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  1. If you have tried everything, but hurting her, I do not know what to tell you. Hang in there, and I hope it gets better.
  2. That sounds very good. It also sounds like this attitude of you doing what you want to do is maybe somehow working to make her want to do IT with you. Do what works, do what works for you, and if you can do what works on her. Good luck.
  3. Orlander, You had a good date, with a woman you are not too sure about. it was good enough that you want a second one, but not so good that you think there is a real future. In addition to that, she is out of a recent relationship, and you could be putting yourself in the position to be a rebound guy. Either way, don't look for too much until you are sure you want it, and keep seeing her, maybe less frequently, until you know one way or another. This sounds to me like a good situation for some infrequent dating, and nothing serious. And when soemthing worth being serious comes along, go with that one.
  4. If she is going to move back home, the one thing you will need to be able to do is trust that the insanity is over. She is going to have to prove that over time. So letting her right back in should not be an option. When relationships go south, they need to be rebuilt. You don't just jump in at the point where things went bad. You must back up and get thigns right that have already been gotten right. the more things went wrong, the closer you go to the beginning. If you want to date her a bit, you can try, but she should not move back in until you can really trust her to be the woman you want in your life.
  5. I very with Hope on the why are you still there comments? If she is still doing what she was doing, then she's still kind of walking all over you. That needs to end. It's fine to be agreeing and doing as she wants when you first find things getting out of control, but it needs to end.
  6. Life is good.... That's a good outlook to have. Seems also like you are probably getting some help in trying not to be bitter. Good luck.
  7. Good question. Crushed, life has changed for you. I wish you luck in you changing your life into what youwould like it to be. Try to heal as mucha s you can and not to get too cynical.
  8. Well, except for possibly calling you less, if I was asked to tell him what to do in order to get back with you, I would tell him to do what he is doing. I would tell him (AND YOU for that matter) that trying to move on and date others is not mutually exclusive with trying to get back togehter with an ex. Not at this time, you're probbaly not ready to date, but working toward moving on helps you move on. Doing the things that you would do if you were moving on, helps you get over someone. And it also may attract them to come back. Ironic. Sorry, but that's about all the help I have with regard to what you wrote. Other than to keep busy to keep your mind occupied. Hang in there, it will get better. It takes time.
  9. It seems to me like you have met a guy who has an awful lot on his plate, and he just does not have the time and energy to date, anyone we'd hope. I think keeping contact with him from time to time, not every week, but space it out more, would be a decent idea, but otherwise, I like the plant o let him initiate, and to continue seeing others.
  10. I think that if you still want to try, one of the best ideas I read that was suggested was to move out and only date him, to see how things go. Dating is an investigation, and if you want to investigate to see if he can change, then make sure you are not in a position that would allow you to become stuck or abused. His behavior bordered on that at least. Don't put you at risk.
  11. First, yes, people can change. But any change in this regrd will probably require time and effort. A simple 12 week anger management course won't cure him. It could give him what he needs to cure himself, but he will need to put in effort over a couple years probably. Whether you continue with him or let him try or not, that's your call. Your clothes folded or not should not be that much of threat to his life. This seems like a guy with control issues. Your clothes being in a heap should not bother him, unless it effects him in some way I don't get. If anything is out of place at all, then he feels out of control. Don't be controlled whatever you decide to do.
  12. I have never been bothered by a woman's period during sex. Sex with a little mess or no sex is a simple choice. If I feel like having sex, then the mess is not an issue, ohter than to contain it. A towel beneath contains it, in my experience. I would also say that many women are self-conscious or uncomfortable about having sex at that time. And some expect men to want to stay away. It have also been my experience that a woman is often very happy when the man is not one who wants to stay away from sex during those times.
  13. Yes, seen it a few times, hgeard about it more often, and it will never get better, so long as you keep trying what you have been trying. The person who keeps you on eggshells all the time, gets you addicted very much like they are a drug. At first things are good, but then the problems start. There are times when things are great and you feel an emotional high. But then, the find ways to drag you down, to mkae you feel sad, depressed, etc., and you walk on eggshells. Then, sometimes, they are seeming without rhyme or reason, nice, sweet, and you feel an emotional high again. And the lower they drive you down, the higher the highs feels. And those highs can be very addicting. The first thing to do is recognize it. The second thing to do is think about how you are goign to break your addiction. Dump and run, or try to change things?
  14. It may jsut be that she lost interest, and why may be that you waited too long to bust a move. You should spend some time reading about and trying to figure out dating.
  15. Well, you seem a bit depressed from the break up if your lvoe of skateboarding has gone missing. But, you should give her some space, and time, and see what happens. So, take a break form contact, or you will be forcing you on her, and that will not be good. And keep yourself busy and mind of of her and the break up, and go skateboard soon.
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