HangingInThere Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 My b/f of 2 months sent me a text yesterday with a poem. I thought the poem was cute, but for some odd reason I ran it thru google and realized that he edited part of it, as oppose to leaving it like the original. here is HIS version of the poem: I dropped a tear in the ocean for you, the day you find it is the day i stop caring for you ___________________ now substitute 'caring for you' with 'loving you'.............that is what the original poem reads. should I be insulted by this? My bestfriend said I am just spoil and just use to my exes saying the L word too soon. what do you think? Link to comment
Momene Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 To be honest, I think you are looking for a motive where none exists. Link to comment
HangingInThere Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 what do you mean? (motive) Link to comment
Momene Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I don't believe either him sending the poem or editing it has any bad intentions. Link to comment
southerngirl Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 He probally meant it as a sweet gesture, and he may have changed the words slightly because he didnt want to lie. He may care for you very much but after 2 months he may not yet call it love. Theres nothing wrong with that. Too often people say things they dont mean. Would you rather him say he loves you when he doesnt? Myself, Id rather someone be honest with me about how they feel. Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Maybe your BF is just not ready for the LOVE word just yet, that is the only thing I can think of. Has he ever said I LOVE YOU before ? If not ,I think he just doesn't want to throw the love word around too soon. He obviously cares a lot about you by sending the poem in the first place. If I were you I wouldn't sweat it too much, and just appreciate the fact that he sent it. Link to comment
Scout Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 You're completely overlooking the fact your boyfriend SENT YOU A POEM. That's pretty romantic stuff, and indicates he's certainly well on his way to loving you, if in fact, he isn't already there! However, if you raise the subject to him of why he didn't leave the poem as is, you can be sure that any direction he's moving in towards love will suddenly screech to a grinding halt. I'm sure you're a sweet girl, but in this case...your friend is right, hon, and you're being a little nitpicky. Link to comment
Anna. Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Yeah, sounds like a super thoughtful thing for him to say, and if he's sweet enough to say this, then I would bet the reason he hasn't said I love you yet is b/c he's a good guy and wants do everything right in the relationship. Enjoy the gesture and don't overanalyze it. Link to comment
rmpavlock Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 It's pretty sweet of him to do that. He probably just doesn't feel comfortable using the L word after only two months. Link to comment
Scout Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 He probably just doesn't feel comfortable using the L word after only two months. Right, and one reason could be because he might think it will freak you out. He's cautiously showing his feelings towards you, that's all. But he's certainly showing them! Link to comment
WorkNProgress Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I think that he was just trying to be sweet and send you a little something. Make you aware he is thinking of you. We all have used works from others when we would like to make a point or tell someone we care for them. Heck I have googled some peoples responses here and its an edited copy n paste. Just be happy that he did this sweet gesture. Link to comment
Jayar Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Ditto to all above... But why on EARTH would you Google a poem someone sends you?! He probably really liked that poem a lot. He thought it fit perfectly with how he felt, except of course that he doesn't LOVE you yet. And after two months?! Start wondering if you had been dating for 7 or 8 months, maybe. But my guess is that if this is how your BF is NOW, then in 7 or 8 months you won't have to wonder. Link to comment
Scout Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 He thought it fit perfectly with how he felt, except of course that he doesn't LOVE you yet. Well, just because he changed the word to "care" doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love her yet, it could just mean he was too nervous to really say that at this point in time. Link to comment
Yvette84 Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Hi, well I think I would be offended too...but actually it's good that he isn't saying the L word just to say it!! I had a guy say it once just cuz he knew it's what I wanted to hear, it hurt on the long run, so be happy that this guy is honest w/you. he doesn't want to say it until he means it!!! people fall in love at different times. Or he may love u and just think he may scare you off. by happy he sent yo a poem. thats very thoughtful Link to comment
HangingInThere Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 all you guys are right........my bestfriend just told me to cut it out! i wasnt going to approach him with it though - I was just thinking it! i guess he does and his actions tell me he really cares and perhaps love me - I guess I just want to hear him say it! Actually last night, we were talking about stuff in the relationship - very good conversation...and I asked him how can he want to do certain things with me and tell me he wants to spend eternity with me?! I mean to know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, shouldnt you have to LOVE them to even fathom those thoughts? he replied that we are not in love with each other and obviously that is going to come. Link to comment
Scout Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Hmmm, well him saying already he wants to spend eternity with you without having said "I love you" yet strikes me as the odd note here, not the issue of the poem. Link to comment
Beec Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 HangingInThere, you complaining about this quite frankly seems like someone stumbling upon a wad of hundred-dollar bills and complaing that they are dirty. Grab this man and show him some real appreciation for what he did do, kiss him so he feels like you are about to suck the breath out of him. Show him some passion. And then, maybe you'll hear that "L" word soon. Complain, and you may see nothing of him but his elbows and his behind heading in the other direction. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 there you go, beec said it Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 It sounds to me that he is just afraid of scaring you away with the "LOVE" word. It's only been 2 months. It was a nice of him to send you the poem. Don't read into it too much. BellaDonna Link to comment
HangingInThere Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 we are very affectionate towards each other - we are not lacking in that department! I just called him and told him how much adore him and he said it back - I could just tell he was smiling with glee....yesterday he also sent me a text saying he miss me, wants to hug me, kiss me, touch me, smell me, just be with me and we just saw each other on Saturday - very very sweet....and my freaking side took the romance out of the text and said sumtin raunchy and sexual (he like that tho) perhaps i am just so eager to hear the L word. but in hindsight, there were a few relationship(s) were that word was thrown around like it was going out of style and look where me and them ended up?! So i guess it really is refreshing knowing that he is taking his time with it and not just throwing it around like that, same for me! Link to comment
colors Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I just looked it up on the internet too. I found 3 versions. 1) the day I stop caring for you 2) the day I stop missing you 3) the day I stop loving you Personally i think he choose the perfect version! It was honest, sincere & sweet..I like it (: being eager to hear the word love is fine (: but remember he's being wise not to promise something he can't give yet. Saying I love YOu, is one things...promising to NEVER stop loving you is a promise forever. So be thankful he's being sincere & true to his word. When the time is right, you know it will be from his heart (: Link to comment
jimthzz Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 google it again. I even found this variation I dropped a tear in the ocean, the day you find it is the day I will stop missing you. He may not have even seen it the way you saw it with "love" used as the operative word. Link to comment
vermilion Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Probably he worried saying he loved you would freak you out. And most guys don't send girls poetry so I don't think you have anything to worry about. I like that poem. Nice and short. Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 He's just edited it because 2 months IS soon to say *I love you*. It's a purely sweet thought...why dissect it? Ya is overanalysing. Link to comment
rightfromthestart Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 the cell phone was my first and last cell phone! Link to comment
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