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ive had similar problems. the thing that usually does this for me is actually the position we're in. i find if she's on top i can last MUCH longer. regular missionary position makes me orgasm VERY fast anymore. id say if we did it strictly missionary, id last maybe around 15 minutes if i didnt pull out and stop myself. but if she's on top or we're in a chair and she's on me, ive lasted up to an hour, hour and a half sometimes...so yea...for me it's all in the position.

title basically says it...what is your favorite kinky thing to do when haveing sex or for foreplay? i was thinking about blindfolding to start off with, anyone ever tried it?

yea grokker, glad someone else feels the same. i just look at it like this. this guy took advantage of her and now im sitting here feeling terrible about it. what if i took advantage of a girl i hardly knew and had sex with her only because i could. somewhere down the line soeone who really cares about that girl could be sitting in the same position i am. and that's not fair to them because i know what it feels like

exactly. i know a lot of attractive girls, i mean hell, im in college. but not one of them can compare to what my girlfriend has inside. id take a better personality over a better body any day of my life

i know im probably weird. expecially since im 18 years old. i typically should be all about having sex with any girl who can move. but im just not into that. i just dont see anything in it. i mean, sure, i see attractive girls walk by me, i may check them out or whatever...but i wouldnt have sex with them unless i really had feelings for them. im proabaly just weird but i just see it as careless and thoughtless. its just kind of disrespectful to someone to "hit it and forget it" i guess

wow...that was one of the nicest things ive ever heard xcsteeplechaser. thank you and you're right. i mean, everything happens for a reason right? i need to see it as every step we take has a purpose. each step we take brings up one step closer to our destination. but one step the left, or one step to the right changes our ultimate destination. maybe if things didnt work out as they did we wouldnt have met. and im forever thankful that ive had the opportunity to have her in my life now. because any stray step in her past may have never lead to this day.

i'll keep this short as i can. for a lot of people on here, sex is just sex. it's a fun thing to do whenever and all that. but for me its not some whatever thing. i think sex should only be had by people who really care for eachother. my girlfriend met this guy, 5 months before we met. it was her bestfriend's ex. boyfriend. they hung out for about 2 weeks. he was the type that was real good with words and said the right things. my girlfriend was depressed about her bestfriend moving away to college and she was REALLY down about it all. so he came in and said a few good lines and took advantage of her in a real bad way. she lost her virginity to this guy after only knowing him for 2 weeks. she said it wasnt good and it actually hurt to the point of tears nearly and she regretted it instantly. we have been dating now for 11 months. and everytime i think about this situation i get really down about it. i just picture them having sex, the one girl ive given my whole heart to, having sex with a guy she barely knew. i just get so sad about it and depressed. i lost my virginity to my girlfriend and the connection that comes with that is so great. i just love doing it for the fact that it's with her, and id have it no other way. so is it alright to feel sad about this? picturing my girlfriend with another guy like that? having sex with someone she barely knew. someone she wasnt dating. someone she didnt love. i dont blame her for it. i dont get mad at her for it. she even said it was something that never should have happened. but i still get sad that she lost her virginity to him like that... is this normal?

i dont think any of her ex's did anything to make her feel this way. it all kind of started because she said i was so good at it she was going to scream and if that were to happen, we'd be in trouble being in our parents houses and all. so i dont know, sometimes i think it's because of that but other times, when screaming isnt an issue, she still does it.....i really dont know

ive tried to her to do that. oh god ive tried. id love to see it, but she's not really into it. she says she's tried it before and she thought it was grose. i guess she doesnt like the feeling of being inside herself. she also said it makes her feel kind of like a lesbian in a way. lol, i dont know how, i dont feel gay when i masturbate, but i guess it's just her opinion

an example of this was when i knew she was going down to take my hand away, and so i pushed my fingeres back as far as i could and got to her g-spot before she could get there. lets just say her eyes rolled back and her hand never made it to mine.

oh yea...not sex wise. she's only had sex with one other guy...but fingering wise, she's been there, PLENTY of times unfortunately. she does tell me im the only one that was worth a damn at it though. she was telling me how her ex. just put in fingeres in and pulled them out and repeated. i actually know what im doing and i get more emotional reaction from fingering her a lot of times than i do if we have sex. not always, but sometimes

hahaha, layword. so funny yet so true

maybe, but id think she'd tell me if i was being too rough. but again, i dont know, that's why im asking i guess. its just weird because it's so great then it's like..."OK! ENOUGH!" and then thats it

oh, and furthermore about this. she's very paranoid about me even going close to her vaginal area when we're having sex and she's already stoped me. she gets to the point she grabs my hand to stop me when i simply trying to put my penis back in!

