smackie9

Honest communication with him is your answer. If he's just that, too busy, and doesn't really have the time, then you two have different expectations/ incompatible. Have to talk this out and discover if there can be changes and if not, then a decision has to be made.

Obviously you have it all wrong...he's insecure and jealous. Get out now.

Well if there ain't no ring on her finger, she's fair game. Ask her out. It's up to her after that, if she's willing or not. You are not forcing her into anything.

You have many options here. I'm sure you can decide which one would be suitable. It doesn't have to be this event, it can be anything like going to see a movie or whatever.

However you set this up, don't start makin the moves on her yet. It's a first date/hangout...doesn't mean it's for romantic reasons...you could be friends zoned and you don't even know it. So just enjoy the date/hangout, talk, maybe go out for a snack afterwards. Feel things out. Parents: Either explain to her it's a family thing and she's more than welcome to come along or like Wiseman stated get separate tickets if that is an option.

Depends on your future expectations....for example if you are thinking marriage with children it's a no brainer to sent this gentleman off. But if you are just looking for a companion, casual relationship then it shouldn't be an problem. Just take note, in your 50's you will be probably taking care of an elderly man.

What to do or your next step will be up to you. Maybe have some communication with her and time to think before you decide.

You loved him so much you knew this was best for him. His new sexual development needs exploration and the freedom to do it without guilt. You just freed yourself from the pain and anxiety. For sure you shouldn’t be someone you are not just to be in that relationship. This was a very mature decision. You may have feelings of guilt and uncertainty which is truly normal, but in a few months you will feel relief and look forward to your new future. You will adjust. Maybe you yourself should seek out a few counselling sessions to unload your grief. Must be hard to not be able to talk to your friends and family about it. Most schools to offer free counselling, maybe start there. Best of luck and take care.

In time the teasing will resolve itself and your feelings about it will disappear.

I think these men don’t want to have their time wasted so they get right to it. Since you find these questions intrusive and you are not interested in a committed relationship at this time you should come to the conclusion they are not looking for the same thing. Makes sense to just cut them off or maybe yourself be more proactive in expressing your expectations right out of the gate.

A sure confident man says what he says....that means they will tell you without hesitation what you mean to them, and how committed he is with his words and actions that match. He doesn't drag his feet for months. Me personally would never sit around and wait and ponder "what are we?" I would say to part ways because your expectations, and what you need isn't there. You have already spent enough of your time on this.

Many married people find solace in another's arms for many different reasons. Only she can answer your question. I feel the most common is a way to escape from the ordinary. The thrill, feeling alive, dopamine rush (which is addictive). Her head is stuffed far up her a$$ over it she's gonna deny/protect her addiction. I know you are trying to get your head around this, it's very destressing especially when you have your family to think about....the future is so unknown. Everyone is right. You need to seek out legal counsel, and separate. Make sure you communicate well and reassuringly to your children. Work on fair shared custody. I feel horrible for you...your everything that you have ever known is gone. That's so heartbreaking. I wish you well, and hope for the future.

You suffer from generalized anxiety disorder. Please seek out a therapist for proper diagnosis and treatment, instead of giving up on yourself. It’s treatable.

Ya been there...be pleasant if needed, hold head high, just walk on by.

Doesn't matter what it's called...it's not right. Bad enough that her friends noticed it too. It's like he's going around and telling coworkers/ friends that the OP is not his GF. I have been there myself...I dumped the guy after 3 weeks. My verdict is this guy don't give a real flim-flam about the OP.