SnugglePhil

I dunno if its that easy, I thought I had already said but I just laughed it off, plus We havn't even met or anything so in person we mate hate each otgher, tis weird

I would really love for it too, It's just that I dont really know her, but I would be willing to travel etc, it really isn't far

Right, I will set the scene so far. Basically it was around 4-5 months back, I got a message from a girl on faceparty, and replied to it. Soon enough we were talking on MSN quite a lot, and texting every now and then. It feels as if I have known her for years, although I have never met her, and just from seeing how caring and thoughtful she is, I really look forward to talking to her. I dont even know if we will actually ever meet, or if anything will ever happen, but she lives about 100 miles away, and it isn't really THAT far, but from experience can anybody help me?

People handle things like breakups in different ways- some cry for weeks on end, some consider ending their lives, some confide in friends, and some try to convince themselves that they are ok with it, by seeking attention of others. The thing is, you two are together now, let bygones be bygones and just concentrate on being together now or you may be going through the same again before you know it!

Just make more contact with her apologising for the reply, she sounds like an amazing person to even bother replying in the first place. You two could be soul mates-and it would never have the chance to blossom. Who knows you could be the one for her and you could end up together, but just see her as a friend, and things will work out I promise

Mate, you have just given me hope for humanity! It just all depends on personal morales, I AM speaking from experience-but undoubtledly put in the same position with someone I care about, I would probably do the same as you mate. Just mate the conact definite and purposeful and things will happen

This is easy!!!!! Get him a bike bell in the shape of a football that plays a sex pistols tune when you ring it. Erm seriously though I think the best thing you can do is just think about getting him something original, something that he can keep forever, something engravable with "yours forever"or something enscribed is always nice

well you guys broke up yea? You obviously broke up for a reason. And whatever seems repairable sometimes in theory can be fixed, but it doesn't work 9 times out of 10

Yea, maybe getting to kno one of her friends and developing something through that? Always works for me.Or on the other hand you could just ask her for her number, and take her out and then get to know her, and if nothing happens you can't say you havn't tried! If you want anything bad enough-then anything is possible mate! Good luck and I hope that everything works out for you!

If she hasn't contacted you then I can't see this happening in any way at all, and if it does-it won't be anywhere as good as it was before. Just think of it in this way, you obviously broke up for a reason, and as as much as you say things can change, in the end they really don't. And she is just another drop in the ocean. It is the biggest cliche ever but they will come and go, and when you find the right one you won't ever have to go through this anyway! breaking contact can be the best healer

Just saying "Babes" will automatically make the women turn away I would of thought. As I have said in another thread do whatever is good for you, just make sure that you are clean and healthy for your own sake if noone elses. being yourself will do you more favours than trying too hard for somebody else!

I hate to digress from original posts, but to sebulous, Don't worry about image too much mate, if they are worth the effort then that type of thing won't matter at all.

This really is a tough one, I kinda had the same predicament a while back. And from my own experience all that I can say is that friendship is something to be valued more than a quick 10 minute fumble. Something tells me you want completely different things from each other, and by her not telling you in the first place automatically gives you a reason to doubt your friendship. Breaking my friendship with my old bestfriend after confessing our love for each other, and her then ignoring me was the hardest thing ever-it isn't really the same situation I know, but you have to realise that you being each others first, may never happen- and that ever being together, until she realises that you are the one that really cares for her, will not happen either. Find comfort in family and other close friends, and try to find love in meeting new people. History is the largest killer of love

I think doing whats good for you will work out best for you in the end- as if you do want a guy that badly, then you want him to want you for who you are, not what vogue tells you to be. Also being yourself will surely inspire confidence, and that is one of the biggets turnons, just remember that arrogance is a turnoff though!

This is probably gonna sound completely off the mark to you, but you are seeing this guy as some kind of saint, and it sounds as if it's just a teenage crush that was reciprocated, which in no way is good. The best thing you can do now is tell your sister what a moron this guy is, and hope that she doesnt disown you, because you are saying this guy suffers for your sister because he's such a nice guy, but would a nice guy do that to someone they love? At the end of the day, you arn't seeing this properly because you are besotted with this guy which is god in your eyes, but still he hurts another person that you love. all I can say is, that it WILL end in tears, and I hope you and your sister can make it up after they have been shed.