quick question. i know this is a "every girl is different" kind of thing. but when me and my girlfriend are having sex or about to have sex. i sometiems start by fingering her and getting her warmed up with my hand. i usually get the job done fairly quickly and she's loving life before too long. but sometimes when im doing it really well, she reaches down and pulls my hand away and says "thats for your penis only, stop" and then she wont let me put my hand down there anymore the whole rest of the time. same with oral. she's let me give her oral maybe only 3-4 times in 11 months. she always says "that's grose, you dont like doing that" and then says something like "penis only". i know she enjoys the other 2. when im working her with my fingers, i sometimes get deeper scratch marks on my back than i do when we're actually having sex. and when i go down on her. one time she even put her hands on my head and pulled me into her. so i know she enjoys them. but why does she not let me continue ever? same is when we're having sex, if i reach down to stimulate her clit in the middle of being inside her, she stops me. but i know if she ever let me she'd be insane. any suggestions or comments?

this one is for the ladies. what sexual position FEELS the best to you? i want something new i can "wow" my girlfriend with! thanks!

i have noticed some really serious mood shifts lately. but before i let you in on that, let me explain a little bit about my past. i have always been quick tempered and often times would throw something or punch a wall a few times if i got really mad (always a lot of swearing and craziness). then i met my girlfriend and she noticed my violent outbursts. so she told me that i couldnt do it anymore and i had to calm down and learn to control my anger. this wasnt as hard as i thought it would be when i actually started doing it. id freak out every now and again but nothing as bad as i used to. we've been together 11 months and i find that i really have terrible mood shifts. it's not the kind like, im happy one minute then pissed the next, it's more like this... when me and my girlfriend argue, i am the most mean person in this world. i mean, really, i a such an ***hole its unbelievable. i say the absolute meanest things to her and often times when she starts crying, i keep going and keep yelling and keep making her feel worse and worse. i have the mindset that, if you're going to hurt me, im going to teach you to never do it again. kind of like a, you dont mess with me, kind of attitude. but then, right in the midst of the argument, it's like i lose all anger and i feel that we should get back to being us again. she still has tears rolling down her cheek and i stop saying mean stuff and put my arm around her like we're fine again. i cant explain this at all. i just think, "well ok, im done now, lets be the perfect couple again!" today hit the absolute worst it's ever been, that's why im posting this right now. today we go into an argument and she was saying some moderatly mean stuff, nothing you wouldnt expect in a typical argument. but then i went off. i was calling her stuff like a "fuc**** bi***" and saying stuff like "no wonder all your boyfriends dump you" and the meanest stuff ive ever said to anyone. she's start talking and i'd just cut her off and say "shut the f*** up!!!" and just being the king of all jerks. but then we didnt talk for about ten minutes, and then i started talking to her like we were fine the whole time. i was all concerned about her, and i was asking aobut her day...hell, i was even throwing in a joke or two and being my normal happy self. i feel so terrible about what i said to her. i cant believe i did that. i love her so much and i care about her like you wouldnt know. i dont want people to post on here how much of a jerk i am because i already know. it's really eating me up inside because of my words. if i could go back and take them away i would. i just dont know why i have these mood shifts like that. i am in college and it is finals week however. i was thinking maybe it had to do with me being stressed out beyond belief, and she just said the wrong thing or something. but that's no excuse, and i really dont know because this has happened before (not to this extent) when it wasnt finals week. she even mentioned in the middle of me being mean, she said, "you've lost your mind...you dont mean any of this. what is wrong with you?" it was like i didnt care how much i was hurting her, but then i randomly stoped and was like nothing had happened. so what is this? do you think this is bi-polar or do you think im just an 18 year old kid who isnt in touch with his emotions? but again, like i said, i dont want people here blasting me and taking her side, because im on her side too. i admit i was wrong, WAY wrong, and i just want some advice on how i can prevent this from never happeneing again. thank you

alright everyone......i guess sex to me isnt like holding hands with someone. but apparently if she has had sex with 10 guys and cheated on 9 of them and then started dating me, i shouldnt be concerned because it's her business. its obvious everyone missed the question, we all got hung up on repeating exactly what the poster before us said. but alright, thanks anyway

im not really asking for dr. phil here. i dont need some emotionaly guidance or whatever. i was just wondering what the chances of them having sex are...that's it. the way i see it, it is my business, and even if i shouldnt ask the questions, i am reguardless

i would end it for the sake of her lying to me. and the reason i dont 100% trust her is because last time she swore up and down she didnt have sex with a guy, i found out the truth from 4 other people before she actually admitted to it.

