Facebook share
LinkedIn share
Google plus share
Twitter plus share
Give Advice
Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 12

Thread: This is making me crazy!

  1. #1

    Join Date
    Dec 2019
    Posts
    4

    This is making me crazy!

    Hey everyone!

    So I had this crush on a guy for a few months and when i saw that he was interested (at least that's what i thought), I added him on facebook. He accepted right away which of course made me happy but I couldn't text him right away (I was busy that day and I already made a creepy move so i wanted to give him some space). When i texted him the next day, he took forever to reply (like a few hours). A first i thought he was busy but again, i highly doubt it since he does it all the time. When the conversation dead down, i decided to wait for him to text me first because of many reasons:

    *I already made a lot of moves and i guess if i did anymore than this it's over for me (i invested a lot and i think it's somehow his turn to do so).

    *If he's not interested, i don't want to bother him. (he's nice enough to try to keep the conversation going)



    So, i want your advice about this,

    Did I make the right choice?

    What's your opinion about his late replies?

  2. #2
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    36,632
    Gender
    Male
    How do you know each other? Do you go to school or work together? It's fine to friend people you know on fb. However don't count the minutes/hours until they reply, be more low key. Like a post or two here and there. Otherwise lay back a bit more on this. Don't let your life revolve around someone you are not even dating no less in a relationship with.
    Originally Posted by loop7888
    So I had this crush on a guy for a few months
    I added him on facebook. He accepted right away
    i texted him the next day, he took forever to reply (like a few hours).

  3. #3

    Join Date
    Dec 2019
    Posts
    4
    We have a few classes together. Thanks for you advice.

  4. #4
    Platinum Member reinventmyself's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    10,605
    Gender
    Female
    Originally Posted by loop7888
    i saw that he was interested
    what did he do that made you think he was interested?

  5.  

  6. #5
    Platinum Member reinventmyself's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    10,605
    Gender
    Female
    Originally Posted by loop7888
    A first i thought he was busy but again, i highly doubt it since he does it all the time.
    You mentioned it took him forever to reply once, but yet you say he doesn't this all the time?
    How many times have you contacted him exactly?

  7. #6

    Join Date
    Dec 2019
    Posts
    4
    He sometimes tries to be around me and he initiated a talk once. (even his close friend became more friendly with me) but again it may just be my imagination.
    He always takes time to reply actually. I send him a text, he takes like 2 hours to reply. I send him a response and he takes another few hours to reply...It goes like this. But now that the conversation died, i don't know if I should initiate the conversation again or wait for him to do so.

  8. #7
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    36,632
    Gender
    Male
    Ok try not to seem like you're glued to your phone. Some boys think that's clingy. Relax. Never bombard anyone with messages. That could come off as creepy. Try being more open and friendly when you see him in your classes/at school. But otherwise stop all the excess messaging. He's not your text-buddy. Why not update your social media pages with nice pics and interesting posts?
    Originally Posted by loop7888
    I send him a text, he takes like 2 hours to reply. I send him a response and he takes another few hours to reply...It goes like this.

  9. #8

    Join Date
    Dec 2019
    Posts
    4
    So basically I won't text him now and just wait for him while being friendly in class is that it?
    Thanks for your advice! it really helps since i don't have much experience in relationship myself.

  10. #9
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2018
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    885
    Gender
    Male
    Yeah cut back on the texting. Also a few hours to reply isn't a long time at all.

    Slow down, take a breath. You come across as a little intense. You seem really invested in him. Have you got other thing's you can be doing to keep your mind off clock watching his replies?

  11. #10
    Platinum Member Rose Mosse's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2019
    Location
    British Columbia, Canada
    Posts
    3,033
    Gender
    Female
    Talk to him in the hallway, inbetween classes or sit next to him. So you've added him on fb - no biggie. Time to up your game in person. Get to know him in real time. The electronic side stuff is ok but kind of weak. See what he's like in person. You can do it.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Give Advice
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •