SharaRose

Thx guys for the advice.. this last yr ive know about her, and I knew there was gonna be a time when she would have come back from England... I thought to myself im not gonna dwell on it... So I went into this relationship knowin that there was a possibility of being hurt, but I took that chance and now its here.... Fairie 16 : shes been in the picture, but not face to face.... she got back last Thursday. But my bf and her have kept in contact by emailing.... he hasn't seen her for a couple of years.... In a way im glad its been done and hes seen her.... just found out 2day shes movin back over there in 2weeks for good... shes asked my bf if we can all meet up for dinner, she wants to meet me, not sure why she wants to meet me.... to tell u the truth I don't wanna meet her ever!, shes the past and she should stay there.... i honestly trust my bf, and i know he wouldnt hurt me, cause he has been hurt b4 especially by this girl.... do u think we should all go out to dinner?? im havin bad vibes in it, if i do go

Well I wrote my post a couple of months ago.. heres it is: its was all to do with my boyfriends Ex gf wanting him back!.... so shes back in the picture, but not for long.... well she contacted him on Thursday, when she got back in town.... she had planned to meet up with old friends and invited him also.... which on Saturday we had plans to go to a birthday party but he cancelled, and went to see her...... he called me later on that nite and he was totally drunk, which I was upset about.... we never spoke about that nite, till today... I guess I have a right to know so I brought it up tonite., and basically he told me he is glad he saw her cause hes finally realized he doesn't have feelings for her, but before that he had a soft spot for her( maybe even hopein there was a chance for them)..... I guess im stressing over nothing.... he told me now he knows that he loves me and doesn't feel anything for her... Should I leave it like that and just get over it? Or am I worrying over nothing?

haha funny of u to say that, at one point i would have actually believed that.... well when that incident happened me catchin him with another girl leavin.... 2 weeks later he had brought another chick home, and she aint no friend... coz my mum caught him leavin this time and he introduced this girl as his "Girlfriend" lol my mother was horrified

Well I contacted her, by callin her house phone....... she answered, she came up with excuses that she had no credit to have text me... I told her I called ur mobile today and u didn't answer it... she said she had been out all day... so anywayz shes asked me to go out with her and her bf... at first I said no, we'll catch up some other time, then I changed my mind and now they are comin any minute to pick me up ...... im sorta nervous coz I haven't seen her since that incident.... I'll let ya's know how it goes

Lately I have been thinking about one of my friends, more like shes become an ex friend which is a shame... well the story goes its been a yr that we haven't seen eachother... it all started 3 years ago she had met her new bf and he seemed like a nice guy, he is 4 yrs younger than her, but they didn't seem to the mind the age thing.... they were so inseparable that they wouldn't go anywhere without each other. Which it was cute to start with than later on it got strange.... I would call her several times to arrange to meet for a coffee or go shoppin as girls do, but she always insisted if he could come along! So I guess I was fine with it, but not really... then early february last yr she came over my house unexpectedly and I was sorta worried coz he always tags along, I asked her where he was and she told me they had a fight.... she told me the story, which the thing between them is that they are very jealous ppl, like they cant look at anyone but themselves ... there was one time I was checkin a guy out, and her bf told me off, for doing it I basically told him who r u to tell me what to do?.... so that day she was upset they were fightin about a girl, that he was helping to fix her computer.... to cut the story short, we drove pass her place, and he was waitin there in his car. We drove off he followed, eventually she stopped the car, he got out of his, came round the drivers side and started bashing her. I was in the passenger side, she still had her seat belt on, and he continued hittin her, then he started pullin her out of the car, which he couldn't coz she had the seatbelt on... then he got her out she ran down the street he followed her pushed her to the ground and continued hitting her.... at that time I had followed them down the street not know what to do, I was distressed , but I wasn't gonna let him hurt her, coz ive known this girl since I was 2 yrs old.... so I sorta jumped on him and I was hittin him, and he is a really BIG guy.... later on he calmed himself down and apologized to her, he was crying, she believed his act and got back together with him, I was horrified with disbelieve that she took him back... later on she had told me he has done that to her several times, but she loves him and she cant leave him..... so till this day they are still together, and I always think of her, shes lost all her friend coz of him..... so I texted her a couple of months ago no reply... I called her mobile 2day no answer.... maybe it's a sign that I shouldn't contact her, I don't know... what do u guys think i should do? im thinkin of going to her place, thats sorta the last thing that i could do to see her and talk to her...

