Nebraskagirl14 Posted September 2, 2019 Share Posted September 2, 2019 Hi, all- It’s a long story really, but simple. I have a friend that really wanted me to take her to a musical that is coming to town. I told her a long time ago that I would take her when it’s back in Lincoln. Now, it’s coming back to Lincoln, but our friendship has just been tepid. She has blown me off several times and just doesn’t really make an effort in the friendship. I decided that I wanted to maybe stop trying and putting in all of the effort and I also decided that I was going to take another friend to this musical. The first friend and I hadn’t spoken for months when I made this decision. Of course, after I made this decision, she has reached out but she has never mentioned the musical which is at the end of this month. I definitely don’t want to hurt her feelings but I also don’t want to go with her. I would never normally ever go back on my word. There are a couple of possible choices (and getting her a ticket to go too isn’t an option for many reasons): 1) Tell her that I’m not taking her which will absolutely result in her never speaking to me again and never forgiving me. She is majorly triggered by anyone being more “important” than her. 2) Actually, I have no idea what the other options are. If I spare her feelings and tell her that I am not going and she ends up going and sees me there, that will be dishonest and not cool of me either. Any ideas? If you want to tell me what a bad friend I am, I promise you, I have gone balls out for this friendship. I put a LOT into it and gotten very little energy in return just FYI. Link to comment
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