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I may have messed up on asking the guy to a movie. I sent him a message to see how he's doing and then I asked if he wasn't busy if he wanted to go the the movies. Well he read the message but hasn't replied yet...is this a bad sign? I think the mistake on my part was asking him in a email instead of in person, that way I could gage his expression.

My best friend had set up a night out with her guy and with another couple, well the other couple broke up before the night out. She called me to see if I was interested in "filling in" with our guy friend, I said sure, I haven't seen him in a while and it would be nice to get caught up. First part of this is.....I was talking to a girl friend of mine about this "double date" and my crush overheard me saying this and he goes " who's going out on a double date" and I ignored him partly to see what kind of reaction he was going to give. Again he goes "who are you going out on a double date with, me?". At that point I had to go but about half and hour later he follows me into the room I was going to and he again asked who I was going out. So I told him a little bit of the situation and then he goes "oh that's not a double date" and then he smiles and pats me on the back. Was he jealous at first? Second part.....well its the day that I'm suppose to go out with my friends and I get a call saying that the guy was sick and he wasn't going to make it. So I call up my crush and say "so you remember the outing I was going on tonight". Well of course he did, so anyway I tell him that the guy got sick and asked him if "he wanted to take his place" and he says yes and tells me to call him in a couple of hrs since he is at work and let him know of the time, which I did. We talked for a few minutes and then he tells me he is busy and he will call me back later. Well he calls me when he gets off and tells me he is on his way home and he will call me then. He gets home and gives me a call and tells me that he is really tired and that he is just going to stay in for the rest of the evening(he didn't get off work until 1am the night before and he had to be back at work at 7:30 the next morning to work a 10 hr day). So anyway we end up talking for about half hour. My question(s) do you think that he would consider this a date or just helping out a friend? He did mention taking a reincheck if he wasn't able to make it, in our earlier conversation when we figuring out times and stuff. Now when we see each other he will say something to the people we are around and look at me and smile. His entire face lights up and his eyes sparkle. Are these good things?

I posted here a few months ago about a guy I like at work, how I was going to take it slow and get to know him better and see if things would fizzle out and he would be just a good friend. However, we are getting to know each other pretty good. A couple of weeks ago he was doing some things for me and he called me on the phone and said, "what do I get for doing all this extra things for you, dinner?" and I thought he was joking(maybe he was??) and I joked around with him and then he said he was just teasing, but I told him I would buy him lunch, which we had lunch together the next day. Things going pretty good it seems. We had a get together a couple of weeks ago and I asked if he was going and he said nah, then asked if I was going and I told him I'm not sure. Later I emailed him and joked about him not going and then he said he was and gave me his number to call him later, which I did to see if he was still going, and he said he would call me when he was on his way. When he got there he came and stood right behind my chair and then when we were getting ready to leave at first he led the way and then he hung back when he realized I was at the back and then we let everyone else walk a decent distance infront of us so we could get a chance to talk alone, but then the group waited up for us. Since then he has bought me lunch at work and both have admitted to one another that we find each other pretty attractive, and we spent lunch together yesterday and I noticed he was hanging around me a little bit more than usual. He was leaving for a long weekend, so I guess that is why he did it. Here is the problem.....he hasn't asked me out yet!!! What could be the reason why he hasn't. Is he not into me? I mean to me the things mentioned above are pretty good signs, and they aren't even all of them. Am I wrong about reading these? I'm trying to take it slow but my goodness!!!!

It is a way of saying they are really that interested in you and they don't want to hurt your feelings.

A friend of mine told me the other day that the guy I am interested in may be "shy" about me. Can anyone explain this to me? I am not sure I am getting what she meant by that. I asked her but no response yet. Any help?

