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  1. Wow. It has been a long time since I've been on here. If anyone remembers what happened, I got into a lot of trouble with the law and ended up losing my girlfriend of 3.5 years because of some poor decisions. Anyways, the charges were miraculously dropped in March. I was facing THREE YEARS but for some reason the case was thrown out before it even went to trial. I am continuously humbled by those events. My ex has moved on and so have I. What was so difficult at the time is now easily manageable. I thought I had lost everything. When you are 22 and facing three years in jail, your girlfriend (almost fiance) leaves you, your life seems hopeless. I even considered suicide and checked myself into the hospital one night when it got too much to handle. Thank God I didn't do anything stupid. It just goes to show that there is life after the ex. What seems impossible is not really that impossible at all. Hopefully I can share my experiences with everyone here. A lot of people were very supportive and so it is my turn to do the same. Thank you! Nicholas
  2. I didn't know dialated pupils is a sign of attraction. That's really interesting. I had always associated it with some form of narcotics use. Just kidding. Keep us updated, sounds like a nice guy. It sounded like he was trying to spend as much time with you as he could, by his "fifteen more minutes," remark.
  3. Hey, Well, she called me today and said she wasn't ready for a relationship. She apologized and said I was a great guy, yadda yadda yadda. Finally. A girl with balls. I respected the fact that she called me and told me that, instead of the juvenile not-picking-up-the-phone crap. I thought it was a classy move and I told her so. She was a great girl, but these things happen. Kalshane, What's going on playa? It know it does sound weird wanting to settle down at my age. But for the past four years, I've lived a very, very fast lifestyle. For a while, it was almost a different girl every night. Personally, I was getting tired of it and I wanted to slow down. I just hate having to go back to square one. It's really frustrating after you've invested time and money into someone. I guess it's back to the library and church to start waxin and milkin' again...haha Nicholas
  4. Hey stargazer, Getting back in the loop after a long break eh? I can testify to that. Sounds like everything went splendid. From his actions, it seems like he is interested in you. The apologetic e-mail was a good sign I think. I don't really know what else to say, looks like everything went well and to just continue on from there. You noticed his pupils were dialated the whole time? LOL Nicholas
  5. Kalshane, You are right. Quantity is very important too. It's always a big boost to a guy's ego to get ten numbers in one night at the club. I guess with the current mindframe I have right now, I'm kind of looking towards something that will last. I hate wasting time with wastes of time, which has been happening a lot lately. But in order to get yourself out there, quantity is totally important. It's kind of a balance. Nicholas
  6. Hey man, Finding a good-quality chick is hard. I'm straight up going to start scouring the library and church at this point. Night-clubs. Well, the girls are hot and everyone's in their element, but what's missing is the quality. You go out a couple of times and then nothing happens. You met at a bar. Entre-nous, I'd prefer it if I met a girl outside of the bar. Girls that go to bars every weekend will cause you headaches. I agree with ticklebug. To young guys like you and I it might seem impractical to go meet a girl while volunteering or going for coffee. But the type of girl you will meet there will be high-class and have a good heart. I stay away from bartenders and waitresses. They get hit on a million times a day and that can get ridiculous for a guy. A sporting event would be a great place to meet a girl, I think. How cool would it be to hang out with a girl that knows more about basketball than you? Church is good, but, we all know how that is... I'm kind of dating a girl now who is what I'd call a "bar-star." I'm practically younger than she is and I'm just tired of that scene. Prowling is lots of fun, with the guys and everything, but it rarely leads to anything very substantial. Whatever you do, look for quality. Be confident. You'll do allright! Nicholas
  7. Yo surething, I'm guessing you're maybe in high school? Hmm...that was a blur in my life, but I'll give it my best shot. It's just going to be you and you won't know anyone. You will be left out, because a lot of the music isn't going to be slow. That means you HAVE to dance. You don't want to be looked upon as lame. We all hate dancing, but we have to do it. Otherwise, some smooth-talking hustler with moves like Usher is going to snatch her up while you're standing on the side, waiting for K-Ci and Jo Jo to come on. Show her that you're confident with yourself and dance with her. Start off by giving her some space when you dance. Don't go for the bump and grind right off the start. She'll introduce you to some friends, that will be cool. Since this is the first time the two of you are going out, I would just act laid-back and confident. Um, don't bring flowers. See how the dance goes and then decide whether a kiss is in order. Don't worry about the parents, just act genuine and look the Dad in the eye. And smile too. Good luck. Let yourself go and have some fun. Nicholas
  8. Hey kalshane, Well, I called her and we talked for about ten minutes. We hang out about twice a week, call each other every day. I make myself pretty available, which is what I think might kill it. How do I kind of make sure she doesn't loose interest in me? I'm a good guy, drive a nice car, good-looking, funny. We just lead busy lives. What are some strategies I can use to really reel her in? I am the man at picking up chicks and having a really good first date. But I'm not a finisher. I need to work on that aspect now that I'm trying to settle down a bit.
  9. Hey all, So I'd been seeing this new girl for about three-four weeks. We'd been having a lot of fun together, going to concerts, restaurants etc. As far as I knew, we were getting along just great. But her behavior over the last couple of days has been peculier. On Thursday after work, I called and she said, "Can I call you right back?" But she never did. As well, Friday she didn't pick up my calls. Now I HATE not knowing what's going on. So how do I find out without looking like a psycho weirdo. I don't want to keep on calling like I'm desperate... Thanks gang Nicholas P.S. Sorry if it looks as if I'm overreacting. I'm feel like I'm overreacting. Maybe she's just busy. She's just the first girl in months that didn't make me think about my ex, it would be a real shame if it fizzled out like this...