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thx for all the advice guys ... im basically going to stay out of it.... but i will confront him and let him know that i know, and what hes doing is wrong.... at first i thought, i would stop talkin to her, coz i know what hes doing... but i decided thats unfair for her and for me to do that to her.. i will still continue our friendship even if they are together or broken up........

Im so pissed off at my brother at the moment, well the story goes..... his been with his gf for about 2 and half years now, shes such a lovely girl..... with me i don't really wanna get to know my brothers girlfriends because they don't to seem to last for long, so no point getting to know them....but different story with his current girl, I was hesitant to get to know her, but he sorta pushed it, and I got to know her... so basically after 2 and half years I consider her a friend, not as my brothers girlfriend...... but on Sunday I was totally shocked when he was leaving the house with this girl, I had never seen her b4, and I guess its none of my business to pry into his life... but for the last 2 half yrs he has introduced his gf to us and my whole family consider her as one of us.... and to bring this other girl over on Sunday that's so disrespectful and I was so totally mad with him...... so as a sister I was buggin him addin hints about stuff, wondering if his gf was comin over, which he replied she was here earlier... and I knew he was lying.... that evening his gf came over and I asked her what she had done all day and she said she had been workin all day.... i know its got nothing to do with me, but I consider her as one of my friends, and what my brother is doing to her is totally wrong, if he wants to see other chicks he might as well dump her... What to u think I should do... mind my own business?? Confront him and let him know that I know??? Or go to her??

I'm upset with my boyfriend at moment here i go.......basically when we started dating I knew he liked drinking beer, which was fine with me, just depended how much he would consume that worried me... he used to drink a lot during the week, which worried me.... and i basically starting to think he was an alcoholic! And I said that to him he got angry with me saying that hes not, and he enjoys having a beer here or there... so 9mths into the relationship he doesn't drink as much as he used to and im happy about that, he still has hes occasional beer which im fine with that. I wouldn't want him to completely stop drinking beer... hes also admitted to me before me he occasionally would take drugs also, which basically he said it was every blue moon....for me the drinking is nothing compared to this ...... a couple of months ago he had gone out with hes mates to the city and all of them had taken ecstasy, he told me the next morning, hes really honest with me and basically tells me even if he knows it would upset me.. I told him I wasn't happy, also he wasn't happy with himself, sayin he shouldn't have taken it, which he blamed his mates.... hes mates take drugs/drink, but hes mates have respectable jobs and aren't bums.... my bf is the most sweetest guy and ive realized he gets peer pressured which isn't good, and he also knows this too.... he told me he would completely stop takin drugs and I believed him... till last week... one of hes mates has been livin with him at hes apartment for about 4 weeks which this guy is so depressed that hes girlfriend broke up with him, and all he does is mop around drinkin and smoking. Which ive basically stop going to hes apartment coz of him... my boyfriend wants him to leave but he is such a nice guy and cant tell him, he feels sorry for him.... so last saturday the guy living there invited some guys over for drinks, then they all took ecstasy including my stupid bf..... that night I had been out with my girlfriends and I was about to go home, but ended up meetin up with him for coffee... at first he acted all weird which I wasn't sure why, then he told me he had taken ecstasy, I was totally upset with him and said why didn't u say no to them, he also was upset then he went quiet, then said he wanted to take it. he said all of them don't have girlfriends and I do, from that I told him well get ready because ur not going to have a girlfriend, soon so ur gonna join them!! I truly love him, and I want a future with him, but the way hes acting I don't see it happening im 21 hes 7yrs older than me... I don't know what to do anymore. ive never taken drugs b4 so I don't know how they make u feel, he likes the way they make him feel, its been a week now and I have doubt to what I should do...I know he doesn't want to jeopardize our relationship, but hes doing it.... p.s just spoke to him about an hour ago hes at a mates place, i was sorta pissed off and said oh will u be takin drugs tonight?, he said he might just have a puff of a joint what do u guys think I should do? Any help would be much appreciated

Thx Does_Darkness_Turn2_Light Yeh I totally agree with u, I know he wouldn't jeopardize what we have together. I do like hes honesty, and he tells me everything... he knows i trust him, i just dont trust the girls.

