Is it too early to receive a promise ring?

[Lexievoigt]

I’ve been dating this guy for a little over 2 weeks and he told me today that he’s going to get me a promise ring for Christmas. I don’t know how to tell him he shouldn’t, because I don’t want to be rude about it. If I tell him I don’t want one he’ll think that I don’t want to be with him anymore. Anyways once Christmas comes around we’ll be dating for about 2 months. Is it too early in the relationship?

[SherrySher]

That is way way too early. Not only should you tell him but you should question why this guy is running a million miles an hour. It might seem sweet but it could be a bad sign.

[Seraphim]

Massively too early. When I was younger a promise ring meant you promised to marry. Is this what he means after 2WEEKS??? If so run like hell . That suggests unbelievable instability .

[Batya33]

Thanks so much for such a generous gift. I don’t think we’re quite ready to be that serious so can we discuss tehtvmsybe next year? If he wants to get you a gift you would like he will understand.

[MissCanuck]

That's far too early. You two have barely started dating. Even by Christmas, you'll have been together a handful of weeks.

 

I am guessing you are both rather young; is that correct?

[pippy longstocking]

Thing is .....how you feel about someone after two weeks is a far cry from how you *may* feel after 6 months . I have looked at many a boyfriend and thought " Dear god I would pay good money to feel how I felt in those first wonderful weeks you bell end "

 

So yeah it is too early and I would tread carefully because I would take it as a red flag that someone can be sooo clingy so soon .

[melancholy123]

WAY too soon. Be honest with him. Any reasonable, sensible guy will understand.

[Honeycomb8]

This guy is kinda nuts.

[ThatwasThen]

OP: If you are over the age of 12 then you should start practicing how to maintain personal boundaries and be able to communicate how you are actually feeling without becoming guilt ridden about it. Say something like: "I like you and I am enjoying our time together but its far too soon for you to be buying me a ring." Say something like that if you're going to stay with such a push-to-possess kind a guy.

[limichelle]

I know I'm more abrupt about saying no to things as I've gotten older. OP just say it's too soon if he understands great if he doesn't then major red flag and you're better off without him.

 

It's way too soon for any ring of any kind!

[Capricorn3]

Way way too soon. You guys sound very young (high school?). Just be honest and tell him he's moving way too fast. Kinda like putting the cart before the horse. You guys need time to get to know each other. Rings can enter the picture in a year or two of dating, not two weeks.