Cadence308

I have to disagree on the fear part. Just because catecholamines are released in response to stress or excitement doesn't mean that if you get someone scared their thought processes or perspectives about the situation are going to be the same. C'mon, catecholamines, also known as endorphins are also released during sex and you can't tell me that sex and fear mean the same things. The body responds in a physiologically similar manner to both situations by releasing catecholamines, which in turn increases heart rate, contracility and blood pressure. I don't recommend a hike or necessarily somewhere private for a first date with a girl, unless you know her really well and were/are friends beforehand because she may become suspicious of you and wonder why you are trying to get her in a one on one situation so soon. I have been asked out on many dates where guys wanted to go somewhere really private like on their boat in the ocean or something. I'm not a tall or big girl and the thought of being cast overboard and my family never being able to locate my body scared me enough to decline those dates. If you and the girl don't know each other well I would meet her at the coffee shop, meet for a drink somewhere, or ice cream. Use the KISS principle (Keep It Simple Stupid) and just keep the date inexpensive, casual, comfortable, and show your interest by asking her questions about herself and listen to her responses. If you do that then you are likely to get a second date.

I don't like hairy men. I like things to be smooth and prickly free. It does seem to be the trend nowadays and I think my girlfriends would agree with me. Although, some older women I know (in their 40s-50s) say that they find hairy men very sexy and manly so I guess it depends on who you ask. I also had a friend who tried laser under her armpits. She said she liked it and it worked, but you have to go back several times because the hair has to be in a growing phase when it gets lasered, otherwise, the hair follicle doesn't die. It can get really expensive, but it generally depends on the area and how much of an area you want done. It's getting cheaper all of the time and most places have financing available. I'm thinking about getting my legs and bikini line done.

Ouch, yeah, if you almost ended up in the hospital that's pretty scary stuff. It doesn't sound like sex with your gf has been very pleasurable. You should communicate that with her and she should be okay with that. Does she mistake your cries for help as moans of ecstasy?! If she's not okay with that then you are in a bad relationship. Both parties should be able to communicate likes and dislikes about sex. Sex is just as much about communication as it is about the actual deed.

Hi, I'm a woman so I'll give some womanly perspective. I've had many guy friends over the course of my existence and I would say that all of them would have loved to get beyond the "friend zone," but I was not interested. I did develop sort of a brotherly love with my close guy friends. I would go to them about my guy problems and they would tell me that I could do better than that (I think they really meant themselves). I have never dated a guy whom I considered a good friend and I think most of my gfs would agree. It is pretty difficult, but not impossible. I would say if you have feelings for a girl and you two have a platonic relationship just accept that the status of that relationship is probably not going to change.

Hi, I'm a woman so I'll give some womanly perspective. I've had many guy friends over the course of my existence and I would say that all of them would have loved to get beyond the "friend zone," but I was not interested. I did develop sort of a brotherly love with my close guy friends. I would go to them about my guy problems and they would tell me that I could do better than that (I think they really meant themselves). I have never dated a guy whom I considered a good friend and I think most of my gfs would agree. It is pretty difficult, but not impossible. I would say if you have feelings for a girl and you two have a platonic relationship just accept that the status of that relationship is probably not going to change.

I agree with the comments others have posted. You probably knew going into the marriage that your wife wasn't the brightest cookie in the jar, however, she probably possesses talents or intellects that you, yourself are lacking. If your wife truly has a complex about her learning and memory there are things that she can learn to become more skilled in those areas. Getting a tutor for her college courses is a great idea. Most colleges offer some kind of "College Success" class, in which they teach students how to study and remember things. Has your wife been tested for learning disabilities? She may be ADD and have problems focusing or concentrating and that could explain her inability to remember things. The fact that she is already self-conscious about her memory probably makes the situation worse. I would NOT bring up your issue of her intelligence with her. It also sounds like you should work on your relationship with your wife. Taking a college course together in politics or pottery could be good for the two of you. If intelligence and brightness are some of the most valued things to you in a relationship you should have thought twice about marrying her, esp. since you are saying that her lack thereof bothers you.