Last night my boyfriend and I had conversations about some stuff. The conversation started leading towards other people, like we have an understanding which is fine to look at other people, but not obvious that the other person would see. Then my boyfriend said something to me, which got me thinking he said: "Like when im at clubs, and im at the bar i flirt abit and I sometimes dance with girls but that's it" so I didn't really know what to say, he said would u do that? And I basically told him if I was at a club no I wouldn't be dancing with other guys. Well we got off that topic quick. got home that nite, and my brothers girlfriend was over, so I told her , to get another girls opinion and basically she said ur really strong to take that, if it was me I would kill ur brother. I trust my boyfriend and his very honest with me, maybe to honest. i think i already know this question, but i'll still ask it (p.s not really sure how close he dances with these girls) So im asking is there any harm in dancing with other people, when ur in a relationship?

yeh i completely understand that its none of their business about our love lives, and i wish my parent would mind their own business.... i know with my mother she wants to shield me from the world and protect me, she doesnt want me to make mistakes...... which ive told her u need to make mistakes to learn from them.... yeh ive also made that promise when i become a parent, i'll let my children date who ever they want... i just hope things get better.

thx DN yeh i competely understand. well i guess hes stressed from the whole situation, where my mum confronts him at hes apartment to what i tell him whats going on at home......i've told my mum several times that im gonna move out But financially I cant move out at the moment. that's why my boyfriend wants me to move in with him, but I don't want that yet........ at the end of the day im going to keep tryin, because I think hes worth every bit of it......

My mother hates my boyfriend. I've been with him about 9 months so she knows we are dating but wont except it..... So she's trying her hardest to destroy our relationship. at the start she wasn't getting anywhere, but till now its got to a point where my boyfriend is stressed out, and he cant handle it anymore. I understand that completely and im sure no guy would have hang around especially what my boyfriend has gone through. He's told me he doesn't want to end it with me, but he doesn't know what more he can do. And I know it stresses him out, it also stresses me out. he has asked me several times to move in with him, but I don't want to move in with him yet, even so, that wouldn't really make things between us better because my mother will still be there hassling us. The main reason why she doesn't approve of him is his nationality/age. I come from a European background which my parents are very strict and want me to date my own nationality. For me nationality isn't such a big thing, I love my boyfriend dearly and I really don't wanna get to the point where I have to choose between them. I want my parents in my life, but they are making it so hard for me...I've come to the point where im just going to pack my things, quit my job and runaway from all of them (Including my boyfriend)...all i want is my mum to be happy for me and let things be, and i know she'll never be happy or except him and that upsets me . if anyone has been in my situation, I would love to hear from you. or if anyone has some advice. much appreciated Thx~

Hey all, im new to this so here i go…… I've been with my boyfriend for about 7months... it hasn't been an easy relationship to be in, meaning my mother doesn't approve of him. It's mostly got to do with he's nationality and age. Besides that everything between us is fine, we enjoy each others company. It's like we've known each other forever. He hasn't been in a relationship for the last 4 years so once we got together. He's ex girlfriend, which he dated when he was 19, then on and off since then, now wants him back!! She was his first love which u always remember! and I understand that. But she never reciprocated the same feelings he felt back then... Now after 9 years she has realized that she loves him! which at the time he told me before we started dating, he could never get back with her coz of the history that they have.. she's hurt him several times. And at that time i really liked him, so i started dating him. I knew deep down. What am I getting myself into?? But I still took the chance and knew the consequence if it didn't work out.... She basically told him not date me and for him to wait for her.... At the moment she's in England for work, she's been there for 2 years so they haven't seen each for a while. We haven't spoken about her since, when he told me that she wanted him back and that was like 7months ago. The thing is I want to take things slow with him he's 28 and I'm 21, he wants me to move in with him, which at this point of time im not ready for that sort of commitment. But of course she is ready for that commitment. So we had a fight the other night and of course he brings up he's ex! By saying if u cant commit don't waste my time my ex comes back next month!!...... Which that hurt me so much for him to say that... I was totally upset and told him get back with her then. Im not going to sit here and compete for you... he was sorry for what he said, and that he only loves me..... Once he's ex gets back next month he wants use both to meet up with her and let her know we r together.... I DONT want to really meet up with her, but I don't really want him going alone... his told me she's very manipulative, and im sure she would play with he's emotions.... he recently got he's own apartment and of course she's asked if she can stay for a bit till she finds her own apartment....I've basically told him how I feel about that, and he totally agrees with me on it.. I've spoken to a couple of people and they think, I shouldn't go with him when he catches up with her, just keep away from the whole ex thing... I totally trust him, I don't trust her, especially the things he's told me about her..... one of my work mates told me u can never change the heart the way it feels about someone, so I guess im just going to have to wait and see once she gets back how he really feels about her...... Do you guys think I should go with him? Or let him go alone with her?? I'd appreciate any advice. Thx~ sorry that its long