Some things have happened over the past week or so with the guy I like. He has continued to work my shift last week and also this week. I have picked up the flirting a little bit more. Last week, I was having lunch and he came into the room where I was and did some paperwork but only until I left and then he left soon after and this happened on my second break as well. Our work needed someone to stay a few extra hours to help out and he asked if I could stay and I told him I needed to check something, well I was able to stay and then he asked me how long could I stay and I told him a couple of hours and he said you can stay until 8, I am staying until 8. Then the other day I was relaxing in room on my break and he was working on the computer and the light was on but I had put my head down to rest and he mentioned I could turn the lights off but I told him no, coz I didn't want to hurt his eyes while he was looking at the computer and he said I'll turn the lights off and he did. Also the other day our superiors had made a comment I was in an area I should not have been in and he stuck up for me, which I thought was cool. I was walking in a back room drinking some water and he side stepped infront of me to joke with me for a second and then he left. Why not just joke in passing, why the side step in front of me? He was pretty close to me as well(face to face). One of my friends was talking to me and he walked in and she said "I'm talking to my girlfriend, do you have a problem with that" and he said yes. I believe that these are excellent signs. Right??? I have mentioned to a friend of mine that I believe he figured out that I am the one who has a crush on him and she said that it was not a very good idea. I don't get that. Why would she not want me to let him know that I like him?

I have known him for about a year but he has worked the opposite shift from me, so I would normally only see him a couple of minutes during the day, an hour at the most. Makes it hard to get to know him. A group from work went out a couple of weeks ago and he was there but he didn't stay very long and other people were talking to him pretty much the entire time but when he did talk to the group he would always make eye contact with me. He will be working with me a few more days this week, don't know about next week yet. I am hoping that he will be working with me alot more so I can get to know him a little better and drop a few more hints, as soon as I find out what hints to give.

What are some things that I can do to let him know? Subtle hints may not be working on him. I smile at him alot and I am always interested in what he has to say. I am old fashion as well, I think that the guy should ask out the girl, but in todays world if you don't jump some one else will. I think that we just feeling each other out, but I want to get past this point but I just can't get up the nerve to ask him out.

I have been trying to figure out if this guy likes me. I have posted a few things on here recently to try and get advice about this. Well today, we actually worked together for the first time in a few months, he usually works a different shift than what I do but there has been some changes at our work so he was put on my shift. Anyway, first thing this morning I couldn't even say good morning to the guy but eventually after a while I finally did and it broke the ice. We saw each other very early on in the morning but neither one of us said anything to the other person. Well after I finally said good morning to him things seemed to pick up from there. Whenever I wasn't doing anything he would come overr to me and we would start talking a little bit and then some other people would join in. One time he came over to me and didn't say anything just looked at me in the eye and I said "what?" he said "nothing" and just kind of grinned a very small grin but then he got called away, and after that we just talked normal, but of course there was always someone with us while we were talking. Are these good things?? I think the little grin is really good? Maybe he knows that I like him and is just feeding his ego as well? In that case it would be bad? What do you guys think?? I'm trying to take thing slow to get to know him better and see if I really do like him or if it is just a passing thing. We work together so I want to be sure on way or the other instead of just jumping in. Any advice would be great!!!

I'm really shy when it comes to guys I like, however I am working on this "curse" . I have recently moved up to touching his arm, like one day I asked him to do something for me, (he was busy doing his opening count), he stopped what he was doing and did this thing for me, which I know is great. As I was leaving I told him thank you and touched his arm. What else can I do to let him know, in subtle ways, that I really like him? I was going to ask him out but a friend of mine suggested I wait, because he is afraid to date within the work place(understandably so). Should I respect this or should I go by his actions?

I posted about this guy I work with and that I like him but not sure if he likes me or not. Well, last night me and him and some other people from our work went out, and just hung out for a while. I have been trying to figure out if he feels the same about me, I don't want to make a move or anything until I am pretty sure he does, so that if he doesn't then it wouldn't be weird at work with us. So anyway, last night I was going to see how he is with me outside of work. At work we kinda flirt when no one is around and he is always making eye contact with me even when we are talking with other people. Last night it was the same thing. We would talk and joke around and everytime he would talk to the group he would always look at me and talk. My question is, is this a good thing? Always making eye contact with me, more with me than any one else that we were with. I take this as an excellent sign. What do you guys think?

