Amanda77 Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 I'll try and keep it short. There's a guy that comes to my work mainly once a month to collect his prescription we have always been able to chat and have a laugh but recently he has been asking questions to weather I'm single or seeing anyone he also mentioned he had a dream i was single and it was a good dream. I know he has kids but never mentions he wife anymore , last week my work colleague told me he couldn't keep his eyes off me but me been single for 7 years now kinda misses if someone pays attention to me , I was asking him what he's plans were for half term and he said kids r going Chessington and he has bank holiday off. He always makes a point of staying for a chat at work and often asks about me to other colleagues if I'm not there. Am I missing something? Is he interested? And am I missing the signs? I have liked him for a very long time but once he had children and got married I backed off. Link to comment
Billie28 Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 Yes he is definitely interested in an extra marital affair. What kind of creep tells you he had a dream you were single and it was a good dream? Eeeew!!! That might be nice if he asked you on a date and told you on that date once it was going well and mutual attraction apparent. But no! He is just a giant creep imo. He no longer mentions his wife, doesn’t mean he is not still with her. His kids are going to Chessington, my bet is with his wife to see their maternal grandparents. ??? But also letting you know he is “free” So yes he is interested. Are you? Next time ask him how did his wife and kids enjoy their break? He has NOT asked you on a date. That suggests he is not interested in dating you. If you ask him out , in his mind , he can’t be held accountable for what happens subsequently because after all , you “knew” he was married with kids , right? Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 You've known him so long that he's gotten married and his wife popped out a kid but he has not asked you for your phone number? I don't see a future with this guy, sorry. Link to comment
Amanda77 Posted April 13, 2019 Author Share Posted April 13, 2019 I have known as a patient for a long time I at the time was with someone and he also was. I have been apart from my ex 7 years but also had a break fron work to raise my children so last time he saw me we was both in relasionship . I don't know if he's married anymore and maybe hes not sure how to ask me out or even if that was his plan Link to comment
Andrina Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 Someone who has said the things he's said to you is not shy and would ask you out if he was free and interested. Either he is taken and crossing boundaries (he wouldn't say those things if his wife was in the room) or he's free and likes that you have a crush for his ego boost, but just not that interested enough to ask you out. Don't be a toy mouse that lets the cat bat you around. If it's a bf you want, go to meet up.com and find single groups in your area or join a group hobby you like that guys also gravitate to. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 Well if he has had conversations that entailed whether you were single or not, etc...why didn't you ask if he was? The opportunity was there. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 Don't get ahead of yourself and speak to him next time, just get the info straight from the horse's mouth. Don't assume, don't blacklist him, don't do anything until you get to know him better. Go from there. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 13, 2019 Share Posted April 13, 2019 First thing you need to do is ask him how his wife is and if they are still married since he never mentions her anymore. You can open that conversation by asking him how his wife and kids enjoyed their stay in Covington. Then if he doesn't say anything about the wife, you can just say: You don't mention your wife are you two still married. If he says he's "separated" then don't get your panties in a happy state, just avoid him until he's divorced. He's got game going on with you (like Billie mentioned) so be alert to his crap. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 If he hasn't specifically asked you out, he's just flirting. Also hitting on you at work is off base. Link to comment
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