she's ever had her heart broken...I wonder if she had if she would have done things differently. She doesn't want to see me cause it would be "hard" on her....too in convenient for her... Gee....none of this was convenient for me.. Anger stage, people... Yeah I want to call her and tell her how it feels and make her feel as bad as I. But I know I MUST take the high road and save some dignity....

Does anybody else feel like everything the ex said during the relationship was a lie? I'm feeling that now. It's been six weeks since I was dumped over the phone and I'm going over everything said up to the break up and it all seems like lies. "You are my sweetheart", upon the last time I was leaving her house to go home 4 hours away, "I hate this part the most" as she hugged me goodbye. "I love you, too", "I trust you", on and on...all lies. I would have never done any one like that. I've even been "bannished" from her home...why? I was great to her, absolutely no drama, ever. I can't even see her face to face for some personal closure on my behalf. Over the phone, people. Lies. It was all a big lie.

Guys have those memories, too. Sad to say...been having them constantly.

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Indian Food. But I still like to make it. Cats. Cats have been around forever, what am I thinking. What is it with burgandy cars? Volvo Marijuana....then I realize it's not about her. lol Dark beers...sigh I just finished up the shampoo she left at my place...my hair smells like that shampoo, not her.

Had another swing..... It came to me.... What hurts the most is the feeling of insignificance. The relationship you had that was everything to you is insignificant to them.

Very well put....I agree. At first

The whole Sponge Bob cast will be up here with our avatars!

We are going to be relationship wizards before it's all over with.

Cool, I got what I needed...the urge is gone! GREAT distraction people, I love ya! Ahhhh.

NC is best at first especially if you get panicy, but it's not forever by no means, I believe. I got panicy and didn't NC at the start and regret not taking a step back. NOW, I'm overcompensating. Mistake.

thanks... I did need to give her some breathing room...I'm ashamed of myself. shikashika, I agree with you very much, I'm just freaking for having a problem KNOWING I need to chill... But that's why I need to NC right now, I'm getting on my own nerves.

OK people, I'm starting to fold and I suck at NC and have sucked sooo badly since the break up. I allowed myself to become so dependent on this person. I do not have anyone else to speak to. Sorry for the bother you guys.

Ahh, Benson, I'm glad somebody besides me asked this question. EVERYDAY she's in my head. Just mumbling "mmm hmm" reminds me of her. She has a lot of cats. I've always loved cats. But now when I see a cat, there she is in my head. Drinking a beer, she's there. Everywhere she's there. EVERYTHING, EVERYWHERE....she's there. Saying hello to another lady, she's there.

Day uno.... I've decided I've been waaaaaaay too clingy. Gotta wait for her....while I carry on. It's really hard when it was all good and I'm NOT having selective memories. LDR was just too hard for her and she made some decisions on her own. NOW, I'm moving a bit closer and she knows that. So...we'll see...I've drug this out for a month now, boo hooing and contrived conversations....must stop picking the scab.

I married at age 20 to a 27 year old, before that I dated a 28 year old when I was 18 then later in life I was 30 dating a 40 year old....Does not matter

ok. NC today...Big boy pants are pulled up.

I bombed people...I'm moving...I was in a LDR and now I'm moving back and I went through her town. I called. Feel like a dork. I was wanting closure since the last time I saw her was when we were together. Damn phone break ups! I'm a dork. A looser. Too weak. Pathetic. On to the next day.

Thanks. You gotta shake off the cob webs, sometimes. I just see that where I am at now has made me unhappy, whether it be the discontent for the job (which i think played a role in my break up) or the break up, either way I am unhappy. Gotta change that.

Thanks for the luck. I'm actually doing pretty good at not letting thoughts get to me tonight. At least the original post was easy to write. A couple of weeks ago I was feeling really confused.

Woo Hoo! Yeah! It's Friday night! So how is everyone doing? Myself, trying to not think to hard. Big moving day coming up. Quit my job. Yeah. Oh well. Going to be alright, regroup, focus and get back to the people I know and love. Moved away and relationship turned into a LDR. Began to dislike the job I moved away for. Leaned on her too much for my happiness, being all alone in a far away town. She broke it off, I got really depressed...so I quit my situation here. I feel good about it. Going to get back closer to friends and son. Where I once was before I met her. Happy Friday.

Oh....do I have to? I've already screwed up so much lately, I guess it can't hurt. It's going to be really tough.