Found out that he has two Whatsapp accounts but he denied it

[Sylvia Florence]

We have been in a relationship for 5years he has cheated twice though in his cheating no sex was involved that was 2years ago . Lately have just found out that he has two Whatsapp accounts i tried to ask him politely he denied it,i sent him screenshots and still he denied then after he started to tell me childish lies about it.My worry is why would he have a second Whatsapp account and he hides it, it's not that i go through his phone. Him telling me the fact that he really has it wouldn't be a big deal as it is now that he denied it.its funny how i blocked him on his main Whatsapp account and he had to text me through the other account which he denied 

[poorlittlefish]

So I'm guessing this means your boyfriend has two phones?  He's cheated on you twice, which involves lies and deception (and I'd be suspicious of his no sex claim).  Now, assuming your evidence is watertight, he's lying to you again and his reason for having two phones/WhatsApps is more than likely so he can get away with more shady behaviour.  I don't understand why you didn't finish with him after the first bout of cheating.  He seems to be doing it again, just being more clever about it.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, Sylvia Florence said:

We have been in a relationship for 5years he has cheated twice though in his cheating no sex was involved that was 2years ago . Lately have just found out that he has two Whatsapp accounts 

Sorry this is happening. Do you live together? How old is he? What were the other cheating episodes about?  How did you find out about the other accounts? 

[Kwothe28]

If you know that he cheated twice before and ask what is he doing with 2 phones, I am afraid you are either

a) too guilable

b) so hard in denial that even if you catch him in the act you would refuse to believe it

He cheated 2 times as far as you know it and is still hiding stuff from you. What do you think he needs 2 phones for but to hide his tracks from you? Liars and cheaters stay liars and cheaters. You cant expect them to change. Oh and you asked about 2 phones thing when you dont look at his phone. Well, due to hiding things, lots of them develop paranoid state of mind. Where they think somebody would look at their phone. Also, if you dont look at his phones, doesnt mean his other girlfriend doesnt lol

[Andrina]

7 hours ago, Sylvia Florence said:

he has cheated twice though in his cheating no sex was involved

Would you ever do this yourself? If not, why not? Whatever your answer is, this is what he is lacking.

Your self esteem is in the gutter. It's why you've given chance upon chance, assuming a person's ethics will change. That rarely happens.

[Sylvia Florence]

4 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this is happening. Do you live together? How old is he? What were the other cheating episodes about?  How did you find out about the other accounts? 

He's 31years old,we were staying together but it's been 5months since he travelled.The first year i caught him cheating it was with the girl who was far from where we were (different country) after 3years i caught his messages again this time around with a girl near (same country)it was through the messages i found out that the relationship wasn't that old and they hadn't had sxx yet ,he pleaded and called the girl in my presence and called it a quit,he even blocked her contacts. İ found out about the other account just after saving his number (he had shared the number before when it was still new and the reason he shared it was because it's what he wanted to use to open up a new bank account ) after finding about the new Whatsapp account and after seeing the last seen (was online 30mins ago) i asked him politely and he denied it , he said maybe someone else is using that Whatsapp but not him because he has never opened any other Whatsapp (which was a lie he admitted but after explaining with lies for a full night even after sending him proof of screenshots at first)

[smackie9]

Tip: getting caught cheating/lying doesn't make them stop...they just go out of their way to hide it more. He never stopped. He's a serial cheater. You can bust him and waggle your finger at him all you want, still won't change him.

[MissCanuck]

Why exactly are you still with this man? 

It's time to get rid of him. For good. He hasn't changed. He just got better at hiding it from you - until now. 

 

[reinventmyself]

a person with self respect would have walked out a long time ago.  If you don't respect yourself, he surely won't. 

you don't leave therefore there are no consequences.  You've pretty much let him know that he can continue to do things and you don't have the guts to do anything about it.  Therefore, you shouldn't be surprised it continues.

why exactly do you stay with someone who has repeatedly proven that he is not to be trusted and has no respect for you or the relationship?

[catfeeder]

Hello Sylvia, I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't see any questions asked of us, so are you just venting?

How would you like us to help?

[Wiseman2]

5 hours ago, Sylvia Florence said:

.The first year i caught him cheating it was with the girl who was far from where we were after 3years i caught his messages again this time around with a girl near , he said maybe someone else is using that Whatsapp but not him .

Please reconsider the relationship especially if you don't live together. There's no reason for playing cat and mouse games policing his phone and lies. Unfortunately you already know he likes to play around and takes you for a fool with his lies and phone games. 

[NighttimeNightmare]

Read “leave a cheater, gain a life” if you actually want to be free of this nonsense. You have the power to wake up and end this, if you won’t, well.. you signed up for the train wreck. 

[arjumand]

You realize that you caught him twice. He has done this dozens of times. And it wasn’t just virtual.