  10. Strandysmommy, Wow. I respect the honesty of your post. Sometimes when someone has hurt you so bad, you don't want to give them the benefit of your thoughts and cares. You mention that you would always go downstairs and snuggle with him. It sounds as if you had a lot of broken dreams as a result of his actions, whatever they are. The fact is, sadly, some guys just aren't ready for relationships. That is hardly your fault at all. It still sounds like you really hurt inside, deep down. Even though he might have done something really wrong and hurtful, it sounds like he still has a chunk of your heart. I don't really know what to say. I know my birthday is coming up and I'm kind of just like your ex. It would be nice to hear from her (and likewise, from you), but it's not something I expect. I understand the pain she (and likewise, you) are going through, and I don't expect her (you) to act like we're still, "buddies." I say continue on the path to healing. You don't have to reach out to him if you don't think it's fair. I, and hopefully he, would respect that. Hope that was of some help. Sincerely, Nicholas
  11. Hey honeybunch, Yeah, I respect her reply. She kind of put things gently so I didn't have to go through all the trouble, and end up looking like an idiot. Oddly enough, I did anyways. What I said was kind of stupid, kind of playing it off as a joke. We kind of stay our distance from one another. So the friend thing is not really there. I guess its hard maybe for a girl to be friends with a guy who is attracted to her. I admit I am clueless. I'm 21 and have dated 2 girls for the past seven years, 3.5 yeas each! I'm pretty new at this whole thing. Just glad to be out there Nicholas
  12. Hey Ated, I'm sorry to hear that you were feeling sad today. Life is constantly up and down. Seeing your ex with another person can be almost traumatic sometimes. I know I literally snapped when I saw that, something inside my head just went off and I haven't really been the same since. But I've learned not to take those sort of events personally. He doesn't mean to hurt you. He doesn't mean to break your heart. Maybe it's just something he has to do, and in time, things will even themselves out. It's not easy. As far as desensitization goes, I don't know what to say. I have never been able to do it. Sometimes I wish I could. Surround yourself with friends, stay busy, pick up a hobby. April is not that far away. You still need lots of time to heal, so take it. It's yours! Ated, sometimes its hard. Sometimes it feels impossible. But you are going to make it! You're going to be bruised and battered, but you will be stronger! Keep me updated! Nicholas
  13. Hey Ated, Basically, my ex and I broke up in May. So it took a really long time. But it's almost as if the shackles have been broken. I didn't want to rub it in my ex-girlfriend's face that I've found someone new, but I'm pretty sure she knows what's going on. I don't want her to be sad. But I guess it comes down to listening to her own advice: "If it's meant to be, it'll be." I was miserable while she was out with other guys. This is the one chance I have to be happy again and I'm going to take it. The little games are still going on. It's kind of ridiculous. I happened to check her profile today. Under favorite things it used to read, "Driving in Nicholas' Benz." Now it reads something like "Driving with my hotel roomies," or something like that. I kind of take that as an obvious attempt to get at me. But if I were to reply in kind, it would be childish and it would give the idea that I'm not happy and that sort of thing still bothers me. Exes are not exactly innocent of the mind-games. I encourage all of you to watch out. When you are being exploited and manipulated, take off and go the other direction! There's no sense getting hurt. Take care everyone, and please, move forward to become happy, with or without your ex. Nicholas
  14. Hey everyone, Although I have not gotten back together with my ex, I am so happy at this point in my life. You see, I was hanging on this thread, this bone that she threw me, where she would say, "If it's meant to be, it'll be." Meanwhile, she wanted to go on dates with all these guys while I sat there and waited like an idiot. But it's not happening like that anymore. Sooner or later, we have to look at the situation and say, "This is ridiculous. This is ruining my pride and my self-esteem. I have to get out of here." And we have to let go of the only love we've ever known. For the past several weeks, I've been seeing this girl. She is amazing. Gorgeous, smart, funny, caring. For the first time in many months, I wasn't stuck thinking about my ex. It has taken me a long time to get here, but I'm glad I'm here. Have I moved on completely? I don't really know. But I'm not going to wallow in self-pity and sadness. It's a new day; I feel a connection with this girl already. It's not for everyone. But I know it has helped me tremendously. I don't have to sit at home and wonder who my ex is out at the club with. I don't have to worry about her getting intimate with someone else. That's not in my control. But my own happiness IS in my control. Thanks Nicholas
  15. Lostangel, If he's going out every night that means he is miserable. Skynet is exactly right. He's probably miserable as hell. Stay strong and resist the urge to call! You were doing so well and you sounded like you were being very productive. If he calls, I'd MAYBE pick up, but say, "Oh, I'm on the way to the gym," or "I'm in the middle of a run." Keep conversations BRIEF. Less than a minute. Lostangel, you feel down now, but I hope you will feel happy again soon. The past six months sound so tough, but I know, and everyone else knows, that you can do it. JUST STAY STRONG. If you feel like you're going to crack, come on here. We're here for you. I know what you're feeling, the exact same thing happened to me. Stay up and smile. Nicholas
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