Life in the Driver’s Seat (extended)

[Seraphim]

6 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

Can you find another space for now like a mattress on the floor or the sofa? I hope things improve.  I feel for you.

I have slept on the couch but it isn’t that comfy. I am a tummy sleeper and I can’t sleep on my tummy on the couch because of the arm rests. 😓

[Batya33]

1 minute ago, Seraphim said:

I have slept on the couch but it isn’t that comfy. I am a tummy sleeper and I can’t sleep on my tummy on the couch because of the arm rests. 😓

Might be worth buying or borrowing an air mattress for now!

[Seraphim]

4 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

Might be worth buying or borrowing an air mattress for now!

For sure. 
She has a running commentary for every single show. 🤪

[Batya33]

1 minute ago, Seraphim said:

For sure. 
She has a running commentary for every single show. 🤪

I hope you find ways to get away for time during the day - even a simple errand. 

[Seraphim]

5 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

I hope you find ways to get away for time during the day - even a simple errand. 

It is sure hard to live with parents again after decades of …. Not . 🤪😅

[Batya33]

11 minutes ago, Seraphim said:

It is sure hard to live with parents again after decades of …. Not . 🤪😅

Oh yes -I LOVE my mom and even when we visit I get annoyed and feel guilty - hard to share a small space!

[Seraphim]

Just now, Batya33 said:

Oh yes -I LOVE my mom and even when we visit I get annoyed and feel guilty - hard to share a small space!

For sure. It is hard . 

[Seraphim]

Almost May and we are still wearing a coat . It is cold. 6 C today. 

[Seraphim]

Dear Jesus let them fix my mom’s good hearing aids tomorrow for the sake of my sanity and her hearing . 

[Batya33]

4 minutes ago, Seraphim said:

Dear Jesus let them fix my mom’s good hearing aids tomorrow for the sake of my sanity and her hearing . 

Praying for you!  I'm sorry for your frustration!

[Seraphim]

32 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

Praying for you!  I'm sorry for your frustration!

I hope mostly for her sake because she is so frustrated.  But it might stop her talking over people, the same time as people or thinking everyone is talking to her when they aren’t , also my TV is up to 60 so she can hear it and it is making my tinnitus insufferable. 

[Batya33]

10 hours ago, Seraphim said:

I hope mostly for her sake because she is so frustrated.  But it might stop her talking over people, the same time as people or thinking everyone is talking to her when they aren’t , also my TV is up to 60 so she can hear it and it is making my tinnitus insufferable. 

You are a very caring person and daughter.  I agree- and yes 60 is so loud! As I get older I am more and more sensitive to loud -and sudden-sounds.

[Seraphim]

31 minutes ago, Batya33 said:

You are a very caring person and daughter.  I agree- and yes 60 is so loud! As I get older I am more and more sensitive to loud -and sudden-sounds.

Oh my goodness I am trying to be sincerely. I know deafness is a disability , my dad was disabled as well with deafness from childhood. Combined with her inability to walk and also see due to cataracts they won’t take off yet it is frustrating for all. She also is very very very unhappy to have such limitations and refuses to accept any of it. But then again who wants to ??! 
 

 

 

 

[Seraphim]

Happy 30th anniversary to my darling husband. 🥰

[Seraphim]

Yay!!! My fridge came !!! I have been using a bar fridge since March 27th. 

[Seraphim]

Dear Jesus, I have no idea how my mom is alive after all the bumbling I have seen lately . She let herself run out of her medications ( 2) of them one of which is for her heart. She had to transfer her pharmacy to here but they don’t transfer medications that have no refills .!Needless to say it is a crap show and she is now waiting on the phone to talk to the doctor to send a prescription to the pharmacy here. 

[Jaunty]

On 4/28/2024 at 3:11 PM, Seraphim said:

I guess it is invasive too because it is 4 weeks before her new bedroom set comes and she is sleeping with me in my bed. 

You are a saint!   

[Jaunty]

I had my mother living with me at the end of her life - she had Alzheimer's.  It was ... challenging and memorable, with a whole lot of memories that my daughter and I laugh and laugh about, to the horror of some of our friends.   

Mom was a benign Alzheimer's person - if she were the violent mean type or one who needed lockdown in order to not roam and get in danger, I would not have been able to do it.

@Seraphim  - you sure are an interesting person and I really enjoy the way you write about your life.   Thank you for sharing it.

[Seraphim]

9 minutes ago, Jaunty said:

I had my mother living with me at the end of her life - she had Alzheimer's.  It was ... challenging and memorable, with a whole lot of memories that my daughter and I laugh and laugh about, to the horror of some of our friends.   

Mom was a benign Alzheimer's person - if she were the violent mean type or one who needed lockdown in order to not roam and get in danger, I would not have been able to do it.

@Seraphim  - you sure are an interesting person and I really enjoy the way you write about your life.   Thank you for sharing it.

Thank you so much . 
 

My father-in-law died of dementia and Parkinson’s. Dementia is horrible horrible . I am sorry you had to go through that. My husband’s father was violent and was kept in a hospital. 
 

I don’t believe my mom has dementia more so what I call Princess Syndrome. She had a very very hard life with my dad and did everything so when she married her last husband and he was a very competent person I think she said F it and he can handle things. It got 1000 times worse after she got mobility disabled. She is blaming moving on her pill situation. I said nope not it and you won’t be pulling this crap anymore. I have served and cooked and washed up every single meal and served it to her . Weeeellllll it takes me a long time because I can only stand a minute at a time. We would be eating next Tuesday so I tell her to go sit . 
 

She feels you have to fill silence with talking, nope you don’t , especially in public. I took her to get her hearing aids done and she says , while it is quiet and other people are waiting , “ they are taking a long time and they better not break my hearing aids I paid $5800 for those. “ of course she is loud because she is deaf as a post. I am inwardly cringing and saying , “ mom, Jesus not everyone is deaf the neighborhood can hear you and I am sure they know how to fix hearing aids.” 
 

My husband comes tomorrow for the weekend. Thank Jesus. 🤣🤪

[Seraphim]

30 minutes ago, Jaunty said:

You are a saint!   

Hahaha omg I think I will cry when her bed comes. Sleeping in the same bed with your parent is not like sleeping with your spouse. It feels like there are no boundaries and it is constant boundary invasion. 

[Seraphim]

My doctor updated my prescriptions Tuesday and I called my pharmacy and they will have them ready to pick up tomorrow for my husband to bring to me . He updated my prescriptions for a year . They also auto refill before I run out . Thank you Shoppers. 

[Seraphim]

I found a way to feel more privacy. My headphones . 

[boltnrun]

I'm unable to sleep with anything on my face, head or ears. I'm glad you're able to. Hope it works. 

[Seraphim]

32 minutes ago, boltnrun said:

I'm unable to sleep with anything on my face, head or ears. I'm glad you're able to. Hope it works. 

Hahaha no not for sleep but just to listen to YouTube and get away from my mom’s incessant chatter . 😂

She still doesn’t have her meds and she is now resorting to call a local line for local doctors to get prescriptions. I said mom what did you do before, she said my pharmacist handled everything for me. As I said old lady princess syndrome . 

[Seraphim]

She as of yet not got off her rear to even so much as get her self a cup of coffee in the morning let alone anything else. I am getting irritated so I am just not getting it anymore .