belly_button22

i couldnt have said it better myself! awesome answer "Shadows Light" 8)

i always have to pee after i have an orgasm...even if i cant pee when i try...it still feels like you should be peeing....i dont know its kinda weird

ok heres my problem. My boyfriend and i have started getting pretty sexual by doing stuff like oral and fingering ect. Anyways the thing is i can pleasure him no big deal but no matter how many times he trys with me i cannot seem to have an orgasm....dont get me wrong it feels really good and there have been times where hes gotten me so SO close to cumming, but then he stops and says his tongue is to tired. I personally dont really like having people finger me, i suppose i might but i cant do it when im doing it to myself and my boyfriend cant do it so i dont know. Ive told him what feels good, its not like we dont talk enough cause we talk A LOT and he feels really bad that he cant "please" even though it does make me feel good. I dont know what to do.....ive given him websites that he can go to to "learn" how to please me but i dont know if he will go to them or not. I think it would be awesome if we could both be pleased by eachother rather than just me giving him pleasure. And i dont want to have sex until im married so thats out of the question. If any of you have any ideas or suggestions that would be AWESOME!!! thanks -bellybutton

totally normal!

i agree with "Lightingbird" do you ever think that he might just be using you?

and how old are you. You must be REALLY sheltered....

yeah what eveyone said....also to make it more plesurable you can use like heated lube...twisted top condoms....ribbed and such

hey im a chick... the first time i gave head my boyfriend had masturbated like 3 times that day so it took sooo long. My jaw got really tired and i got really bored. But he told me he was close so i still went on and on and on and finally he blew. But i thought it took to long the first time. Also i guess i was holding it "wrong" cause i was squeezing the vein at the base. Psh. All my experiances now are much better, firsts normally are interesting. And of corse you always learn from them

to get your girlfriend to where she is more comfortable doing things with you....you should become more of a friend first. After you have gotten that down she should be able to talk to you. If she is a REALLY shy person then have thought that maybe she is only letting you do that because she is scared to say no? think about it. Talk to her....

Ok well just stick with me through this post i might jump all over the place. I have this friend who i have known since i was in 6th grade. In 6th grade we were the best of friends and we were inseprable. same with that summer. 7th grade i started dating boys and we were still the best of friends and that summer i swear we were together every night and day. 8th grade she started this thing that i havent gotten its really confusing for me because i guess im still living in the past. She is a big girl and shes black. Im skinny and white. Most of the people i talk to about this problem to some people and they just say that she might be jelous. (she has never had a boyfriend and even thought ive had 5 she has never really said anything about it) Now every year at least 2wice she all of a sudden wont talk to me at all. Brushes me away and wont even agnolage that im standing right next to her. When i ask people around what her problem is they dont know and then like a day later she tells me "why the f*** do you keep telling people that im mad at you" and that will be the only thing she will say to me. I get so depressed when she does this to me. And then a week later she apoligizes and says that she was stupid for getting mad and we go on with our lifes and become buddies again and all is good. But when i ask her (when shes not mad) what i do to piss her off so much she says that shes just sick of some things i do. i really dont think that ive changed that much and i dont piss anyone else off other than her so i really dont get it. my mom always tells me that were prolly never going to be as good as friends as we once were. and i do realize that all good things must come to an end at some point. But why does it have to happen like this. Where i have no idea what i did wrong. please write me your ideas thanx

my friend once told me that you are really only supposed to say "I love you" once. I dont believe that because i think that it is possible to love more than one person. I was in love in my last relationship and i am starting to fall in love all over again. Are you only supposed to love once. And all the others are just lust?

hey there it looks like youve got yourself a little problem. First of all i think that your trying to get this girl to hard. Your trying to hard!!!! relationships arnt meant to be this hard. When you smother this girl by telling her and trying to get her to go out with her it sounds like you keep scaring her away every time you tell her... my advice: Act like her friend dont push her into anything, i dont mean ignore her but i mean give her some room talk to her as you guys are best friends or something and when you sense she likes you try to flirt with her a little and see how she reacts. hope it works out for you

hey well thats a pickle your in right now....all i have to say to you is that i think you should try to hang out with her and whenever your not with her chatting and such dont make it obvious that you like her....keep that on the DL (down low) then maybe she will become more comfortable with you again as friends. Once you build that up again try to flirt a little at a time with her and see her reaction to that. Ive had boys who were my best friends all of a sudden tell me that they like me like you kinda did with her.....its really supprising! and then you really dont know how to act around them because you want to be their friend and they want something more......its hard to explain. But really just try to be her friend for now then maybe she will want to hang out with you more and you will be able to see her again.....worship her from afar....if you know what i mean. i hope this works out for you. 8)

Thanks for all the replys! ill try them....

What is love? i mean really you think of all the poeple who ruin the word and use it carlessly they dont even stop to think what it means....But the question is what does it mean to say "I love you"??