I am getting to be 100% sure he likes me as well. Yesterday when I saw him he justed asked how did the day go but we talked briefly, and today we really didn't talk to each other but a co worker was in the room and they were messing with something and our co worker said something and the guy I liked replied something but I didn't hear what he said but he looked over at me and turned red. Good sign? I think so. We are planning a get together after work in a couple of weeks and he said he was going to go. I don't think he is seeing anyone or I don't think he would have planned to go so far in advance. I think this all sounds positive for me, right?

He has a great reputation at work, all of our coworkers thinks he's a great guy and that he is sweet and nice. I just need some help on how do I let him know I like him without coming on too strong? I really like this guy and I don't want this possibility get a way from me. I'm very shy when it comes to guys that I like. Any suggestions or ideas would be great!!!

I am in the process of finding out if he is seeing someone. He moved in from out of state, so I don't know if he followed someone here or what the story is. I'm pretty shy myself when it comes to guys I like, so if he is "available" I need to find a way to ask him out. Just recently he began to touch me on my back, by patting it when he jokes around with me. And when we are in a room together we usually always make eye contact. I see these as good signs from him, right?

I am needing some help trying to figure out this guy at work. He has a very dry sense of humor and everyone around works sees him this way. He jokes around with people but only in a limited circle, most of them are people working on his shift. However we get along pretty good, I'm pretty much the only one he jokes around with that is not on his shift. Here the thing, he only jokes around almost borderline flirting with me when no one is around, but when other people are around he is very professional and quiet, even when his best friend is around. One time I was talking with a group of people and he just happened to be around at this time, well I was leaving and I had to turn around coz someone called my name and I saw him "checking me out", this has been a couple of months ago. He trained on my shift for a couple of months but we didn't talk a lot and didn't get close. We never have really had a decent conversation because of our schedules but we just click and joking around wth him comes naturally. Finally my question, could he like me? Is this why he feels so comfortable with me? He is not this way with anyone else on my shift, as far as I can see. I have known shy guys before but not this shy and I don't know if his actions are because he may like me or if this is how really shy guys act. Help Plz!!!

Heres the thing I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and we went out last night. He just recently moved here from out of state and we were talking last night and I asked him what moved him here? He told me circumstances moved him here. I also found out that his ex wife still lives in the state he moved from. I asked him if it was his job that moved him here and he said no, he didn't really even have a job when he chose to move. He dated a girl from our state but didn't last very long, I asked if she was the reason he moved here and he said no, coz they only dated for a few months. Anyway, I just got the feeling that he was running away from his ex and the unresolved feelings that may still be there. Why else would someone say "I moved here because of the circumstances", no job, no woman. Why not come clean with the real reason you moved, instead of just saying circumstances? I just don't want to waste my time with someone who is running from the past and not ready for the future with someone else. Those relationships are doomed from the very beginning. Any help???

I was talking to one of my best friends last night, and she said something that kind of got to me. Here is a little back ground. A couple of years ago, she started to email a guy, whom she had no romantic feelings for, and in turn he got my email address from her. Well of course he starts to email me and get become fast friends.(I knew him before but only in passing). Anyway, the three of us begun to email each other and have fun. Well, me and the guy became very close and about a year ago our emails becoming a way of us flirting with one another, which has led us down the road of a "relationship" nothing exclusive but we care for each other very deeply. So, I started talking to my best friend about the guy and at first she was supportive but I have noticed that over the past few months, it has not been that way. She told me that she doesn't email him as much, coz she is "distancing" herself from him. I should say that he replies to just about every email I send to him, but not to her. Maybe this is why is she acting this way. But anyway, he has also just about stopped all contact with her, only the occasional forward of a joke or something. So last night we were talking about him and I told her that we are just really good friends and then she said then "why do you still e-mail him?" Because we are friends and she said "yeah, right". I asked her what was wrong and then she said never mind and changes the subject. So finally my question....What is her deal? Is she jealous of what me and the guy have? Does she like him? I don't want our friendship to end or get hurt in any way. Help please!!

I have a question for guys........How often do guys like having bj's? All time or just every once in awhile, or does it depend on the guy?

