Fusion

Hmm. So what should I do when she's moody and the like, then, to make her see that she can't keep acting like that?

I do not. I literally do everything I can for her, go out of my way to do the slightest nice thing for her, all the time. ;o Many thanks for the helpful replies. I will see how it goes and perhaps add to this at a later date.

So, this about my girlfriend. I guess I just want to talk to somebody about her, possibly get advice about anything if anybody can give it, or just tell me what you think of the relationship, etc. Basically she's - well, I don't know. It's hard to explain, you see. Normally I'd post in a very organised/logical manner, but I'm more letting my thoughts flow, so this may get untidy. But yeah. Let's start with the basic facts. 1) It's a cyber-relationship currently. I'm posting it in this board because I feel that this is mostly irrelevant. 2) We've told each other that we're in love. 3) We're both 17. Indeed, young, I know. 4) We've known each other since around January. We've become close very quickly. We talk all day on AIM, or play various online games together. So we're almost always with each other. 5) We've recently started talking on the phone. 6) She's coming here (UK) in the summer (from Poland) for a few weeks to visit me. Basically she's the nicest person anyone could ever ask for sometimes. She shows lots of love and trust, etc. But she has these mood swings incredibly frequently, in which she often hurts me or is malicious with me, or appears to not care at all, or doesn't want to talk, etc. I've talked to her about it and she says she'll never do anything to hurt me again, and yet she does. Other times, when I get hurt because of something she's done or said, she seems to try to find something to be upset about too, as though to punish me for feeling however I do, and rather than healing my feelings it's like, being forced to ignore them and cheer her up instead, or she gets angry at me, making me fear losing her because of my feelings, and thereforeeee I ignore them. It's basically the mood swings - I don't know what to do about them. And I've suddenly come over extremely tired while typing this. Perhaps I'll post more later. Thanks.

In my experience men appear to have no feelings simply because they're usually more logical and 'file away' the feelings for later thought - they simply deal with them and that's that. Logically, why let the feelings affect you (if they're negative ones)?

Well it's looking far ahead, but I was wondering about something my girlfriend mentioned. I never really thought about it. ;o Probably a silly question, but do both people have to be a christian to marry in a church? Do they have to attend that church regularly or...? Thanks.

So, yeah. I won't bother with a long-worded post - I'll just throw out the facts/details. First relationship (for both of us), first date, met on Internet, late teens, known each other for around a year, she's shy, meeting soon. Need ideas for things to do on the first date. We both would prefer somewhere to be alone, but to be honest I have no idea where we should go (in London). The only place I can think of is to go to the cinema, or a walk by the river - I'd prefer her to come to my house, but unfortunately she's very allergic to cats and there's a lot of cat hair floating around that could be harmful to her. Also it's possibly more calming if she doesn't. Possibly sound silly. Any ideas as to what we could do and where we could be alone? Thanks. Edit: Obviously we'll be meeting somewhere public. Not because there's a chance she's not who she says she is, but simply because it'll be easier that way. I mean places to go afterwards.

So today my girlfriend said she's having feelings about her friend that yesterday told her they'd never talk again (he hates her for whatever reason, you see). She says sometimes she feels really sad they'll never talk again, other times she feels like she hates him, sometimes she thinks she loves him (as well as me). I don't know what to think now. I told her she needs to figure out how she feels and the like. I don't know why I'm posting here really - anyone else have similar experiences?

Everybody's different. He just has a lower sex drive.

Well I've been talking to her. Not about whether or not I want to be with her, but about her hurting me a lot, which is most likely the cause of the former. She knows she hurts me a lot, and says it's just how she is, and that she doesn't want to but doesn't know how she can fix it. Eh, I don't know.

Just the way she acts sometimes or things she says. I know she does it unintentionally - she just has moodswings and gets depressed sometimes and the like. That sort of thing.

I don't know. I've been feeling this way for a few weeks now - me and my girlfriend are in love and I want to make her happy and all that (despite her hurting me a lot unintentionally). But I don't like to be tied down, and I miss doing things that I used to before I started spending all my time with her. I don't know what I want anymore. If I told her this it would surely upset her very much. Any advice or anything? Thanks.

If you want to, do it. If you don't want to, don't do it. There's nothing wrong with casual sex.

Ah, very helpful post. Thanks. Any more advice any of you can throw at me?

Hello. Basically, my girlfriend complained the other day that when having cyber-sex with her, I always do the same (or similar) things - i.e. foreplay followed by intercourse. She mentioned rough sex. So basically I'm looking for ideas to add variety to this, if possible. Thanks.