SaRaHmArIe8588 Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 Recently, i just met a new guy. He goes to the same college as me and works at the same part time job. All and all he seems like a nice guy but something he said to me has me wondering what it meant. We were just talking one night and jokingly, i started talking dirty. I then said I hope you dont think im a sl*t because im not... He told me he doesnt believe in the word... What would you think when you heard that? he doesnt care about a womans sex life? Or he doesnt believe in the word because he likes girls who sleep around and fool around... I just dont know how to form an opinion about this guy and feel it would be rude to ask this soon in the relationship. Anyone heard that line before and/or used it? Link to comment
rocio Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 He probably feels that it is a cruel word, used exclusively for women, and that a woman's sex-life does not determine her worth. Or he might be trying to get in your pants. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 I'd initially think that maybe he's not a judgemental person, but as I spent more time with him, I watch to see if his actions matched up with his words. I tend to do this with people I don't know real well. Got screwed over one too many times by believing what someone said and not really paying attention to what they did. Link to comment
chai714 Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 Sounds like he was saying, "I can accept you talking about sex and won't label you a sl*t." This is what I gathered from your post. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 I think it's a nice thing to say - he's either open-minded or non-judgemental, both good. (Or as Shes2Smart says, he's saying whatyou want to hear). But I would definitely be turned off a man who *DID* think it was an acceptable term to call a woman. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 How ironic that you feel comfortable enough to "talk dirty" but think it's too early to ask him what he meant by something he said. He probably means he doesn't believe in using the term " * * * *" as a label. I do wonder why you'd talk dirty to a nice (does that mean "traditional?") guy. Link to comment
DropToZero Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 Recently, i just met a new guy. He goes to the same college as me and works at the same part time job. All and all he seems like a nice guy but something he said to me has me wondering what it meant. We were just talking one night and jokingly, i started talking dirty. I then said I hope you dont think im a sl*t because im not... He told me he doesnt believe in the word... What would you think when you heard that? he doesnt care about a womans sex life? Or he doesnt believe in the word because he likes girls who sleep around and fool around... I just dont know how to form an opinion about this guy and feel it would be rude to ask this soon in the relationship. Anyone heard that line before and/or used it? It means exactly what I've slowly been learning in life...that people are stuck to double standards. I don't know if I would say I dont "believe" in the word, but if I had to gather what he said, he means what I think when I say...When it comes to sex, it takes two people, it takes a guy and a girl(or...I guess that's interchangeable), but... somehow when a guy gets sex really early on, he's applauded for it, and when a girl gives it up early on, she's labeled the above word. It's a double standard, and I don't believe it should be that way, and that's what he means...what you do in a relationship or who you sleep with is your business, and just cause a guy sleeps with someone early on into a relationship(or many times), doesn't mean he should be thought of any differently than a girl who does. Does this make sense...? I tried to explain it the best way I could in what I mean. Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 I'd read it as *I'll make out I'm all for women's equality in sexual matters, either because I really believe it, or I want to sleep with you.* I'll keep my own mouth shut on which I personally think is more likely *cough second one cough* Link to comment
InaneCathode Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 Sounds like he's trying to get in to your pants tbh Link to comment
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