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one possible idea i think you might need to think about is that is it possible your boyfriend is cheating on you?

it takes two to have affair and i didi not know he was married when i got involve with this guy. and in life you cannot help who you fall for? as with my partner he has being having is own affair i might not have prove and i could be wrong but as to decession making in relationship i tread carefully because my heart cannot not take pain. and 1 advice if you partner wants to leave he will he might meet someone who he is madly in love with more than you in life their is not a rule saying we own anyone 1 and that everything is forever.

i have recently started to see this guy, which i meet him i was just getting out of a relationship with a married guy who i liked very much. now on two occasion he caught me out in a lie he basically found out that i was still communcating with my ex and that i did not tell my ex about him. (i did have a life before him) anyway i was not too sure about this guy he smart but he has got too many lady friends. anyway on two occasion we broke up we got back together all well and good now my issue is this i dont know if i can trust him. reason for this is 1. he hardly calls me 2. my cousin/friends told me he is a player now all these guys are player so they have no reason to lie? 3. we hardly see each other 4.we dont do anything together apart from going out for a drink or to a club he says he hates movies. 5.hes forever out with is friends so he saids. okay maybe am overreacting he is a lawyer and a athlete but he is only in court at the moment because he has to represent his son on a murder charge and him and the mum must be having a hard time, but what i do give him credit for his that if he says he will do somthing he will. what i cant understand if he really likes me why do i feel i have to do most of the calling? and why when we broke up he wanted to get back with me ,and if he did not like me i suppose he did not have to fix my car or do my garden for my kids and if it was only sex he wanted.am i right or wrong. what i have decided to do is that i will not call him and if he choose not to call me then i know its over.

bams am pleased that your happy, what i would like to say is that it is always better to follow your heart never follow what others say or religion. i will give my experince i had a bad experince with my ex we had 7yrs with each other and we have 2 kids together he walk out. anyway thats not important but after 2yrs of feeling empty and dead end relationship with wrong people. i meet a guy who we have being friends we start dating we have being together we love each other we go places we share so many things with each other he show me the kind of love that i thought only exist in the movies. anyway their is complication he is married and he trying to sort out him self i feel we will be together but i need to back off while he sort out his divorce. any way we all have a soulmate the only problem is we might meet on a good patch or we might meet and we are in a complicated stuiation. but follow your heart nothing is gain without trying. and every failure brings success. as long as you have a clean heart and concs god can forgive

i have to agree prenkle ,we control our destinty and when is people going to realise that we cannot think about what other think of our self. its not about religion or what we in our society say we must do, it is about our heart and trusting our instincts

the question you have to ask yourself is have you always being feeling this way, reason i ask some times we fall in love and dont even realise it, and we go and do stupid things that we regret. what i think you need to do is questioned your true feelings for your wife and this other woman. if you feel you have made a mistake then be honest dont pretend and dont allow the stuation to get worst meaning kids getting invlove, spare your wife the pain. in this world people tend to forget that not all of us are with the right person and later down the marriage their is regrets and someone gets hurt. do the right thing follow your heart.

i think you need to give a time to decide what she want and dont always run back toher when she say so thats not good and make some descion stay in control of your self you are not a toy.

he says he wants to do things decently and correctly because they have three kids. and he feels even if i dont stay with him everything between them is smooth.

i dont know i feel i can trust him for some reason, but then i do feel so guilty and i have said to him to do what he has to do an let me move on and then it turns in to an argument he always says he loves me, and what strange is that he spend all his time with me even on his birthday, i do feel he is genuine and not a liar but its so hard. and what i dont get is it like he has no wife it always about me what am doing, going about my kids. etc etc. one thing is he never says a bad thing about his wife he just say he was too young and that it was good for some years but he always felt empty with her and he regrets not listen to his mother.

i dont know if am being stupid or am i desprate? anyway i was going through a bad time and i meet this guy who we share friends in common and it was like as soon as we set eyes on each other we like each other. i never really like any one like this. well we strated a relationship it was not that simple though , because is friend like me although i did not feel the same and it was his friend who got my number, and at a function where is friend invited me to i saw him again after the party but i never recongnise him until he said somthing to me. the whole night his friend who invited me was trying to get me instrested but i was not because he was married and i dont like M men. any way his friend at some point left me with this guy and we dance and it felt like no one else existed in the room. after the dance i just could not stop thinking about this guy for three days and eventuly i call him and we meet and the feelings was the same, anyway he told me he was watching me for 2months before the b b cue party and the function that his friend and i was at. anyway 2 wks later of being with each other i found out he is married i cried and cried. he told me he knew i would not date him and he told me that he was sorry anyway the problem is our feelings has got strong and he is say he going to leave her so i dont know what to do and i dont want that, and evenif i was not onthe sceene he was going to, the problem is he marrie when he was 23 because she fell pregant and he was in the church, also his family told him not to he has had other affiars, and when she married him it was not the ideal wedding, and he was in love with another girl who died. know he has strated to have regrets what should i do?