shouldiendit Posted October 18, 2017 Share Posted October 18, 2017 Let me start by saying that I am overweight. Always have been. My S.O. is and looks very healthy. She pursued me, so I never expected that my weight would be an issue seeing as I am the same from when we started dating. It’s not like I was skinny and then gained a lot of weight. We have been together almost a year and a half and recently over the past few months whenever we are in an argument, she always tries to find hurtful things to say to me. Especially the lines, “you’re lazy”, “you’re fat”, “you fat ass”.. always something pertaining to my weight. When the fight is over I always ask if my weight actually bothers her that much? Because I don’t want to be ridiculed every time she is angry. She always responds by saying, “No baby I’m sorry I was just angry, don’t every change you body. I love you just the way you are.” Which makes me feel great, until we have our next fight and she does it all over again. I had an open and honest conversation with her and told her how much the things she says hurts me and we agreed that she would try harder to be kind to me. It only continued. Anyways it started to become a habit I wasn’t able to ignore anymore. Although I know your SO should love you no matter what, but I had been saying that I’ve been wanting to get healthy for awhile. I decided to sign up for the gym and not only live healthier but also give her one less thing to pick at. She then got mad at me for trying to change myself because she “ loves me just the way I am”. I am at a loss as to what I can do on my end, I have tried communicating with her about my feelings and taken her possible issues with my weight into consideration, and using it as motivation to be healthier. What should I do? New method of communication? Just don’t let it bother me? I’m lost. Help me. Link to comment
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