Please listen to these posts. Yes, it is very hard getting over a failed relationship, especially if this is your first true relationship, but it does happen. If you take one day at a time, before you even realize what happened you will wake up one day and noticed that you have put together some really wonderfull days and all this will only be a memory that has taught you how to overcome the obstacles that happen in life, and that is all it is an obstacle. Yes it does hurt but when you do finally come out of the other side you will see that there is something or someone out there that is so much better. You CAN get through this, God gives us strength when we feel weak and when we feel like we can't go on, HE does!!! Please hang in there, it is worth it, trust me!!!!

So last week me and a guy friend of mine are together hanging out and stuff when all of a sudden he tells me that we don't make eye contact anymore when we are around other people. I noticed it but decided not to say anything, coz guys usually don't think about that kind of stuff, right? One of my questions is why did he bring it up? It was brought up so fast and then he kind of changed the subject and didn't give me a chance to really talk to him about it. So I made a decision to make an extra effort to make more eye contact with him while other people are around, which I have done but he on the other hand has not. What is he thinking or feeling? It must have bothered him or been on his radar for him to bring it up. Is this a good thing for me,( he is feeling a lot for me) or is it bad? Help please!!!!

Ok about a week ago, I asked a guy whom I am interested in if he wants to get together. We have got together before but it has been awhile. We both decided that friendship is more important. Well, it didn't last very long, we started flirting and soon made plans but everytime we did something came and we couldn't. Anyhow, like I said last week I asked if he wanted to or not and he told me that he was thinking about the same thing but said that he was busy and he would get back with me. He hasn't yet and I was wondering should I ask him again or take it as a sign he is just playing and not really interested?????

Ok........I'm really bad about picking up signals from guys. So maybe someone can help me kind of put it together. Sometimes I feel like he is into me but then other times is backs off. We have kissed a few times, so I believe he knows that I'm interested. The reason I'm not so sure even when he has kissed me is because of the "hot, cold" thing. We are good friends and I my feelings have developed into something more. He does nice things for me and one of our other friends noticed a look he gave me a few weeks ago and she also said that he was trying too hard not to give me all his attention. Well a couple of days ago he did something for me without me asking him to do it, he is in the position to do it for a lot of other people but he did it only for me, and it turned out really good in my favor and he was happy for me. Maybe, I'm just dense but if he does like me more than a friend, then why so "hot and cold"? Any advice or opinions????

Me and a really good friend of mine for about 6 yrs have recently gotten close and have messed around lately. He is with someone at this time. He is a really great friend and great guy. All of our other friends also agree with me about what kind of guy he is. None of them think that he would cheat on his girl, me included until we got together. We talk everyday online and he talks to me about everything. We have not discussed where we are going with this. I guess my question is....guys that don't cheat normally but finally give in, is it because they have true feelings about the girl and don't want to hurt the other or do they not care at all about either girl?

I agree with peteraider, the one and only way to find true peace and happiness is thru OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST. HE WILL provide the peace that surpasses all understanding. You just have to listen and give God a chance to be in your life. He is always there whether you believe it or not. All you have to do is talk to HIM and HE will answer. Just be ready for a ride that you will never ever regret or forget. Trust in the one who can make a differnece in your life. At first, it will all seem like a bunch of nonsense but make no mistake when it all comes together, there is NO OTHER FEELING LIKE IT IN THE WORLD. God Bless and good luck.

Maybe some guys can help me out with this one. I have a guy friend, I do have feelings for him. We have a mutual friend and he can tell her somethings but with me he is very shy. Like this one time, I noticed that he was avoiding an area where I was and it really bothered me. I thought to myself what did I do, if I made him upset or angry with me. Well our friend was talking to him one day and he just came right out and told her that he was avoiding the area where I was. I then asked him about this and he told me under no way was he avoiding the area. I don't understand why he would do this. We have never ever fought and we are really good friends. He was moving out of our area when this happened. I have some other friends who have told me that it was possible that it was hurting him to see me, knowing he was leaving. Do guys do this or are my friends wrong?