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That's good. At the worst sounds like you'll be able to have liberal visitation with your child. I would also look into visitation with her child since you had a great relationship with him also. I think if you can show her that you are strong, stable, and want to be very involved in the life of your child, then she will look at you in a different light. If she doesn't, just keep in mind that it is not your child's fault that any of this happened. Just be the good father that you know you can be. If the relationship between you and her was meant to be then things will change. If not then you still have a wonderful new baby for you to raise and enjoy.

Sorry you are having to go through this. I know it must be very difficult. Just curious as to what your attorney said about your situation?

This morning she left another voicemail. She was angry that I didn't call her back. I could hear the anger in her voice. And it made me angry. Luckily I've got some things to do today to keep me busy, but I'm afraid that I will call her tonight when I'm sitting around by myself.

Okay so she left me a voicemail today, wanting to know how I was doing. When I heard that I was just so disgusted. I really don't think she cares how I'm doing, I think she just wants to know if I'm mad at her for the things she said, so she can make herself feel better. I am so angry that she called. I just want her to leave me alone, but I'm afraid that I'll call her back just to show her that "I'm okay" and I'll end up losing it, or getting really angry at her. Why can't she just leave me alone?

Yes, I have going through a really down time lately, and I contacted my doctor a couple of days ago... i go to see her tomorrow, and I contacted my insurance company because they offer a counseling program. And she basically said these things during an argument that had a lot to do with the way I've been feeling. She doesn't understand why I just can't snap out of it and quit being depressed. She was extremely unsympathetic to what I have been feeling, and we got into in argument about that.

I do love this woman very much. And though we are having n/c, I would like to think that if a reconciliation could happen in the future, that I would be able to do that. I'm just not sure that I wouldn't hold something like this over her. I find myself feeling very sorry for her right now, and then very angry that she would say such things. And I'm not sure if my desire to have a relationship with her in the future is based on love or if it's because she is pregnant with my child. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

I want to be able to forgive her so that we can both focus on being the best parents for this child. I am so angry with her right now, and obviously she is very angry with me also. She would never mistreat the baby, and she would most definitely be able to handle taking care of the baby. I want to be able to eventually have a relationship with her that would allow the both of us to communicate our desire to provide the best for our child.

She and I had a pretty rocky relationship for 9months. Both of us recently divorced in past year. She said some things about the children that I have now, and also said she wished she had gotten an abortion because she can't bear to have my child.

My g/f and I recently broke up again- her choice, and I'm actually okay with us not being together, but she is 4 months pregnant with my baby and she said some things that are to me just totally unforgivable. I am so angry with her, and I don't want to be. How do I forgive her for the things that she said?

Try this book... Mars and Venus, Starting Over... you really sound like you need to talk to a counselor right now since suicide is entering your mind, but if you're not ready for that spend your time reading a book like this, instead of thinking about your ex. Right now you're feeling the pain of loss, and you need to get to the point where you can begin to see what you can gain from this. Your sense of self has been imagined as you and your ex until recently and you need to gain some perspective as to what it means to just be yourself again. Read this book, talk to your friends, and talk to a counselor. You'll get through this. We all know you can.

Because we have had a long distance relationship, I think she just sees him as more of a convenience right now, but I don't know how or if I should say this to her. I know she loves me very deeply. She and I are best friends to say the least, and I am having trouble understanding her motivations. I know that I have to let her make up her own mind without interference from me, but I have so many unanswered questions. I'm not sure what to do.

My heart is already completely broken so I'm not sure what I have left to guard. She knows that I will be a devoted father to this baby as well as my other 3 children. I'm just not sure how to proceed. We will have to continue to talk because of the baby, and there is a lot of emotion involved. I'm extremely confused.

Have been dating a woman for 8 months, both of us divorced within the last year, and live about 2 hours apart. We were able to see each other at least once a week, if not more, and talked on the phone daily. We became best friends, then began dating. About 2 months ago, we found out she was pregnant, not planned, but after the initial shock we were both okay with it. (She has 2 children from previous marriage, I have 3). Anyway, we were very much in love, and talking about our future together, we even looked at rings just 3 days ago. Her ex husband was constantly calling and emailing her that he wanted her back, wanted the family back together, etc. It would upset her tremendously. He even went to where she worked, asked her to step away from the counter for a minute and hit her because she was seeing me and not responding to him. (She has him arrested of course).... I love her very much and want her to be happy... for the last few weeks she has been very confused about our relationship, saying she wanted to end it one day, and then saying she made a mistake the next. All the while she was conversing with her ex husband about him not treating her that way anymore. Anyway, yesterday, after spending a great weekend together... we were talking on the phone while I was driving home, and she broke down and said she missed her ex very much and thought she wanted to try to work things out with him. I was devastated, shocked and extremely hurt. She obviously has some issues to work out with him, so I called him and told him what was going on, and that he needed to contact her and that they should try to work things out. She called me today to find out how I was doing, and I told her that I was okay, but that I was afraid that I had just helped her get back into an abusive relationship and that I was feeling very worried and concerned about her. I love her tremendously, and really do not want her to get back together with her ex, but I felt like it was the right thing to do in supporting her, because they have 2 children together. But now I'm without her and she's still carrying my baby. Did I make a mistake? Any thoughts, or advice would be greatly appreciated. Where do I go from here? Should I tell her that I think she is making a huge mistake? Thank you