my girlfriend and I have been dating for 11 months now. back around month 4 she admited she had lied to me about having sex with a guy a couple of years back. i of course got very angry and we had a huge fight about it. so then a few months later, me, my girlfriend, and her best friend were all sitting in my girlfriends room. so i covered up with this purple blanket on her bed. and her friend looked at me and laughed and said "um, bryan, you might not want to touch that!" and she kind of giggled and looked at my girlfriend. my girlfriend then said "oh shut up it's been washed"...so i obviously questioned it. she told me how her and her last boyfriend were in her room and they were both under that blanket. she said her pants were off, but her thong was still on, and his pants were down around his knees. she siad how she was on top of him and they were kissing, but never did have sex. my question is, how plausible is this? do you think they had sex but she's scared to tell me? here's why im concerned. before her mom knew we had sex, she'd let her have a curtain infront of her door...so it was actually hard to see inside sometimes. we'd be under one blanket and do all kinds of stuff. on several occasions, we actually did have sex with her mom and her aunt at home by simple laying under the same blanket. her and her ex were very physical and he even fingered her under a blanket sitting in his parents living room with about 5 of his family members!!! so im just really nervous about her story because i just dont see how you can get to that point, and not have sex. because me and her have had sex plenty of times when her thong was still on, so that's not even a problem. so what do you all think? the thing im worried about is if i find out the truth, im ending it with her. and i really care about her a lot...i just dont know

no...the guy she dated before him they dated for 6 months. i just think that this one was the first to actually know what he was doing in a relationship. and yes, he broke up with her on the day of their 3 month anniversary. then 2days after we met they kind of "fooled" around some on a bus ride for band. then we started dating a week later. (i did not know about this bus ride until about 4 months into our relationship)

i dont drink much at all no. maybe 2-3 times a whole month if that. and i have no beer belly, im 6ft tall and i wiegh 140lbs...im very skinny

she doesnt do it as much anymore...like, after she mentioned his arms that one night, i deffinatly let her hear about it. she's apologized and all that. but id say the past few months she hasnt really done it. i just get really cautious of it because she's in marching band and so is he. and at our school the band is what most call the "horniest group in school". and up until me, she dated primarilly within the band. and now that schools back in session i just get nervous sometimes i guess. because i do not fit the "band kid" personality at all. i was more of the preppy jocky kids. and i didnt really ever pay attention to band kids

i just want to tell you a couple of things my girlfriend does that drives me crazy. i just want to know what everyone else thinks about it. sometimes, if we're arguing or whatever, she like, compares me to her last boyfriend. for instance, she randomly got sad out of nowhere one night, and i asked what was wrong and she said she thinks she's ugly. so i asked why she thought this and she said it was because i didnt call her beautiful very often.now, it's not that i dont think she is, i just dont say it A LOT. i dont mean anything by it at all. then she starts in by saying "well...andrew would just walk up behind me and hug me and whisper i was beautiful in my ear". so i was just like, what the ? who says that? then we were at a little party thing about 3 months into our relationship and i heard her talking to another lady friend about her ex, and she mentioned how he wore a cut off tshirt and then she said "i just thought, ahh...dont do this to me now!" and i was sitting right beside her. and the thing about that is, i am not muscular at all, im 6' and only weight 140. then again when we argue, and i argue back she gets all upset and once told me "i think it was because andrew would just beg me to forgive him right away and give in" they only dated for 3 total months. they started dating back september of 2005 and broke up dec. 10 2005. we've been dating now since january 6 2006. so it's been nearly 11 months now. is this something i should just be annoyed at only? or do you think i should be more than just annoyed? other than her comparisons i really have no real reason to believe otherwise, but i just want to hear what you all think. thanks