NicHex

People tent to say what they "think" is good when drunk. However, Seeing as I have said some "smart" things drunk, I will say this....a drunk male is known to say what they think you want to hear because most (not all) have the idea that "If I say this...I may get some action!" I would ask him about what he said some time and see if it holds true still. Good luck, happy hunting!

Well, personally..its all GND for me! (Girl next door) reason is simple. They dont have to put thems selves on to go out. I love seeing a woman look just as good when she wakes up as she did when she went to sleep. best part of the GND is they are the ones you see all over the place and know they arent TRYING to look some way. My idea GND is about 5 4 to 5 7, ranging in build from active to a few extra pounds and a face that just screams "Im cute w/o spending HOURS to get ready!" If I wanted to date a babie doll, I'd by a Princess barbie! So, to all of you women who think we are looking for something thats not real, take a look at yourself in the morning....Im sure you'll see REAL beauty, not something that comes from a bottel. I know this is getting long, but really...this is just the tip of what makes a woman really attractive to men. As some one said here, if you want a bottel man, be a bottel girl. But if you want some one deep, be yourself and see how deep things can get. As for me, Im gonna keep waking up, and looking "next door" for the right one!

Well, I think Im over my fear of talking to people. Went out last night for a friends 21st. While we were at the bar this REALLY cute girl walks in. Well, after about 10 seconds of thinking about it (and some egging on by my friends) I walked over (I needed another beer anyways) and ask'd what she was drinking, made a lil small talk and then asked if she wanted to come over and sit w/ us for a lil. Well, 2 min later she walks over w/ a lil smile on her face and sits next to me. We talked about a few things and then her firends came over and had to pull her away. Later on in the night my friend and I were playing darts and she was playing pool. Saw she was running low and went and got her (and myself) another beer. By the time she left we had made plans to some time next week get a few people together and play cards. Now, I have her #, should I call her up once I get bad to the University and see if she (and her friends) wanna join me and some buddies for a few rounds at happy hour?

Looking around nervously when talking to me. Also, if she whispers something to me...doesnt have to be dirty talk...just her wanting to get that close to me.

Ok, another new topic from me, and this time w/ some good news. But I will get to that in a second. Im shy around people I dont really know (makes dates kinda amussing I guess). I know girls like a sweet guy (after she sees he is not a needy guy). Now, when Im w/ friends who I know, we flirt, cuddle, joke etc. But I just cant seem to do that around new people. I mean, I even have a hard time going up and talking to some one. I know Im a good looking guy, and I can joke w/ the best of them. What should I do to try and stop this string of shyness stopping me from talking to the hotties at a party? I mean, come on, I have what ppl seem to want, but how do I make the ladies want me? Now to the date. I talked to a girl online for no more than 45 min before asking her to lunch. No cemesty what so ever, but I went out on a limb and asked. I felt REALLY odd about this. But it got me a date. Thnx

the reason we didnt go out was because she got held over at work. (A friend of ours confermed this). and I know the gas was some what of a pain to pay for. But I didnt know that she was going to get cought up at work.

yestersday I was supposed to go out w/ a girl I have talked to a few times. Things being as they were we never got to go out. But after feeling so down about it, I went and got her some of her fave floers and took them to her house. Every one was asleep so I left the flowers and a note on her car saying I understood that sometimes things go other then we plan and that I hope you enjoy the flowers. I know to some ppl it sounds stupid, but I wanna know what ya think. I feel this is a step in going back to the roamtic (spelling) guy I used to be. and ladies, what would you think if some one did that? (note: I drove 2 hours to my bros house for the night, and she lives 45 min from him...for a total of almost 3 hrs from my own home)

only thing I can say is to talk to him. Get it out in the open. I mean, there is something there, but you need to both talk and see if its the same for each of you. I know when I left my ex, we still enjoyed sex at times, but we knew it was just for having sex and not for other reasons.

I knwo I have just stopp'd hurting a few months ago. We were together for 2+ years and broke it off about the time of my b-day (some gift I gave myself). The times that used to mean something, seem to always mean something. I still wont ask any one out on 3/11 (the day I started to see my 1st real GF). And I have no intrest in starting something this week (Football Hall of Fame week), becasue that was when my latest Ex and i started dating. There is hope. All you can hope for is close understanding friends who will be there when you feel hallow, and leave you be when you need to just dwell. Del is right about being busy. It always help. Myself, I found new meaning to my life in doing something I had longed for...I entered ROTC in my college. Just look for yourself and realize that you are still the same person you were before during and after the break up. Nothing has changed but you status (single, married, etc...). All this coming from a man who broke down yesterday just to realize he was reliving good memories that his misses. I dont Miss her any more, I miss knowing I can call some one at 3a.m. to go to iHop or to watch a movie.

Ay, thats the only way to know if a guy is taken or not (Sorry, but the ladies do seem to care more about lips then us males). Personaly, I enjoy the taste, but I dont some times laff at how my lips feel afterwords

I think I know whats has started my relpase....next week woulda been 3 years. i know thinking about this isnt good, but it just kinda pop'd into my head. Also, I realize now that 22 Oct will be a year w/o her (we start our "break" 2 days before my 20th b-day), and w/o any one. This is a new record in my life (time being single) but ya know what. At least Im joking about being single any more. BTW: Any one have advice on places to go out and meet new people? Thnx

this ones kinda a joke amoung ROTC ppl at my college. But I have seen it work a few times..."Yeah, Im a Rot-C guy.." girl says something about the uniform to witch we reply "well, only thing better than a guy in Uniform is the same guy in your bed" I know it sounds aweful, but my buddy took a girl home w/ that line...and they are now going on 3 months.

I think Im relasping (sp). Because today I have started to feel really cold and I dont know....unwanted seems to feel about right. I have this empty feeling right now. How should i go about dealing now? I mean, I have gotten back into some of my fave past times, and Im working an ok part time job (3rd shift none the less). I just want to know, how is it that after almost 10 months now, shes in a steedy relationship (after asulting me n other things) and Im still feeling like I did this some how!?

It helped me realize what truly was going on. My mind felt as though some one had died. And ya know...it took some greving (spelling). But yeah, 9 months later and Im feeling a little better. And now, can I get some advice about the title of this topic?

Seem SomeJoe and I have had the same prob at the same point. And that come back, bummer that they never seem ta work ya know? I realized in a dream that Im over my X. I got my "revenge" by showing her that I was able to live MY life. Not OURs because I saw that "we" didnt exist. During my 1st few months I saw a counsler, it was a big help. Now I guess I just need to pass the time until I stop worrying about if Im ready or not.

Sorry to hear of you place in life right now. I would also see about getting custody. At least you are trying to be a father still. I give you much respect on that account. But, also I really feel badly that you and your daughter both have to go through your ex's choices this way. In the end though, it will all work its self out teh way it was meant to. Best of luck!

I dont have many single friends at home (Im a college studnet and at home for the summer). And all the things I like doing are things my X and i used to do. For example I played computer games a LOT but once we broke up, my love of gaming died out. Im not trying to knock you down, but I feel like i have tried all I can think of to stay active and heal. I did get to start up one thing that she lways kept me from, I joined AF ROTC at school. That was a big help in finding myself again, but saddly the summer is ROTC off time.

I have just started to fully realize who I am w/o my X GF. My question is, I have tried to date sense then and it has all ended up with me sitting home alone on the weekends. My X and i dated for 2+ years. I know myself better now becasue i have spent this time looking for and realizing once again who I am. Any advice? Can women "smell" a guy whos not ready to be dating again? Im really at a loss here. And the more time I spend alone the more I start to get upset about the fact that I dont seem to be able to handle being alone when all of the people around me are going though relationships like they are candy. Confused and lonely... Nic Hex

I hate to say this STUEY, but I would advise against seeing her even as a friend. I know w/ my X (we broke up almose 9 months ago) if I see her, it brings back some painfull feelings. Sometimes there is a friendship to fall back on, but I for one would not recommend placing yourself in that spot. Think about what you need to do now, you should spend at least the amount of time you were with her alone (1 yr w/, 1 yr w/o) I know it sounds tough, but even after all this time seeing my X hurts. Best of luck